Hey anons, I’m almost 22 years old and am losing my mind.
I’ve got two real friends, one friend from high school who I kept in touch with and my girlfriend. After that I’m all alone barring some acquaintances and coworkers. I’m a commuter to my local state school and I feel like have nobody, especially when compared to my large friend groups in high school.
Is this a common experience or am I the odd one out?
Hey anons, I’m almost 22 years old and am losing my mind
Yea that's really fucking weird man. Do better.
Do you have any advice for like going out there and making friends? I feel trapped
you should kill yourself lets be honest here
Bro. Its not gonna get better. Your old friends are gonna move on, things change and so do people.
Your new friendships will come but they wont feel the same as the old ones, and you will be more prone to just let them diminish over smaller and smaller things. It gets pretty lonely.
I can chat if you want
Are you going through the same shit too?
I know it’s callous but it makes me feel better knowing I’m not alone in this feeling
Bro. Yes I sm going through the same and more. It hurts sometimes. It really does, but you can't do much about it. Time is a motherfucker.
Who needs friends when the internet exists
If you don’t mind, how old are you? I feel like I’m one of the only people my age feeling this way
I am 31.
And yeah, you are gonna start getting more and more of what you are feeling now the older you get. People will just vanish from your life, or you start disliking them or they start disliking and avoiding you.
It depends largely on your income level too, how social you can afford to be, but hollow good time friends are worthless.
Id say get a good girl you can trust, make a family with her and just see how the rest comes and goes.
I’m working on going to law school now. Hopefully I succeed.
And yeah you’re right. I even get tired of my gf from time to time and think about dumping her to find someone new. But then I remember how hard it was to find someone religious and right wing.
Definitely do that, give it your all - I hope you succeed with it.
As for your gf - if she is any good keep her. There is no guarantee you will get anybody better than what you have. Especially if you follow a decent profession. You will get used for money and clout ALOT. The leftover women approaching my age are horrific.
Firstly: No you aren't; don't be so entitled.
I'm not the user you responded to but I am also a 22 year old with just two friends that I kept long distance and my gf whom I live with.
Secondly; you're overcomplicating things. What you are describing is boredom. I tend to notice people our age have a horrid time dealing with boredom because of the times we live in. Things being average seem baneful or incomplete to the youth.
Always yearning for something, and unable to apply yourself.
But take all I say cum grano salis, and form your own opinions by getting lost in your own life.
kill yourself you normie
im 22 now and I made a lot of my current friends trough my hobbies, I picked up MMA about 2 years ago and before that I played American football, I have about 10 friends that are all in a close circle/hang out together and about 10 other people I can hit up to go hang out with by myself, I think the aspect of struggling trough something difficult gives you a bond you wont find outside of sport much today. Its just difficult to walk up to someone and say hi and spark up a conversation, you do it 3 or 4 times and eventually you go hang out together and then boom you're becoming friends
The older you get the more people distrust friendliness or just plain attempt to use you.
>distrust friendliness
I totally understand that even now. Kids in college distrust friendly people
Bro, wait til you start getting old enough that just smiling at somebody can be a fucking problem. Ugh. Some people. I was a bartender for a while. Never again.
Yes, and?
Is this an excuse to be mean to people? If you want to look at things transactionally then you must accept the notion that you were expecting the treatment, experiences, and emotions you gave to be reciprocated.
I smile at people and treat everyone well because I want to and that's all. Not all those who share a laugh and a drink with me are friends. But they're company and that's enough.
I am just speaking from experience from trying to be polite. I detest meanness, it shows a lack of character. I love basic manners.
Nobody over the age of 14 has friends. They have associates
I feel you bro, shit sucks. Wish I had friends, but you move away for work etc, next thing you know you're alone every Saturday night.
And folks at work hate you for no reason and no girl wants you cuz none of their friends have had you.
Too normalfaggy
Good for you
There's no society anymore. Community is mostly non-existent now days.
More and more of us are pushed into these schizoid, narcissistic lifestyles. Sitting inside away from others, and posting about our lives on social media but never really living it.
Self-absorbed. Over-informed. Exhausted. Unfulfilled. Over-medicated. Uncertain. Depressed. Sex-craved. Overly concerned with appearance and political correctness.
It's a sorry sight indeed.
Turn inward OP. Embrace being itself because the world has abandoned its humanity.