When things don't work out with a girl, so you have to leave behind your community, work...

>when things don't work out with a girl, so you have to leave behind your community, work, even your friends just to have a shot at moving on

I hate when this happens.

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earlier this year, shortly after my ex and i ended it she decided to tell all our mutual friends (my main friend group) that i had cheated, abused and manipulated her. i was broke, a couple thousand in debt (struggled to find a job so my dad lent me money) and alone. never been closer to ending it.

i dont know your situation, maybe its similar maybe its not, but you'll find someone, some people. youll feel shitty for months, but once you make a foundation of new people and connections itll get easier. go out, go to bars or events, even if it makes you uncomfortable and you may have a couple bad experiences youll realise that youre living life. now i have a bit of money, im getting promoted and i have a boyfriend (im gay now, whoops), we are together happily and i dont see it ending. theres a light at the end of the tunnel, buddy. youll get there.

my ex would antagonise me, tell me about fucking my friends before we started dating, tell stories about fucking other guys in front of other people at parties. Flirt with men and gaslight me into thinking she wasn't. Would repeat horrible things she overheard my mother said and repeat them back to me the next day. She called me up on my birthday at midnight just to tell me about HER day, asked her if she was forgetting anything "...uuuuhhhh...nope"

I'd blow up and she'd secretly run off to my group of friends sharehouse and tell them how horrible I was.

My friends invited me over to their house without her, got me on MDMA and ambushed me and told me how much of a horrible person I was while I was chemically induced to be overly empathetic.

On the comedown I started getting snippy and annoyed after hours of being interrogated and berated. I told them I didn't want to be their friend anymore. Haven't spoken to them or her since.

Fucking cunt

>i dont know your situation, maybe its similar maybe its not
Not at all. We're just embedded into each other's friend-group, and know the same people. And neither of us have any ill-reputations with them, nor do we have anything bad to say about each other. But as long as we have the same friends, I have to see her on a near-daily basis. And it just won't stop hurting as long as she's within reach. So it seems like not only do I have to cut her off, but everyone else too...

oh my god.

how long ago was this?

im glad its just that, at the very least. still like i said before, go out, make connections, but it sounds like you might still have some sort of support network. dont think that you have to cut off your friends completely - id bet theyre willing to be there for you. things will turn out alright. how long was the relationship?

lol I had the same thing happen with an ex too, she was basically a compulsive liar and any relationship we had was based on her making shit up and when it eventually started to fall apart she tried to blackmail me for money, and when I refused to give her money for her drug habits (which she'd also kept secret) she started telling everyone I was a pedo with a small dick and tried to get me fired from my job at a school, 10 years later she's apparently an ftm troon and cut her tits off after fucking 200 niggers or some shit
yeah going to take a while to slowly untangle things, people move on and I'm sure you can find another way, as long as she's not being a huge bitch about stuff you'll be ok

damn

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>10 years later she's apparently an ftm troon and cut her tits off after fucking 200 niggers or some shit
kek

>accuses you of being a pedo
>trans
need i say more?

why do you have to leave your job? do you work together? seems a bit extreme to completely uproot from your community just over a breakup. pull yourself together man. if you have any regrets or feelings of sadness fight it. trick yourself into believing you don't give a fuck, and you might end up not giving a shit for real.

I moved to Germany
Met an amazing girl
She's too beautiful. Everyone wants her.
She works at a gym. Guys hit on her 24/7

She says she's really into me. We have amazing times together.

We merge friend groups.
I'm love with her. She's always in my head. Can't find a way out.

I befriend her co-worker and find out the truth...

She lied about not having boyfriend.
She's been fucking her boss.
She fucks guys on the side.

I decide not to renew my visa.
Bye bitch.

females always lie no matter how big or small the lie, to find a real truthful girl in this day and age is almost impossible

Females lie if you are an idiot. Most guys have fragile egos so if a women tells them her ex and her had freaky sex they go "you slut!" and start crying.

Try to be nice, confident and accepting and it will make all the difference. It is OK to have principles and an opinion, but if you intimidate her or don't respect her point of view she will not be honest.

So your friends drugged you and you didn't go to the police and kicked their asses? Shameful display. I would have made them regret it.

Seriously, men that let themselves get tricked into being a personal army for some seething female are the worst.

Geez you sound pathetic. No wonder other people have zero respect for you and treat you like trash.

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Don't put yourself in stupid situations, grow the fuck up and ditch the victim mentality. You're as much responsible for your woes as the people you hate.

Oh common, stop crying you queer, this isn't reddit.

All I said is you shouldn't have let them get away with it. The other user is also right, you seem to have not enough self respect and fail to set boundaries.

You can still become a better person. Call those guy from your story (one by one) and call them out. Tell them they were tricked by your crazy ex, they were useful idiots and you had nightmares for weeks. Tell them they were assholes and then hang up.

he got himself out of the situation. people don't just put themselves in these kinds of situations to be funny, obviously. im all for self improvement but blaming yourself for someone lying about you is NOT your own fault

You blame yourself for being a bad judge of character and putting trust and faith in the wrong people who were very clearly the wrong people.

“It is better to be alone, than to be in bad company.”