if anyone of you has gotten out of a situation similar to this, let me know
> young man > phone drier than the mojave, all my friends aren't really friends > like surface level friends, never gotten too emotionally connected or close with any of them > no BEST friends, y'know? > goes without saying no qts in my life either > it's important to note i'm not hopeless > solid 7/10 on a good day, very fit, interesting hobbies and big dreams > just unlucky > friends don't hangout with me, no consistent invites > everybody avoids my invites (i've tried many times, in as little of an annoying way as possible, trust) > nobody falls into my life > doomscrolling every day on snap and insta, no chats, texts, or dms > reach out to others with similar career goals > no feedback or friends there either
i spent a long time as a lonely person and now i've finally gotten my life together. i found real talent in myself and made myself as attractive as i can, too. i'm a positive person, i love my friends, even if it's not really a 2-way thing, and i work towards my dreams a lot. i take care of myself
that brings me to all of you what do i do now? i did everything i was supposed to, right? so why hasn't anything changed? > still lonely, friendless, loveless > losing motivation for work
it's not looking good, bros. i've reached the end of my wits, which is why i'm on Any Forums. anybody got any advice?
i'm pretty neurotic and insecure, but i do a good job of hiding that. it's also hard to know for sure since you're hearing it from me, but i don't think that's it. whenever i'm out and about with acquaintances, i'm wanted in the moment, and enjoyed socially. it's always the followup that's bad. but i'm definitely going to reconsider now
James Perez
You sound like a boring fuck, noone gives a shit about your skills or dreams. Think about others, better your surroundings, teach some kid to read or plant some flowers at the local park. That's what counts.
i live in a car-based infrastructure city, so local community searching is a hellscape i've tried many times for. but you're right. i'm gonna look harder and i never really thought about charity/work. soup kitchens, churches, libraries, community gardens, is all new. thank you, man, i'll see if it's in my city. actually really smart, i feel dumb for not realizing earlier
Liam Richardson
Your life isn't together if you feel lonely when you're alone.
Julian Green
i get vying for self-actualization and being content when alone, and i'm an introvert and all -- i'm happy when alone, sure. it's the 24/7, 365, alone-ness
Ayden Stewart
Again, you aren't fully understanding something if, by the end of it, you feel as though need a break from it. Pain comes from resistance. That's all it is.
Aiden Taylor
so how do i apply that principle to this? won't that be unhealthy? just to be alone until i'm content being totally alone, like forever? i'd blow my brains out, dude
Tyler Nguyen
dude if literally everyone in your life avoids you, the common problem has to be you. Do some self relection, I can tell you could use it Try asking someone their opinion on why noone seems to want to be around you. I;m no normalfag, but not even I have this problem. Got instagram on a whim and messaged a chick i hooked up with in uni a decade ago and she replied and were gonna get coffee and catch up sometime.
Bentley Thompson
What you want (in essence) is to be something worth being around. The thing about it though is that the thing worth being around isn't an objective ideal- it's the act of true being itself.
You can kinda vet your progress by the level at which you are satisfied and content when you are simply being. It's by far the hardest thing to do in the world because of everything it implies.
Camden Cruz
samefag here, fogot to add, your post is dripping of vauge narcisissm. you referance all these hobbies, dreams and ambitions, but didnt list a single one, or your job. A good tip is to go on camsites and chat with camwhores. Learn how to flirt with women in a low risk setting can help. spankbang has a cam portion of its site that is really good
Caleb Powell
ig you're right, there's a decent chance it really is me. disappointing after all the introspection and character development, i thought i changed enuf, but if it needs to be more then that's what it is. i'll add it to the list
Owen Jones
didn't think about the cam thing, i'll try that. sorry for the vagueness, i was actually trying NOT to come across as narcissistic. I didn't wanna take up too much time talking about dreams or hobbies or whatever, cus i thought it was irrelevant.
William Gutierrez
you could just mention you wanna own a spaghetti restaurant and you like movies, theres no point in bringing that sort of thing up unless its relevant/develops the conversation
Cooper Morales
Believe me, friends are not going to prevent you from wanting to blow your brains out. And the fact that you cant see how unhealthy it is to have that as the root motive for wanting them in the first place should be enough to completely devalue whatever perspective it is that you have on mental health in the first place.
The only thing surrounding yourself with other people will do for you is convince you of something you are perfectly capable of convincing yourself(that is, nothing is wrong, nor was it ever).
So long as you are willing to use personal honesty as your only metric for life, you will never go down the wrong road.
And sorry for the fragmented wisdom, im playing Siege rn so im kinda back and forth.
Joshua Walker
Why not go to /adv/ you’re interrupting my constant stream of porn threads
Elijah Green
no you're right, but i also misconstrued myself. my 'root motive' is to be successful in entertainment, to create things for people to enjoy so they don't feel as lonely as i have, even if it's temporary. friends would just help - more introspection on the way though, thank you
You lost the game. Sorry. The only way to win is not to play.
Jaxon Murphy
And as far as application, that's completely up to you. You should spend a portion of life living with no assumptions and no rules, and then only rebuilding rules that make sense to you. If the rules should exist, then they should be self evident throughout the world- void of outside influence as that would be how you know its true.
For example, here are a few of mine: >Never want something you cant have right now. >Never commit to a construct that you (yourself) can't deconstruct in under 5 minutes. >No one has anymore of a right to truth than anyone else (and that works in both directions). >No one is any smarter than you.
(I have more but i wont lay them all out)
You don't know what's influencing other peoples perspectives on life, and if their actions are going to convince you of something, then why not cut out the middle man until you know EXACTLY why you want the middle man. The goal is to isolate the variables as much as possible so as to be able to understand, not just how you work, but how everybody works. Look for the underlying mechanics which allow for the individuality of all people. And don't stop until your understanding can be applied anywhere, at anytime, at any scale.
Ian Brooks
Oh boy, I didnt know zombieland dude posted here! hows woody? Why did you forget to number your rules?
