Turned 28 this month. I was looking at everything that changed in the last couple years in my life, I lost 50lb, started working out (I'm still weak/bit chubby, but eating lean and working in it), started grooming, bought an entire wardrobe because all my clothes were baggy, landed a new job at a big corp, best job I will ever have, my hygiene is a lot better too. I have enough saved for surgery to remove loose skin and hell with some other stuff once I manage to get my weight where I want. I have everything I want/needed, except I'm lonelier than ever. Lost all my friends (interest shifting), never had a gf (I try every now and then, try a different hobby, go out simetimes for hikes and other outside activities like camping, bars etc) but it just doesn't work. I don't have issues talking to anyone, I interview people as part of my job. I usually get told I'm too weird, ugly, short etc.
Now that I'm 28 I just can't justify doing anything I do anymore. It's all worthless. I'm gonna die alone without ever experiencing love. I tried not giving a then, I also trying improving, sure I'm not done improving no one ever is, but improving doesn't mean desirable and improving for years still doesn't mean desirable.
What are people like me supposed to do? It's just plain depressing.
Turned 28 this month. I was looking at everything that changed in the last couple years in my life, I lost 50lb...
You don't actually want to drop things, you've just lost satisfaction of achievement because people get used to everything. You need to achieve more where you already are or expand to new areas. Being static, in the same "cell", stagnating is hell.
I think you should quit your work and go to school and get to meet girls there
I think your problem right now will be that you have no option to meet women in social situations
I didn't achieve anything. I have money I don't need. I'm working more than before. I got nothing out of losing weight, I'm not looking better according to the people my apparance matters to. The hell do you want me to achieve more? I don't wanna chase money for no reason.
I can definitely work on hobbies and whatnot but so what? I know I can have fun, it's a way to escape the very real fact that I will die alone.
I could do that but that's super weird being the 28 years old guy in a classroom with a bunch of kids. What the hell do I have in common with them?
Can you post a pic of yourself so we can maybe give you some hint?
im turning 28 in december and the only thing i have is that i lost 50 lbs.
Im a Jobless KHHV.
4/10 on soc, not linking it here, just picture me as a 4/10. Pick any 4/10 can you actually give them anything that's actually gonna work? lmao. I don't even say my height around, but I doubt it would be even worse - just like it is IRL if I did. I'm 5'5.
Actually I do not think looks matters that much. Of course, I am aware that being clean and all that stuff is very important, but looking good is not. Do people think you act weird? Are you different from other guys? Have you got any bias on girls?
>5 foot 5
My condolences. Not to be that guy, but have you ever tried to convince yourself that you're gay? It might work if you condition yourself hard enough.
>I could do that but that's super weird being the 28 years old guy in a classroom with a bunch of kids.
It's not weird at all. The difference in age isn't even that big, you will just look like a regular guy, at worst they'll think you're a bit ugly
>What the hell do I have in common with them?
You have everythink in common with them. In fact they're the only people you have anything in common with since outside of unis people just build their entire personality on their exes and all the sex and relationships and parties they've had in the past. Uni is the only place where you can get along with anyone if you're a virgin.
>asks for how I look
>reads 4/10
>moves goal post
Interesting argumentative skills. Anyway.
>do you think you act weird?
Tolerable, not too awkward, can talk normally, normal body language.
>are you different from other guys
except the below average looks and being short, not really.
>any bias on girls
Does this matter at all? I can prove to you it doesn't. But not really? I don't mind girly hobbies, I don't mind girly talk, I don't mind their sexually too much unless it's obviously bad for a long term relationship, I'm generally apolitical so I don't really like woke people, but I can mingle just fine desu. I have no idea where you are trying to get with this. It's bullshit. Every single thing you raised after moving the goal post is bullshit.
I'm not gay. I'm not even closed to the idea, I just simply do not get a hard on for cocks and I swear I tried. I'm actually disgusted by it.
I remeber my uni experience and being quite frank I don't think it would change anything. I would maybe join parties and whatnot more often but I'm not sure if I'm interested in college sluts - and that's assuming I can score one.
Older people are often made fun of desu. I'm confident I would be able to handled that well simply because I have money but that's about it.
I'm not a terribly interesting guy.
I feel you, OP. I'm 29. 6-figure salary, not too bad as far as looks go. I'm certainly not "hot", though I do think I'm probably a little higher than 4/10. A little overweight, but I do work out. Not a virgin, at any rate. Honestly, the biggest problem is just isolation. Once you start getting into your late 20s, it gets harder and harder to meet people. I work remote and live alone in a rural area. No way to meet people, dating sites are a hellscape. I get bouts of motivation to do things, but mostly I'm just lonely and bored.
>I swear I tried
Start Pavloving yourself. Jerk off to regular porn, and change to a cock the last minute. Repeat until you can jerk off to gay porn alone.
Don't wanna be a dick but from 0 to N there's an incommensurable difference.
Man that doesn't work and look at the amount of effort you are suggesting here. Of course I would be able to cum because I would still be thinking about the sexually interesting part I like. Anyhow, I know grooming is a big thing around here but I have no interest in changing my sexuality in any shape and form. Gays are disgusting, anal sex is disgusting and the STDs + monkeypox is a very real proof of how unhealthy the entire thing is.
It is what it is. It's not for me.
Welcome to the club user.
It doesn't get better from there.
It gets far, far worse.
The moral of the story is simple: improoooving is the single most demoralizing thing in existence for a robot. It doesn't improve outcomes, it merely removes the only coping mechanisms we have.
I'm 5'6" and it doesnt get better. I'm 30 now. The constant rat race is hell. You wonder why you're even doing it if you can't get a girlfriend and have no purpose to live.
I think the no pussy no work meme is sick and twisted but it is a very crude depiction of reality. I have no will to do this shit anymore. I would happily do it for a family. I don't want to turn into betabuxx for some random girl that had her fun with 50+ guys and doesn't desire me sexually, it's just awful and I know I will never be loved. It ends up as a no pussy no work kind of narrative unfortunately.
I'm actually dropping out of society soon if I don't get anything out of it. I have the money to do that.
I don't think it's even about the pussy (even though obviously you're using that as a proxy for love and all that stuff), but rather about simple reward dynamics. There's just no point anymore. We get precisely nothing out of this deal, even outside girls. It's not like we can jump social class no matter how much we work, even then it will all eventually come to nothing since we are genetic dead-ends.
I just turned 28 a few days ago but I'm a girl so even though I'm a neet everybody kisses my ass and I am happy as fuck. Maybe try not being ugly. Oh wait you can't
I jumped social class but I know I'm not a good example. All this gave me was enough money to stop contributing with society. I really don't see the point in this weird consumerism we live in, I'm not saying I don't consume, I send a % of my money based on my projections and budgeting, but even then I have more than I need. Money doesn't help you with love, girls don't even give a crap about this anymore unless you are beyond rich so yeah.