BPD Thread

>as long as you set the boundaries right.
And that's not easy because she was always keen to push them whenever she saw any opportunity to. I was fortunate enough to be warned about BPD girls and witnessed firsthand what terrible things she was capable of in a discord server we shared early on, so I was/am terrified of getting close to her.

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Also I was a coombrain when we first met so it was even harder for me back then. I only managed because my lesbian friend kept me well enough behaved.

I've had a few BPD friends and they all respected boundaries for the most part. I wasn't a coombrain though so maybe that helped with it.
>witnessed firsthand what terrible things she was capable of in a discord server
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why did you use that tranime girl?
I've seen that and she doesn't have BPD

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She would become fast friends with people and everyone gave her tons of attention and validation because she was really pretty. People would open up to her and she would use the information she gathered on everyone to pit them against each other, ruin friendships/relationships. I told her sometimes that she should just stop talking to people, focus on herself more because all her problems were people related, and that by herself she was a really bright and interesting person. She told me I was projecting.

That's very manipulative. It takes a lot of social skill to be able to do that, honestly I'm kind of impressed. If she devoted herself to better things she could probably go far.

>It takes a lot of social skill to be able to do that
Not when you are attractive, and not really. Manipulating people is comically easy if you don't feel bad about it. Especially if you know your targets. Lonely men and girls under 22 are extremely easy to manipulate and control.

They are both. You can be both.

I hate when people try to absolve the mentally ill of their abhorrent actions. You can be both mentally ill AND a terrible person worthy of contempt.

She lied to me about her age when we first met, she said she was 20 but it turned out she was still in highschool. That was about 5 years ago and now she tells me shes 22. To this day I do not know. She was the typical puppet master manipulator meme but in a really destructive way and she was actually a very lonely person. She had no IRL friends because nobody could stand being around her for any extended period of time because of how unstable she was, and that's really saying something when you consider it was an attractive female. She seemed to mellow out a lot more after coming out of the psych ward and regaining contact with me but im not sure if that was genuine or just an act.

A wise man once said "All women are bi, you've just got to figure out if its polar or sexual"

>She lied to me about her age when we first met, she said she was 20 but it turned out she was still in highschool
This is very common among women and actually just bottoms in general (trannies, femboys, fags ect.)

Its happened to me many times over my 28 years of life on this earth. Women, bottoms, are driven by instinct to prefer older males, but at the same time understand age gaps are a taboo nowadays. And so the result is women consistently lying about their age in their formative years - but as they age past that, to go all-in on shaming men for interacting with younger women. It's a very 'have your cake and eat it too' thing.

Sometimes people lie/manipulate as a defensive measure. If she had low self esteem or thought that people wouldn't like who she actually was, then it kind of makes sense that she would do things like that. When everything collapses around her, she can just say that they left because she manipulating them instead of because who she is as a person. I've known people like that, anyway.
I don't disagree, but I think there's a difference between someone doing something bad out of malice and someone doing something bad because they lost control. Both are shit to be around, but I think one is more forgivable. Within reason, anyway.

>Are you BPD? Greentext your life.
Uhm, don't know how to make a good greentext, I can only try.

>male with (undiagnosed) BPD
>learned about the existence of this disorder about a year ago, suddenly everything makes sense
>never had a romantic relationship, so no gf
>get angry/triggered over stupid things and regret it afterwards if I show my anger instead of trying to bottle up
>the slightest difference in words and voice tone makes me worries something is off in a way or another
>vulnerable to stress and being under stress makes me anxious
I guess I am making this wrong
>Had only two persons that came close to the definition of "friend"
>I think of them as great persons
>Got triggered over a petty thing that I don't even remember with both of them
>Stopped talking with them, with one it's been almost 2yrs and the other one we rarely even speak anymore and it's not the same thing probably because we are also growing up
>Can feel my head devaluating them and in order to stop the process I had to fix in my mind that we just belong each in two different worlds, which is not entirely false
>Other than them there is my family that have to deal with me
>Generally a volatile mood and no clear sense of myself (what my interests, virtues etc) and of my identity
Probably I made a bad greentext but I don't know how to make a good one as I said. I'm sorry if this looks boring. Also 6:30am and didn't sleep for nothing, I should try so I don't know if I will be able to see any reply.

Add to this that I might also have something of AVPD, so BPD+AVPD.

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Anyway I think overall its pretty tragic. She was doing everything she was supposed to do from a psychiatric perspective. She took the meds, did the yoga, the vegan diet, the "spend time with animals" (which was terrible because she was actually really shitty to animals and wasnt allowed to keep pets)
my point is that she did everything right, she even had a good relationship with her family, they cared very deeply for her and seemed to support her at every turn but none of it "worked"