I’m 23 years old, and I just lost my virginity to an escort. Why? Well, I was just tired of being a virgin. On top of that, life and feelings of worthlessness got it me. I feel empty inside.
So, I met with a woman. Paid her 140 dollars for 30 minutes. She was nice. Greeted me with a hug and kiss, and we just started fucking. But in the middle of it I went soft. Ten minutes in I just didn’t feel like doing it anymore, so I just told her I was gonna go and left. No hard feelings. I told her it was on me, and that I thought she was great. She was nice about it. Gave me a hug and kiss goodbye. I left, drove around in my car for 30 minutes, got a slurpee, and went home. It really wasn’t her. I just didn’t feel like doing it anymore.
I feel empty and lonely as I did before. I’m not gay, but sex to me just didn’t do anything. It didn’t feel good or bad. It was just mediocre. All these years of anticipation and curiosity and it just didn’t do anything for me. I’m never doing anything like this again, and to be honest, I lost all desire and urge to have sex. I just feel empty.
And to clarify, we used a condom. I’m glad I did because I didn’t want something to regret later on. On her ad she listed no bareback at all. I can’t believe people risk something like that for something so mediocre. Maybe the condom made things bad? I heard it feels better without one, but I’m not doing that.
It likely didn’t feel fulfilling for you as you didn’t have a connection with this woman? If you find a woman you have a connection with and start dating etc, you’ll probably find sex a lot more enjoyable as you’ll be into it emotionally and physically, as opposed to hiring an escort and knowing there’s no emotions to it whatsoever?
I don’t think it was the condom that was the issue and you definitely don’t want to fuck a whore without one, it sounds more like you need a genuine emotional connection where you can enjoy sex together, as opposed to transactional sex knowing she has no feelings for you, and you have no feelings for her.
I hope you meet someone who deserves you in the future. Do you have friends you can talk to? Not so much about the whore, more for the loneliness aspect as it sounds like you could really use a friend
Lucas King
You can't develop an emotion connection to a escort, and paying probably feels like cheating in your subconscious. Sorry user Also, sex isn't always instantly enjoyable, it takes some work unless it happens as a teenager or you don't jerk off ever.
Grayson Miller
Condoms are an abomination, that was probably at least part of the problem. Another part is that you'd made it up to be so important, it probably didn't help that she was a prossie
Cunts are worthless. Don't pay for them, take them. Next time put a gun to her head and fuck her ass dry. Maybe her screams will do it for you.
Levi Parker
TLDR:
OP pays $140 to have a woman reveal to him that he is a fag.
Anthony Moore
if you insist on using a condom, next time dont orgasm for a full 7 days and then go see an escort again. I'm going to take a while guess that you had masturbated in the previous 24 hours? and if not that 48 hours but i would bet on 24
hold it in for 7 days and try again,
the thing with condoms is they do kind of ruin it, but if you are horny enough it wont matter, because you are going to hold it in for 7 days, remember?
Hunter Hernandez
It’s funny that you say that. There was a girl I was close with. After leaving the escort, I immediately thought of her.
I don’t have many people in my life I can go to.
Not really. She was nice, had a nice body, and she was really into the whole thing.
Lmao it only that was the case. Instead, it just made me realize how much I miss certain people and that I long to be with them.
Lincoln Foster
I got married at 23 and finally lost my virginity. I didn't enjoy sex for roughly 3 months after marriage because I sucked at it. Condoms don't help either like other anons have stated. Emotional connection would help a lot, and I am guessing not much time for foreplay with a 30 minute time limit.
Sebastian Peterson
>it just made me realize how much I miss certain people and that I long to be with them So, it was a worthwhile experience. Just maybe not in the way you expected.
Zachary Thomas
It was all basic. She gave me a blowjob, and afterwards we just started having sex. No foreplay, no connection, etc.
I don’t understand how people could just randomly have sex. It just feels empty and meaningless. Maybe there’s a silver lining in that it made me realize that there’s more to life then just sex. It sounds cheesy, but the moments I shared with others have meant more and have been more satisfying to me than fucking.
Jackson Bennett
>I don’t understand Be cautious. Do not try to extrapolate the whole of the human condition from this one experience. You will likely find that sex with someone you love is absolutely amazing. It is perhaps the ultimate "moment shared" with another. (The psychology of hook-up culture is a topic of its own that has very little to do with pleasure from the sex itself.)
Mason Smith
>I feel empty and lonely as I did before. I’m not gay, but sex to me just didn’t do anything. It didn’t feel good or bad. It was just mediocre. All these years of anticipation and curiosity and it just didn’t do anything for me. I’m never doing anything like this again, and to be honest, I lost all desire and urge to have sex. I just feel empty.
Lol, practice makes perfect, young one.
I'm 35 and when I started fucking almost two decades ago as a 19 year old nerd, I had similar thoughts. I was, after all, master level masturbator and knew the exact grip, tempo and porn to literally cum in less than 60 seconds if I wanted to.
Sex was nothing compared to this but sex has attributes that you will love, especially if you like or love the other person or they're very beautiful. What's important here is the mastery part though - you will have to fuck a lot before you even know what YOU like and before that there can be experiences of bad sex. But the good sex is out there, do NOT give up.
Keeeek loser, you've got erectile dysfunction from Porn. Warm fleshllighty progressional and you can't nut. Go see a doctor.
Nathaniel Murphy
You feel empty and lonely because early 20s are a confusing time for a person. Your brain is finishing development and many people go through big life changes during this time that affect their emotions.
Also, you’d probably enjoy sex more if it was with someone you cared about. I have fucked 50+ women and the only times I’ve really enjoyed it was when I had a connection with the person
Cheer up - work on yourself.
Isaac Russell
>Sex was nothing compared to this but sex has attributes that you will love, especially if you like or love the other person or they're very beautiful. What's important here is the mastery part though - you will have to fuck a lot before you even know what YOU like and before that there can be experiences of bad sex. But the good sex is out there, do NOT give up.
This^ There are exceptions, but those are very rare. Like guys that never masturbate. Two pump chumps have their own issues, but I'd imagine it feels good for those few seconds it last.
>I'm 35 and when I started fucking almost two decades ago as a 19 year old nerd, I had similar thoughts. I was, after all, master level masturbator and knew the exact grip, tempo and porn to literally cum in less than 60 seconds if I wanted to.
This^ was also me.
Ryan Anderson
>I lost all desire and urge to have sex Yeah, this isn't true. You just had an experience which didn't match your over-inflated expectation. But it's an important and good experience. One I wish I had. Lost my virginity at 26. But not having dome it earlier really fucked up my ability to have relationships, because as the time ticked by I was increasingly self-conscious and anxious about disappointing the woman. Finally did it with another late virgin. We figured it out together. The sex itself wasn't great, as we were both idiots. But we laughed and had fun. And it got better. A lot better. And now, I'm told I'm pretty good at it. Girls I've been with say as much ... which means nothing, because you can't believe anything a woman says ... but when they call me up and want to get together because they're in town, that kinda tells me true.
Ryder James
It's not you and you're not gay. I've never been able to keep it up with prostitutes, and i've tried several times. I've also never had any issues getting it up with girlfriends or even one night stands. I've realized I need to have some sort of an emotional connection with a girl in order to get hard. Knowing that an escort is just there for the money and gives 0 shits about me is one of the biggest turn offs. I honestly think anyone who is able to get hard to a prostitute is a psychopath.
