-37 year old.
-High-end technical job.
-Live in a nice house, everything is fine... but..
My father, and grandfather were alcoholics.. got abused by "dad" a lot. So .. never drank until i was 27 y-o.
Now.. 37 and never skipped one day since. 3L every day, 10 years straight..
I'm literally scared of stopping, but i want too.
(Also great sleeping-problems, so i continue to say it makes me sleep and thus makes me better at work).
What to to??
Go to church
get a high strung family, i barely drink 3-4 beers and not every day but when someone is in a bad mood they call me an alcoholic. i used to stop for a little while when they did but now i think my problem might be caring to much what they think.
See a doctor, talk to friends about your problem and get strong dude
Got 12 days sober. Used to be a big beer drinking. Never looking back never going back. You might not get much sleep the first night, but it gets easier. Good luck OP.
Not a chance user.. i'll burn.
>I'm scared.
Then be brave, you can only be brave when you're scared, skip a day, let's see how that works out for you.
Maybe you can skip two days soon, then 3 days... And so on, until you will only drink when it will bring you joy, not out of addiction or fear.
Be brave, take a chance.
Thanks man .. what do u think the best day is to stop? Sunday before work, of Friday after the work-week?
I could try a day first, that's true..
I understand.
Truth is.. father is dead, gramps offcourse.. i went from a 3 people hoisehold to 1 (me) in a year.
The only one i love, and care fotlr is my mum.
She knows everything about me, and hopes i will stop.
Problem is.. my drinking is not a problem, i just wánt to stop, before killin myself at 59 like my dad.
I wanna grow up sober, u know?
>3L every day
of what? hard liquor, beer, ipa, wine, variety? 100% you'd be dead already if you're talkin about hard liquor. all that being said,
Maybe stop being such a little bitch and put the fucking bottle down every once in a while. what are you some big fuckin baby that crawls into a bottle every time something goes wrong in his life? grow the fuck up. replace the alcohol something else, you could eat your way through the cravings or you can replace the alch with endorphins and start working out every time you feel like drinking. im guessing you're fat as fuck so you're gonna fucking hate working out and gain a bad association of having to workout when the cravings come so the cravings won't come as much. if you don't do anything to change it then it just stays the same, and its insane to expect change while doing the same thing over and over. good luck fag
btw pic related is you whining about your alcholism
I just said ok I have to stop and did so. I was a bad alcoholic. Day drinking, some times 12 beers a day. You just got to bite the bullet and find any day and do it but ween off. It took me awhile to do so, but get Indica weed gummies if thats your thing. Get out, bike, go to AA if that helps. But tell someone close about the problem and find support.
You need a reason to stop. A new hobby or a person.
I know it's hard but you should try.You will feel better.
Clean since a year.
Find another addiction to replace this one
No no no.. no hard shit.
Literally just beer.. but.. i'm 37 now..
I know how my sperm-donor fatber ended.
But his whole fucking life sucked.
I just don't wanna end up there, and be better.
And don't call me a bitch, you fucking asshole. Probably beat u up in a nanosecond.
This is the point of no return for me, that's all.
Problem is -again-.. there is no problem for me *yet*.
What do you do for work? Maybe ask for more hours, night time if possible. Get into hobbies or meet a girl.
You will get sick from it an you will regret not to stop earlier. Good Luck.
Classic.. maybe gambling, huh?
I'm not joking, it's probably more realistic than straight up quitting.
Be smarter than the addiction.
I am in research and developing of MRI scans.
I had a relationship for 16 years, and i found out the bitch was sleeping with my - 80% covered in tattoo's- friend.
I work 40 hours a week, travel 10 hours a week, and have a little business on the side.
Make around 100k a year, have nothing to whine about.
Have another pussy ever week due to my -work on the side-.
Literally .. it's just tje beer, and sleep problems.. that's all.
I hope so, thanks user.
i get it dude, it was on my mind for the last few days and this thread helped me get it off my chest.
i started drinking heavily a bit after my mom died, at my worst i was drinking a little over half a bottle a day (of course nobody said shit back then). i got tired of feeling shitty and weened myself off. i redeveloped my own self control and stopped for a few months. now i get called names because i actually enjoy drinking again without going overboard. i dont know if they're dumb or just not paying attention.
I'm sorry man.
The thing is.. i'm always the one who drives everywhere. I never drink out of the house.. i'm the "sober guy".
It's really just me at home, at night. At the job i'm doing perfect, socially i'm very likeable, and i'm very good at leveling.
It kinda looks like a dark-side of me.
I believe that.
But, i've never been drunk, so i don't get retalliations (not spelled righy, sorry).
Point is.. i don't get punished by drinking too much.
Get help. I was really bad for 15+ years but got sober in 2016. I have a similar background, software engineer. Couldn't sleep without alcohol. Drank 30 packs daily and got a 2nd oui while barred out. I'm so much better than before. I still have depression but at least it is not magnified by alcohol dependence. Good luck user. I probably wouldn't have quit without being forced into rehab but you can.