Be me, in relationship with woman C for nearly 6 years at this point (we're both 21)

>Be me, in relationship with woman C for nearly 6 years at this point (we're both 21).
>Get into argument about lack of sexual attention which results in her asking for space, says she's thinking about ending the relationship
>I can't stop thinking about it, no matter what
>Everything else in life has become less fun, I can't do anything without thinking about it. None of my games or friends really make me happy like they used to before this. I'm pretty healthy usually with how I balance life and relationship, but everything here is getting worse and worse because of how this makes me feel.
>Have started sleeping through classes and have lost all motivation
>She agrees to meet with me in person to talk about how she feels
>I don't know if she wants to continue the relationship or not.
>I move my flight back to hometown from school back for the 7th as opposed to the 13th so we can try to meet sooner.
>Says she can't because of school
>Offer to do her work for her if she just sends me the prompts so we can meet up sooner on my birthday (the 8th)
>She says no because she doesn't need help
>When I ask her to meet me on the 8th then she says she can't due to work, and that she doesn't need my help with the work.
>Tell her how this is making me depressed and I would appreciate it if she would help and just see me on my birthday so we can talk. No sex or anything, just want to talk.
>She says no

Rewind to the beginning of the relationship, I was constantly there for her when she was anxious. She was self harming and I helped get her into and through therapy with a therapist. Several nights I would stay up and not sleep before exams, or even skip them because I wanted to comfort her. Now whenever I bring that up I get told that she hates when I bring up the past, as if what I did had no meaning or impact. This is the first time in 6 years I have ever felt this vulnerable, anxious, frustrated, angry, or depressed. This woman has been nothing but sweet to me for...

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...the entire relationship, but god damn I almost feel right now like she's just trying to hurt me. More than anything right now I just want some compassion or reassurance, but all I'm told is shit like "oh the letters you sent me I won't receive because you put the wrong stamp on them (something I only did to try to make the situation better, I never wrote any before). When I tell her I'm in pain, I get told something like "Okay and?" or just a complete lack of empathy when years ago she was consistently in my shoes and I was always there for her. I don't know what to do or what to feel, part of me is just writing this to put it down on paper but another part of me just wants some advice or help. If anyone's had something like this happen before too that would be extra helpful and I would appreciate it. And a damn hug, I really want a hug.

try to forget her dude
just because you were there for her, doesn't mean she will be there for you
or she just probably some other guy, and will maybe contact you if the other hurts her feeling
forget her bro

First reply here so to clarify is this a long distance relationship or do you live same area?

Dump her. She sounds like a very typical cruel witch. You can replace her easy, they’re everywhere dude.

end it OP. Now.

you next to constantly text her bro, preferably with dickpics!
chicks love that!

You're getting dumped. Accept it and move on. Start looking for a replacement. Hit the gym if you haven't been already. It sucks bro but gotta deal with it

Long distance usually, but same hometown. I go to college across the US, but fly back over breaks for family/her. I'm got accepted to grad school now back in my hometown so I planned on having her move in with me. You can imagine the conundrum here.

long distance literally never works idgaf what anyone says

ur showing too much weakness, if ur plan is that u want her back just show that u dont give a fuck

Yeah it's certainly been difficult, but most of the times we have worked out our issues especially when we're in the same town. I don't know why this one is so much worse but here we are.

It's over man

I echo everyone else’s statements. While she is currently feeling stressed and unsure of everything going on with her, you will be dragged through this feeling you have for months just for it to eventually end becuase you naturally came closer when she was pulling away. Listen it’s not over, things are never completely done, but for the time being just withdraw from her completely. 99% chance she will eventually reach out once’s she’s less stressed. On the other hand this is typical of how a 6 year relationship from HS TO being 21 usually ends up. Easy for me to tell you but please learn from my mistakes and don’t waste time thinking of her while she is taking her sweet time “figuring” things out.

just ask the bish if she wan fuck
She say no u find another bish

That's what I'm trying to do to an extent right now, I just really need to find a way to efficiently get my mind off her right now and have it stay off. Going to get buzzed probably for my birthday and see where that lands me.

I can relate OP
gf of 3 years dumped me 2 months ago. left me for some other guy
I did everything in the relationship.
I was there for her when she was crying, saying that she isnt good enough for me
we said we'd be together forever, that we were made for each other
fucking shit ruined my trust and perspective of women
im sorry OP. women just cannot be trusted, they always want something new. they will flip things on you to make themselves feel like the victim. they do these things because they believe when they leave you for someone else that it's justified
my gf never even spoke to me after we broke up through text, it wanted to talk it out. My best never good enough for her
fuck her OP

> long distance
You’re being cheated on as we speak you fucking retard

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Thank you man, I really appreciate the advice. It's just tough to move on ya know? Doing my best internally right now.

they're fickle cunts
these hoes ain't loyal
they don't even have any concept of loyalty

Sorry man long distance even being in the same state could be externely hard. From what you said, think once about yourself. You said you were less happy than before. Well man listen to your inner self. Yes this sucks for awhile but you’ll be amazed what you discover in yourself once you only focus on you. Good I could help some but this one has the writing on the way.

just from reading that sshot it's obvious you're a needy bitch. if you REALLY want the relationship to survive, stop fucking contacting her. or you could write the relationship off and move on with your life. either way STOP FUCKING CONTACTING HER

this

It's over bro, she's probably been fucking multiple other people for several years, no cap, move on ASAP, never contact her again. NEVER. She is a worthless whore and you only look good if you say NOTHING

>This woman has been nothing but sweet to me for...
until she doesn't need you anymore, and that's what's happening now. Dump her and focus on yourself for a while. You don't need someone who doesn't care for you, even if you love her.
Trust me, nothing good comes from you trying to fix things if she doesn't want them fixed.

A sudden change of behavior you can't explain probably means something happened.
If you're in a long-distance relationship and she suddenly doesn't want to meet you and have physical proximity, honestly dude she might've cheated on you, especially if you were close before being long-distance.
Could be also something private that happened to her, like major illness or family death, but I think she would've told you.
I guess offering to do her work or similar might be too invasive though.
I don't have near enough information to have a good judgement, but from what you've told us, again, probably she cheated on you, feels bad so doesn't want proximity and will dump you. You might as well do it first and end that ambiguous situation, you will only suffer more. Sorry user

Hey buddy! DO NOT STRESS! Answer this for me, what's the longest the two of you have gone without speaking due to a fight? Women need their space man, it sucks, but it is what it is. My girlfriend acts the same way when she's hyper-pissed-off, sometimes it's unwarranted and seems to come out of nowhere. I can tell that you're confused and that's entirely understandable. Just leave her alone as she has asked you to. I'd be willing to bet that she contacts you within a week. I've had arguments with my girlfriend where it definitely seems like it's the end, but time has always been the answer. Stop messaging her cold-turkey and wait for her, ok? That's my advice. It has worked for me every time, of course that doesn't mean it'll always be the case, but it's worth the shot. Buy yourself some beer/liquor and relax, give yourself a break bud. I know the feeling of despair that you're experiencing, it feels like it's the end of the world, but just try to look at it from the outside. Take it easy and don't beat yourself up. She'll get ahold of you soon.

No she has serious sexual issues. She was unable to masturbate for years, she though she was asexual. It took 4.5 years of patience before we finally had sex. She only recently started masturbating by herself, and she's incredibly shy about this stuff in general. That's what the argument originally got into, I was frustrated that she wasn't engaging me at all sexually when I was at college and she absolutely refused. Out of everything that's going on, and how little I know, the one thing I know is that she isn't taking dick at the moment.

Sorry user but she is definitely cheating on you. I’m truly sorry.
Prep your mind for it and then when the relationship ends try to move on. The main thing is it will feel like you can’t, but you will with time. So just let your body run on autopilot, finish what you need to do (uni etc) and then one day you will wake up from it all and realise you are finally ready to start existing again. But it will take time and you will hurt. Just relax and let life take you on it’s flow for a while, it’s not a fun or a nice ride but swimming against the currents will just hurt you

Everything else you said is pointless, the essential and only component is that your girlfriend in a long distance relationship doesn't want to see you, that's it, the relationship is over. You're single, stop trying. When she asked for space she was thinking of another guy, probably fucked him and now she doesn't even feel like you're worth the energy required to use.

You're right, I have been really clingy recently. One way or another I'm backing off right now and am not touching my phone at all.

Just gonna tell you the thing that's hardest for a lot of people to learn - if you want to be happy in life, you can't let other people determine your happiness for you. You have to be able to be content by yourself, and anything from other people has to be a bonus. Having your entire mood and life be determined by people who have no obligation to be with you is a mistake. Also, it's very easy to be selfish when you're in "young" relationships (only saying this now comparing romance in my 30s with back in my 20s and teens) and while it's easy to say "hey, this makes me feel bad", you need to also consider that the other person is an entire other person with their own life/feelings/emotions. She might very well be an asshole, but it also sounds like you aren't hearing all of what she's saying about her feelings. She might not want to remember the bad times because they were BAD TIMES, even though you were there for her.

Cope. She's masturbating over something and it isn't you bro.

Is that what she told you? Jesus OP open your eyes
She didn't wanna fuck you because she was fucking someone else/had no respect for you

^^^^also perfect example of why LDRs are almost all failures. There is a severe lack intimacy and personal connection that memories just do not cut it for

In the past it's been about a week at most of no talk, but it was never under the pretext of "oh fuck the relationship could potentially end" it was more of a "wow you said some really mean shit and I just need a break from you to think things over". I'm taking this advice 100% though, cold turkey through and through as of tonight. Thank you man, it really means a lot.