>25 yo
>dad sits me down to have a talk about my future, where I am headed in life
>asks me about goals, grandchildren
>tell him I'm sorry and that I'm doing my best
>says he believes me
>he's not disappointed with me, but with himself
>apologize again and try to suppress tears
I'm sorry I'm being such a loser, dad. I really am doing my best. Fuck, why does life have to be so shitty sometimes, Any Forums?
its not ez. to be successful, you need to constantly go outside your comfort zone. just the way it is. do that.
i haven't dissapointed my dad to much
but it might get worse if i don't do anything soon
are you doing anything to better yourself OP?
I really hate disappointing my parents, bro. I really am trying, busting out job applications to get to a better place financially, shit, I don't even have a care yet, just a shitty entry level job.
Trying to buy a home, getting fucked with the prices the last 2 years (after graduation).
Asking girls out is my biggest weakness - it takes so much energy to bring myself to ask a girl out, and then she makes some excuse that she's busy. I tell myself I need to get X or Y first, to feel more comfortable, and the cycle starts again... I just want to get a break for once.
Sounds like you've got a good dad.
If you really feel like you're trying your best, but it's not getting you where you want to be, it may be time to start changing your approach. You don't have to change everything about your life all at once, but is right that you have to step outside your comfort zone and challenge yourself. It's really easy to fall into a comfortable rut.
>goals
>grandchildren
My problem with the "list of things you're supposed to want" has never been that the items on the list are bad. There is nothing wrong with the list. The problem with the list has always been that it's someone else's list. I can't dance to anyone else's theme song but mine.
keep pumping out those job applications, in the end someone will accept you, ignore women for now. Wait until you've fixed yourself first
>I can't dance to anyone else's theme song but mine.
well, unless you are independently wealthy, or ok with being destitute, you are going to have to make some compromises.
im 28 and dont have a job and i hate my life
why dont u have a job? what stopping you?
Any job that allows me to not die of starvation while doing what I want is good enough.
>while doing what I want
what do you mean by this?
I am 29 and have worked for 10 years, dont be sad for not having a job instead try to surround yourself with people you enjoy spending time with even if it would be other unemployed people.
> I really am doing my best.
Doubtful, very few do.
shit, user, get it together... I guess I would start at the best place I can if I were you... I know it's tough, brother. The slow, pathetic grind is fine with me, honestly, but it's really painful when you disappoint your parents...
I honestly think this is bad advice, user, running away from responsibility and burying your head in the sand like an ostrich. He does need a job and good friends that will bring out the good in him.
idk about this advice. friends fade away, especially as you get into your 30s.
yea, even those that are somewhat successful for the most part COULD be doing more. I am 100% in this category. dont beat your self up. took me YEARS to get over that.
you post frogs
no wonder you're a fucking loser
my dad doesn't show his emotions much.... but i do think he rthinks of me as a loser (sorry about the mistakes i'm drunk....) i feel ya ohpee
20s are pretty hard user, your brain is still growing and you have very little life experience
Just try to set some goals they don't have to be huge ones, your dad just wants you to grow and be happy not be a millionaire.
WTF kinda narcissistic white dad shit is that? If he has a problem with you, then why pull this passive-aggressive guilt trip? I guess you'd better sick his duck before he kicks out next lol
probably also get off his tit as well. a failure to launch kid can be a pretty brutal burden. those people also make up an astronomically high percentage of both mass shooters and trannies.
I mean I'm over 40 and it wasn't until I was 35 that I realized I was spending the only life I have working a god damn cubicle job that drained the fucking life out of me. It took me until 30 to figure out I hate my GF, I fucking hate the friends I had back then, I hate everything my life is. So I quit it. All of it. Carte blanc. Now I am poor as a fucking rat. But I am happy. I know what I want tot do, and I do it everyday, And I know it will never make me rich or famous or anything. But when I die, when I finally succumb to the poverty I know my life will have only been filled with what I am passionate about, and nothing else.
Yea really, family are the only ones who stick by you your entire life. Best to create one or end up pretty lonely in your 40s and later.
At 25 a lot of kids are still struggling user, he's still got time to figure shit out
35 y.o here. My dad never in my life spoke to me about anything serious. He pretty much never spoke to me at all. Just shouted at me few times and made stupid jokes about me when I was a teen. During my whole life he only played with me soccer once for about an hour when I was 12.
I envy your dad. Try to get your life together for him.
Sweet summer child... hope you learn one day that blood doesn't mean shit, family is made...
Lmao he disappointed he didn’t pull out
>I really am doing my best.
And as long as you're doing that, you'll be fine, user.
Keep going user, nothing will change if you don't try
hfw - he did not pull out
I really believe he just wanted to help me.
I don't live at home, I'm renting.
i am not "on his tit", I am renting and supporting myself. It's just that I've boxed myself in at some point and I can't move forward in life.
Put in apps for literally anything. Don't listen to niggers who says that working at mcdonald's is a bad job, a job > no job.
Also you can check job sites like indeed.
So use them. They'll fade away anyway right? Might as well take that positive company while you can, try to find a job don't take one just for money you'll end up hating it feeling negative and then other things in your life will be affected. Keep pushing and take as much positivity as you can get while trying to reflect that positive energy inside yourself. Feeling bad isn't paying you or making you feel better in the long run. Get out of your head hang out with someone, or talk in discord if you don't have homies. Job places are ass and half the time the fat bitch whose job it is to check applications on the computer is fuckin off on her phone on TikTok. So dog blame yourself. If your looking then your motivated use that to guide your mind to the money. From what I've learned it's better to focus on finances first before trying to find a serious relationship. If you can date on the side or whatever while working fine but pussy is not worth the mental stress and depression of loosing out on a chick that you like because she finds a dude with a better paycheck. It's not worth the adding to the stress all that does is fuck with your head. Tldr: focus on staying positive and keep trying. Money before hoes always boys. Never smoke all your weed with other people, you get home later alone and will want to smoke again.
Start small with your changes, limit screen time, go for walks, wake up as early as you can, try not to stay up past 12, shower daily and make your bed every morning.
Try to fail at something but don't let that bother you.
I wish you all luck!
Are you stupid? I literally said make your own family. Holy fuck user
Don't*