>be me
>friend invites me to get together with friends
>says there's gonna be no females
>ok_then.jpeg
>I arrive
>everyone is with their girlfriends
>can't drink because medication
>everyone has a blast
>i'm just sitting there, silently
>most awkward experience of my life
why
What medication? Antibiotics? Pussy
Why what? You had an opportunity to mingle and blew it. Don't tell me you need alcohol to talk to someone.
Antidepressant, and fuck you faggot
What can I say, i'm awkward as fuck.
listen dude, socialising is a skill like any other. Unless you are one of those people who are naturally gifted at it, It takes research and practice to get it right.
Ideally your friends would have helped you out, but that is also the bitch option. Stop being a little bitch and help yourself, learn, practice, stop being so afraid of making a mistake that you don't even try.
Can't blame everyone else for your weakness, but i'm 100% sure you will try to.
>Ideally your friends would have helped you out, but that is also the bitch option
I couldn't disagree with you anymore
of course you do, because you are a bitch.
a strong person doesn't rely on others to get what they need from life. Sure, having others help you is always nice, but if you can't do anything for yourself, why would anyone want to do anything for you? Nobody wants a pathetic leech. So, stop being a little bitch and take control of your life, stop hiding in the corner, stop making excuses for why you couldn't do something.
Come up for reasons why you SHOULD do something instead. Until you find that mentality, you will be on antidepressants forever. SSRIs aren't the solution dude, they are a tool to help prop you up while you learn the skills you need to STOP BEING A LITTLE BITCH.
Yeah, i'm know i'm the one at fault here. They know i'm awkward and still invited me. They did try and talk to me here and there but, you know. Now they won't invite me anymore but it's cool. Socialising is a skill, I agree. I just don't get too many chances to practice it. But i'm trying.
I get it, but nah. I don't know
yeah dude, they were giving you an opportunity. You are the one who wasted it.
Listen dude, I know you feel like you have all the time in the world to fix this shit, but trust me, you do not. You have to actually put some effort in, be willing to fuck up occasionally, otherwise you will just stagnate, and before you know it you will be 40 and still can't have a conversation with people.
If its something that really worries you, talk to your friends about it, it seems like they care enough to keep trying to keep you involved, but if you don't start trying, those invites will start to dry up.
>Antidepressants
Why... Just why the fuck???
Having people help you with your weakness is not being a bitch, that's a really toxic mentality to have among your friends. If he was isolated I would agree with you as he should do things himself as he has no choice. I had a friend who never really went to the gym and wasn't sure how to use the equipment. Not once did I think he's a bitch, he's a brother and we're meant to elevate those close to us.
That's what men should do with their friends help them becoming better.
This guy obviously has an "I've given up" mentality, that's what makes him a little bitch.
And as for being toxic, that isn't I'm trying to be, just trying to instill a bit of self reliance in this guy.
Look at it this way, if you have a friend who is ALWAYS a downer, and never tries to do anything for himself, always complains that shit is unfair whenever you try to do something together, how long are you going to keep trying to spend time with them?
Be completely honest here, no matter how altruistic you think you are, nobody has an infinite capacity for trying to lift a loser up. Eventually you are going to get tired of trying to help someone who isn't trying to help themselves.
And people ask me why I don't want/have any friends
(It's because no one likes me)
I completely agree with your last post, but I still disagree with you saying it's the bitch option. I'm all for becoming independent and self reliant but having your friends help you with a deficiency of yours isn't being a bitch. I'm not saying you have to hold their hand forever but enough for them to possibly hold their own or have a bit of confidence (in whatever activity) is not wrong. Like I said this idea you having your friends (friends being the key word) sink or swim without at least trying to teach them is toxic.
Ok man, let me explain what I meant before
It would have been nice if his friends helped him out to socialize, as that is what friends should do. But nobody is perfect, and maybe they don't realise how much help this guy needs.
Instead of trying on his own, or asking for more help from his friends, he just went and hid away, like a coward. The moral is, if you aren't willing to make the smallest effort on your own, nobody is going to even try to help you.
Asking for help doesn't make you a little bitch, hiding away from your problems and then blaming everyone else for them DOES.
Also, you're really vilifying the person in this situation which would warrant your reaction. I don't necessarily see OP like this, but a dude who's just not good in this particular area. He can't be that bad a guy if they invited him out after all.
sigh, I'm gonna give it to you straight man, I was trying to be the slap of truth in the face this guy needs to get moving, because no matter how much therapy or drugs you have, eventually it all comes down to you to make the effort.
And trying to make excuses for being weak just invites more weakness. This guy KNOWS he is being weak, and people like that just need a fucking shove.
But hey, lets all be happy and just let everyone be and say that no problem is your fault and there is nothing you can personally do about it, that is definitely the way to help people get better.
Again I agree with a lot of what you say man. We are probably pretty similar in how we view things in life I general, I just can't stand the idea of my friends struggling and me having the thoughts of them being a bitch (given it's something reasonable). I honestly don't think I can be convinced of that because as I said, you're friends should also be there to make you better. I really want to emphasize that it's not them latching onto you and you having to do everything for them, but help getting them started.
As far as the moral of your story, I agree with you on that and sometimes it could be as simple as admitting you need help.
>But hey, lets all be happy and just let everyone be and say that no problem is your fault and there is nothing you can personally do about it, that is definitely the way to help people get better.
I'm not saying that at all man, I do believe people can help themselves and by taking responsibility you are able to take action. My problem was simply making a man seem pathetic for looking for help from those he calls friends.
this guy's friends obviously didnt help him when he needed it. It was clear in the story. So instead of feeling sorry for himself and hiding away, he should make a fucking effort.
It would be amazing if everyone had a friend like you who would help no matter what, but ultimately everyone is responsible for their own happiness.
again, it was supposed to be a slap in the face. If you want to motivate people you have to appeal to their baser emotions. For men PRIDE is a very big one, even for those who think they don't have any. Quite often the reason they don't try is because they are afraid of losing face by looking like a fool for trying.
You have to convince them that they look like more of a fool for NOT trying.
I'm of the opinion that OP didn't miss anything.
>he was by himself
>every other female there was spoken for
>willing to bet the other guys there had little interest in talking to him
>if any of them did, it was out of politesse
>self-identifying as "awkward as fuck" is a good indication that if he HAD tried to socialize, he would have gotten the Eliot Rodger treatment
>with all this in mind, what incentive did OP have to extend himself?
Not to mention he was set up by the invite saying there wouldn't be any females, and there clearly were females there.
OP, don't worry about socializing. If it doesn't come naturally & you're having issues learning how to do it, just stop. Worry about yourself, focus on yourself, do the things & go to the places that make YOU happy & who gives a shit about anyone else?
Ironically, doing the above will raise your confidence level, which will attract females. You don't need to go seek out "socializing situations". You need to focus on yourself, and if anything else arises out of that ambition, so be it.
On top of all that, pussy is overrated as hell and not worth the trouble. Of course, if you're still young, you won't really "get" that, but in time you will.
But you can live life perfectly well without it. Remember, one can be alone and not be lonely.
nah man, when you are young, pussy IS worth the trouble. it only becomes less worth it as you get older, get more pussy, and get less interested.