To be selected by a decent woman, a man has to place himself as high as he can in the status hierarchy.
I work from home and live alone. I have a reasonable income and live in a nice place in a big city.
My biggest issue is that im still perceived as low status because most people don't understand my job (so they don't know how much I make), and I don't deal with people, so nobody has reference of where I stand in my job's hierarchy.
I'm ugly, and I workout. I don't have friends and my social skills are going downhill from living/working alone.
In the last few months I realized that i'm not even playing the status game, i'm outside, disenfranchised. But I know that if I don't play, I won't find a worthy female partner. I make money, I can't leave my job or the city right now, and I few cornered because of it. Help!
What are your goals? Do you see yourself as competing with other men for women? If so, you want to compete with other men in the male social heirarchy and ignore women. Men do not define themselves verse women, they define themselves vs each other. Long story short, make male friends and then lead them willingly. If you're not a fat, join a team sport.
Probably though you dont want to compete with other men (because men are competitive). In that case, you just want to be seen as valuable to women in women's eyes. The best way to do this is to buy them shit, so basically, just go on dates.
Brayden Hill
Man i just read a newsarticle that i guy i went to school with got bought out with his company for a hefty 1bn € earlier this year.
Uff….that was kind of a shock. Article full with picture of him and his business partner.
Thats an awful feeling i tell you
Justin Williams
Interesting. Ive been considering starting my own parallel hierarchy, in something im good at, just to participate in something social, and position myself well. Sports are a good idea.
Im not focused in pleasing woman, i just stated the fact that to be attractive you have to be perceived as high status
Leo Foster
Why feel jealous? I would feel happy to know someone like that. Your life circumstances were probably completely different aside from attending the same school. Comparing yourself to him is pointless.
Jose Thompson
One more thing, i dont use social media, and i feel im too lonely and my life is to boring to share my life publicly
Carson Evans
for women, to be perceived as high status, you have to be a pay pig. for men, to be perceived as high status, you have to be a leader. take your pick. paying for sex is a tale as old as tail, the female social heirarchy is materialistic, exclusively, and although fun to dabble in, is not worthy of a life's work. if you just want a woman in your life, find a woman you have desire for and then tell her what to do. most women are extremely compliant and will give you whatever you want if you tell them what to do. it sounds like this is more what you're looking for and you should try it out.
Elijah Brooks
>* i'm NOT ugly lmao, im average looks
Andrew Lopez
In your framing, women will do what you tell them if they perceive you as equal or higher status then they are.
And just to be clear, im talking about good women, not trash
Daniel Gray
>I won't find a worthy female partner A lot of the issues come down to this. Women are looking for too high a status male, but often men are also. You are going to need to look lower. Likely lower economic scale and education scale more than anything else. That waitress, fast food employee, that sort of thing.
Decent person, but otherwise 'low' status. That has been the traditional way that men found mates, but looking at lower status females and lifting them up. You don't have to compromise on character, but you probably need to compromise on economic (and protect yourself first).
Lincoln Turner
im talking about good women, and women will do what you tell them to do whether or not they perceive you as high status. for women, a man is always higher status than a woman. one fucks, the other is fucked. dont be surprised as a man that has never been fucked what a difference this is. this is ultimately why men compete against men in male heirarchies (there is no comparison).
Carson Morales
Love Coroneus. Got any other suggestions?
Bentley Davis
>im talking about good women Again, you might want to look at that definition and figure out what it really means for you. And can you really compete for that female.
boring is just presentation. You got cash, go do something not boring. Go take a hang gliding lesson, get pics. Go jump from an airplane, take pics. Go for a hike someplace scenic, take pics. Do that like one time a month or so, just suck it up. Four months later you are no longer boring.
'but why didn't you do that before' Either because you are just now starting out on the adventure of being alive (I know, gag). Or you can just say that you never took pics before and are using facebook now because you want to remember what you did.
William Watson
This is not the issue now. The main problem im trying to fix is that I'm not able to express my status in the setup that I live. So I don't feel women can judge it adequately. I need to find a way to make it visible. After it becomes visible and I'm sure they can see it, then i can make this sort of compromise you're suggesting
Jonathan Parker
>Female Goals
>Old: Select the best male >New: Attain the maximum hierarchy and then pick the best male (equal or a bit better) than you.
That's what you get when you want to be a man and also be a woman. You can't win at both.
For you OP, if you want to show status to women, you'll have to flash your wealth and join a boxing club or other group activity. I'm in the same boat as you with WFH, if I don't to activities outside of work, I won't meet anyone.
The fact that you thought out a justification for me start doing it all of a sudden made me smile.
And its true, as I said, I just realized I wasn't even playing. Im 29 and all my 20s I was preparing and making sacrifices for stuff that never happened.
"Life is the shit that happens when you're waiting for things that will never happen" Lester Fremon. This quote hitted me hard recently
Any tips in going on adventures alone?
Samuel Martinez
Start with the compromise, if you keep waiting 'until I do this' it is never going to happen. As for expressing wealth, just express it if that is what you think you need to do. Get a really nice car, something that is not practical at all. Wear designer clothes, look through those fashion magazines and talk about it here on 4chub (board for it, staffed by fags who know). Make sure your house is nice, with nice furniture etc.
And take pics of all and put on facebook 'what I did today'. The idea being that you can hand that over to a date. Heck, do an insta or whatever and do the same with short vids.
But start looking around and compromise now, if you wait until it is all ready it will never happen because it will never be 'perfect' for you. It just never is. So start trolling those cheaper places to eat because 'you like the character' and hitting up those waitresses. If it doesn't work, it does not matter. It is just practice for when you are better set.
Elijah Butler
I need some info before I can give some tips what is your job which makes a lot of money but girls can't see? How old are you? Okay you have no social life and ugly, which does not help but I see more problem in >im still perceived as low status because most people don't understand my job who is perceiving you when you don't meet any people? I fully believe you saying you don't even play the game. But I don't use my job or any money related thing to fuck girls. Granted I'm not ugly which makes this whole thing much easier because you really don't have to. I fucked girls with literary down to 30€ on my card. this doesn't really matter - but yes sometimes it does. On scale of 1-10 how long are willing to go?
Samuel Edwards
>29 ah okay >On scale of 1-10 how long are willing to go? I meant how low
Carson Hughes
It's all about money my friend.
So look up some of those 'influencer' chicks, maybe there are guys I don't know. Model some of the stuff they do that makes sense. Girls are watching them and living through them. So if you are living a touch of that life, guess who is going to want to live it with you.
Just start googling things like 'ten cool adventures' or some something like that. 'Cheap exciting vacations' if you are more like me. Heck, stupid kids stuff can look like fun. Go to a gokart racing track, get some pics of you racing around and you laughing afterwords. On the outside that is going to be 'man, that looks cool and fun'.
And the thing is, along the way, you might just discover life.
Ryder Ward
>I have success and a fefail won't steal it >This is a problem The absolute STATE of simpanzees!
Ryder Sullivan
Just to put it into perspective. Back in my later twenties (I'm GenX) I had gotten big into getting into shape. As part of that I was trying to motivate myself with 'cool things'. So I would show up to work (shitty hour job, lowest guy there - honestly) with all of these hiking, camping, travel adventure magazines. I wasn't doing it to display, I was just reading them as motivation during lunch etc. Guess who kept coming up to short low pay me and talking about 'how cool it is you do that stuff'?
Buy those mags and do some of that.
Leo Ortiz
all you have to do is buy nice outfits and an expensive watch. show them your worth.
Isaac Reed
its that simple. forget about all the bullshit above dont even read it^^