If someone's in love with you but you don't return the feelings, does it make things better for them if you maintain a close friendship as a consolation prize? My best friend recently confessed to have been in love with me for years but I only like him as a friend.
If someone's in love with you but you don't return the feelings...
Isaiah Williams
Nathaniel Wilson
I think most will say no
But I fell in love with my friend, he wasn't interested but still kept me as a close friend and I'm grateful I get to be in his life still
Sebastian Baker
not really, it probably makes it worse because he's just going to be frustrated. and will probably keep trying to push things forward which will just continue making you uncomfortable forever. it makes things better to just be direct and honest. just end it there so he can find someone to be in love with, if you actually care about him
Luis Garcia
If you apply for a job and they offer you an unpaid internship instead, how would you feel?
Brandon Johnson
bad comparison. better to be friends than nothing
Christian Jenkins
>better to be friends than nothing
sure if you want to torture and cuck yourself
Ethan Lopez
Surely it is better to be able unpaid intern than nothing, no?
Benjamin James
Better to kill the relationship and the friendship and cut all ties off completely as soon as you get those romantic vibes and the other person doesn't feel them back. The sooner you end it the better. Never ever for any reason continue on the relationship if you don't feel the same way. It just leads to heartache and resentment which can lead to all sorts of problems. It's just important to realize that nobody is entitled to anything.
Eli Richardson
Thanks, I was hoping that was the case. My turning him down probably hurts because he wants a deep relationship and for me to be special to him. I think he will feel better if I do make him feel special (he is!) with an emotionally intimate friendship where I'm affectionate to him and talk to him a lot about deep and personal subjects.
Justin Robinson
>i get nothing from my friendships
>by nothing i mean no sex
yeah
Hunter Jones
oh boy are you fucking up
Ayden Parker
Wtf does entitlement have to do with anything? I just want to do what makes us both healthy and happy.
Jackson Long
How can you be this clueless? Poor fucking guy I pray he gets over you within the next 3 years.
Caleb Perez
Ok how am I fucking up
Samuel Adams
END IT
>but what if he
FUCKING END IT
>but maybe
END IT YOU STUPID FUCKING WHORE FOR THE SAKE OF EVERY MAN WHO WENT THROUGH THIS AGONY PLEASE END IT!
Brody Cook
I don't think I'm so great that someone would take 3+ years to get over me. >.>
But I don't know if I should.
Kayden Ortiz
you think you know what's good for him?
Grayson Brown
YES. I would put my fucking life on the line saying I know more than you do about it.
Dylan Ramirez
I'm just saying you should not feel entitled to give the person anything, and you shouldn't feel bad if the relationship goes bad because he doesn't get what he wants. But you really should expect for this guy to come at you months after the situation with some bullshit rant about how he still feels the same way and how he wants to try to have a relationship. And you're gonna feel the same way about it, not wanting to do that. (Which is fine!) but it's gonna get him hurt, and you might in turn feel bad because you're hurting him. I'm saying that the best thing to do is just kill the relationship unless you're certain this guy has the emotional maturity to TRULY accept "just friends"
most people cannot do it
and think about it, this guy has been in love with you for YEARS and he's only telling you NOW
if he was emotionally matured he would have told you sooner
all the warning signs are here lol
Liam Cruz
>by nothing i mean no sex
What the fuck is wrong with you? I used to hate that shit. I'm gonna conflate this with some self therapy
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What you think its just that I want to fuck you? I WISH it was that, trust me I can deal with not having sex. Its that I can't stroke the hair from your face, or text you in the morning or at night. I can't ask you to check in that you're OK when you get home and be upset if you don't without seeming like a weird friend. Do you understand it's about more than sex?
I want to care about you MORE than is appropriate.
...
I remember how often I has friends that were girls that I had an unrequited affection.
No more though. We don't do that anymore.
Now all I want is to learn to properly take care of myself. Then, I need to help the earthvxkhs
Xavier Jones
Having nothing at all with the one you love is what's truly unbearable.
Alexander Watson
"Lol relationships are just friendships with sex xD" is just 10s/20s bullshit. Nobody was demonized prior to the 2010s for feeling hurt over unrequited love.
Jayden Garcia
I vote for "give him a shot", but otherwise let him slip away. Putting effort into maintaining what is now a doomed friendship will be way worse for both of you
Alexander Moore
>I WISH it was that, trust me I can deal with not having sex. Its that I can't stroke the hair from your face, or text you in the morning or at night. I can't ask you to check in that you're OK when you get home and be upset if you don't without seeming like a weird friend. Do you understand it's about more than sex?
Yeah you pretty much summed up how this bullshit goes
I'm glad I finally got over the girl who did this shit to me
Chase Ward
>I think he will feel better if I do make him feel special (he is!) with an emotionally intimate friendship where I'm affectionate to him and talk to him a lot about deep and personal subjects.
Give me this poor bros tag so I can warn him about the hell is he about to go through.
Camden Ramirez
Classic. See you on page one for the next seven hours. This website is populated by the demented.