Be me

Stop taking bathroom mirror selfies. Keep dates casual and nonthreatening. Learn how to flirt, be very subtle.

>Does this make me shallow if I dont want to date obese women? I get that im short (5'8) and the vast majority of women wont be interested. But I honestly would just rather be alone at this point.

No, you're not shallow. I'm the same as you - same height, average face (as rated by /soc/ on several occasions), love going to the gym and have a very decent body. Had the same experience with OLD - most of my matches were either fat, very ugly or mentally disabled.

I think guys like us would fare much better irl, based on my limited experience with meeting women organically. However, I don't have a social circle anymore, so I can't say for certain.

I try to but they often get offended if I suggest coffee or something light. Like with this one who Im supposed to meet tomorrow, I suggested lunch but she seems to want a nicer dinner. Obviously just a meal ticket but she'll probably flake anyway.

Please ask for advice or complain about your shitty life on the dedicated board, thanks.

>NOOOOO WE NEED MORE HECKIN EGIRL, TROON AND SIMP THREADS ON THIS BOARD

The #1 mistake I've seen incels make from chats posted here is over-eagerness. Incels are these bitter, depressed guys, but when they finally get a girl on the line they start texting like faggy bottoms and seem way too excited. On dating apps, cultivate an air of indifference and abundance of choice. Don't ever let the girl feel like you're counting on her meeting up with you. Encourage the perception that you have many options and she might make it through

RED FLAG You're a literal stranger, people who are attracted to you are going to be turned off by some big production.
Another tip I forgot is don't swipe right on everyone, that puts you lower in the algorithm.
100%, don't ask them on a date, ask them to come with you somewhere. "I'm going to X, want to come with?" Exploit their FOMO.

How is that a red flag specifically? Typically girls arent going to want dinner? So it sounds like I should find events like concerts or bar crawls instead?

I have 2 dates lined up this weekend (assuming they dont flake). What do I do, just show up and hope they do too? It sounds like I shouldn't send the "check in" text beforehand.

Just take a few steps back and consider who you are. You're a stranger to them, there's no emotional connection yet. Dinner is something you get with your girlfriend, not with a girl you just met online. If they have any intention beyond using you they're going to feel indebted to you, and that's nasty.

Maybe a movie, or coffee or something like that. If they're turned off by that it wasn't going to work out with them anyways.