Hey Any Forums. I'm having a problem and I want advice from qualified people.
My girlfriend and I have been together for a year and 4 months now. Things have been good, no real complaints. But in the beginning of our relationship, I said that I wouldn't date a girl that had plastic surgery at all. Just wouldn't feel comfortable. She brought up how she got her breasts reduced a while ago, which, whatever. She said they hurt her back so she got them reduced. I didn't think it was a problem at all.
But just a week ago she casually dropped that she's getting liposuction. Just completely out of the blue. Never mentioned it to me at all. Never brought it up that it was going through. I don't really know what to feel. I have no idea what to do, I really don't want her to get it, but I know that if I say that it's going to be a fight and she's going to be upset. I love her, but I don't want her to get this surgery.
Suggest going to the gym togther. That fat will just come back even if she gets the surgery. She need a diet and excersise change.
Ian Green
We've already done that. She and I went to the gym but she wasn't seeing immediate results and got discouraged.
Owen Gutierrez
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Kevin Ross
This really helped me get a better understanding of my situation. Thank you so much for the contribution user
Ask her why she wants the surgery, suggest alternatives. If she doesn't want to naturally get a better body, then you have to ask yourself is that really something that you care about so much to throw away a relationship?
Leo Powell
I mean she hasn't had plastic surgery in the sense of getting a jew nose reduction or ass implants, so why is lipo a problem for you?
you need to realise what may be in her head - there might be a real long running psychological worry she has. if the gym doesn't work, find out why she feels the need.
but also, is it a big deal? maybe it's an investment now so she can be comfortable for the long term, and she'll be able to keep herself slim via the gym from now on?
idk because I pretty much just sit at home jerking my cock all day, but my two cents bro. good luck and rooting for you two
Nathan Lopez
Tell her it takes up to a year. Keep pushing her on it. Most importantly tell her shell just get fat and scars again.
David Thompson
I don't want her to start making edits to her body. I think that's it's going to be a slippery slope, where she gets lipo here, then a BBL or some shit, or whatever else afterwards. She's always been uncomfortable in her body so it is a long-running psychological problem. I realize that it may come across as me being inconsiderate of her feelings if I say that I don't want her to get it, but I'm not really comfortable with her getting any type of body modification at all.
I guess that's a good question. I don't want to lose her, she's a really good girl. But, I also don't know how to feel about it.
James Reed
>Hey Any Forums. I'm having a problem and I want advice from qualified people. Stopped reading there. Whatever your situation, you're fucked.
i mean, if she is like 300 pounds or something it could be good assuming she gets all her nutrients and is somewhat physically active. if she isn't obese there isn't a need for the risk. just go on long walks over the summer or something. I have problems with being underweight personally but that's just because of over physical activity I consume at least 2800 calories a day. gyms are very innefective at making you lose weight. i don't own a car both by choice and because i can't get a license until late july because the tests aren't available until then so i walk around 10 miles every other week for the month's food. honestly though it's your decision in order to proceed. lypo can be really expensive depending tho.
Jayden Carter
No one will believe me, but I'm actually a clinical psychologist. Whilst I don't specialise in relationships (I work for the MoD, Uniformed Clin Psych) my BSc, MSc and DClinPsych still qualify me as a BPS and HCPC acreddited clinical psych as a civilian.
If she's not mentioned it to you, she clearly knew you'd disapproved. Have you shown any negative reactions to body modification in her presence? Even a "I don't like fake tits" would be enough.
As for her wanting it; insecurities of the body can stem from schemas built up over multiple years, and are usually multifactorial in nature so, basically, are created from multiple past instances. Does she know you find her attractive? Does she have reason to suspect otherwise? Has anyone else ever hurt her regarding her physical appearance?
Oliver Rodriguez
Stand your ground ofcourse. Why the fuck are you here botching an moaning? Either stand up for what your boundaries are or be like the other fucking limp dick simps. Jesus fucking Christ!
Robert Edwards
>she clearly knew you'd disapproved Yeah I figured that much when I thought it over after she said it. It seemed really obvious. I've told her that I wouldn't date a girl that had plastic surgery and she tried pushing back at me because of it, so that probably is what it is.
>Does she know you find her attractive? Well yeah. I think she just has really low self-esteem. I don't know if there's anything I can do to help, but I always tell her that I find her really attractive, because I do.
Not sure if anyone's ever hurt her because of her physical appearance. Maybe other people in elementary to high school, but we're well past that part of our lives.
Joseph Parker
Hmm, I should have read the backstory. So yeah, you literally made a broad sweeping statement about a category which she falls into. You effectively said "I hate niggers" to a black girlfriend.
You relationship is pretty much going to be, long-term, tainted by you insultint her past decision and her future one. This is why we don't make sweeping generalisations. You have seriously damaged your relationship with her to the point that she is now uncomfortable confiding in you.
The good news is, if you're mature enough to be introspective and admit you fucked up, you can sit down and explain you didn't mean it. Tell her how minor modifications are acceptable sinfe we live in an age of high beauty demands for women, and you shouldn't have said what you did.
Or watch your relationship slowly devolve to nothingness because you, immaturely, fucked up by being closed minded enough to make a sweeping generalisation of a category your girlfriend falls into. Not so smart.
Wyatt Morgan
Sounds like he just needs to stand his ground. Stop giving him jewish advice, his girlfriend should just get fit if she wants to cut weight and he shouldn't be okay with her taking the route of body modification through surgery
Benjamin Thompson
>admit you fucked up, you can sit down and explain you didn't mean it. Tell her how minor modifications are acceptable sinfe we live in an age of high beauty demands for women, and you shouldn't have said what you did. But I don't agree with her decision, is the thing. That's the crux of the problem I'm having. I love her, and I don't want the relationship to devolve, but I don't want her to get the surgery. I think your reply is the most helpful out of everybody's here because it puts everything into a different perspective, so thank you.
>Jewish advice Made me lol
Thomas Carter
This is me.
Don't listen to retards like this who clearly don't have their own lives together. Talking like they're either physically capable or of intellect, when they know full well they are neither, but act as such through the mask of anonymity. "PMSL I MAKE EDGY JEW JOKE". What a pathetic creature. Although so are Jews, so... Irony. And now, hypocrisy, I guess.
Isaac Long
Me again.
Then leave her. She feels strongly enough to get surgery. You are either lying that this bothers you, or should be leaving her because by your own rationale you could never be with people like her. Seems you're likely afraid you won't be able to get anyone else so ignore your own, sad, moral code. I now regret giving you good advice, what a pathetic, weak, excuse of a man you are. When she eventually leaves you, it will be your fault.
Luis Young
Ok then. I'll think through everything I guess. Thanks again for the advice, and fuck you for the insult.
