33yo here

33yo here.
My parents and grandparents never call me with the exception of my mother. My mother will sometimes text me to ask how I am.
If I were to never text (I live 12 hours away from all of them) I don't think I'd ever hear from them again. If I call them then I can talk to them, everything's supposedly fine, etc. spend 2+hrs talking, but if I don't call my father, grandfather, etc they will never text or call me. It's as if they pretend they don't have a phone or know how to call all of a sudden. I see in modern media, movies, tv shows etc. that older people call their kids and the kids don't answer. I would answer in a heartbeat, and with my mother I do, but that is a rare occasion. I think I'm expected to always call, never to be called .
Is there something in the boomer generation that prevents them from calling their kids?
I've asked my parents and grandparents before why they don't call and I get the response of "well we don't want to bother you" but when I call them I can detect the undertone of "why haven't you called in so long??" My grandfather is very old, many health problems, I've called him every other week for over a year, but recently been busy and now I go a month or two without calling, he doesn't call or text.
Am I just supposed to initiate every interaction? My grandfather in particular complains to my aunt "why does no one call me" in regards to me but mostly my brother and cousins (who literally never call or visit even though they live in same county, and when I'm home I spend all my time with family). My grandfather was a trucker and so am I, and I often call him while I'm driving and talk about trucking and family. But I haven't gotten a call from him in, well, ever....
Am I fucked up here, or is it the boomers who are fucked up?
Thanks anons

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Dear Slim, I wrote you but you still ain't callin

I miss the early 2000's :(

Boo fucking hoo.

technology is ruining us

Stop being a giant bitch man

Idk people are aloof so much these days. Maybe they feel you are avoiding them by living 2 hours away

My family was like that. Then I cut all contact and started pulling up repressed memories of sexual abuse. Then it made sense why they didn't reach out.

Get on anxiety meds.
You're even anxious that you're being annoying to the people who ASK you to call them often. And when you do? You overanalyze their tone of voice to search for hints that you're bothering them, when they're actively telling YOU that they're concerned about bothering YOU.

Not only have they put you in an impossible position, they're guilting you into something you don't seem to want to do. Or if you do, you certainly whine about doing it.

So get on anxiety meds and stop reading into shit. If they want to call, they know how to pick up a fucking phone and do it themselves. And by the way, every relative over 50 says "why does no one call me?! wahhh" everytime they see you. It's because they don't know what else to say. They don't know your likes and dislikes enough to relate to you about anything else. Even though you call constantly, that doesn't mean they're actually listening to what you say. Now it's their turn to put in a little fucking effort.

What's it like being so unaware?