Just had an amicable breakup of an 8-year relationship, still cohabitating. I think I'm all right but am terrified of getting hit by an emotional truck soon. Not sure what I'm looking for in posting this, just needed to tell someone I suppose and not ready to talk to any friends or family about it yet
Just had an amicable breakup of an 8-year relationship, still cohabitating...
Isaac Turner
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Jacob Nguyen
just get a house.
Sebastian Garcia
If you are a guy breaking up with a foid, thERe is CHOice you can make.
Dominic James
You probably both feel like there's a bomb about to go off. If you don't want to talk about it with her then just focus on staying level while you figure out what you're doing. Fucking a rando may or may not help alleviate the anxiety
Charles Gutierrez
Why the fuck did you date for 8 years and not propose? To a woman, there's a lot of pressure on them to get married, it's a status symbol and it means a lot to their womanhood. Why the fuck did you not propose?
Gabriel Sanders
She always said she never wanted to get married. We talked about it today and she said she would have said no.
Christian Williams
and that emotional truck did hit bros, it hit fucking hard
Alexander Peterson
>Just had an amicable breakup of an 8-year relationship
better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all
Jason James
Ride it out. Don't do anything self-destructive, take this shit sober. Ride it out, don't hurt yourself, don't poison yourself, just let it out. Get a journal, lay in bed listening to music, cry, whatever you need to do. Don't try to do what you think you're supposed to, just let your feelings take the wheel.
Brayden White
Thanks mang. I'm gonna go see a movie with a (male) friend later tonight, probably gonna try to do a lot of that over the next few weeks
Justin Hernandez
Better make plans to move out as soon as possible. You will get hit with that emotional truck when she starts dating before you, or brings a guy back to the house while you're still in a mental funk. I'm not saying this to be an ass or a troll, but you want to avoid that situation at all costs. You will be sick to your stomach and feel helpless.
Logan Morris
Thankfully I had plans to move out within the month anyway, am relocating for a new job and she needs to stay in our current city. We were going to do LDR for the 1-3 years I'd been away. And now I can expedite the process of getting out of here instead of trying to squeeze every last moment out with her
James Cook
Good stuff, OP. Glad you're already on track. You must be feeling a lot of different emotions right now. Hang in there, and stay strong. I wish you luck.
Zachary Rogers
Well if you want kids you should b-b-b-break up with that bitch, nigger
Jaxon King
Oh whoops wrong thread. Guess you already took care of that part though so fair play
Joshua Cox
Why did you break up? How was it "amicable"? Why didn't you get married?
Lincoln Howard
kek you accidentally landed on something significant though, she never wanted kids and I used to agree but have been gradually second-guessing it over the years
Connor Bennett
I was really in love with a girl and we broke up, what got me through that first wave of sadness was listening to music.
youtu.be
This is a great one to cry to op
Don't do any stupid shit, keep drugs and drinking out of the equation.
It sucks
Cameron Moore
Signs accumulating over the past year or so that she was falling out of love with me, basically all the classic ones you'd read in a listicle, which seemed to accelerate over the past few months. Few days ago I finally told her that I've been noticing it, she didn't respond directly but confirmed I was noticing something real. Been emotionally dancing around each other for the few days afterwards, then today I finally initiated the conversation and asked if she wanted to break up, and she said she did. Amicable in that there was no screaming, no shitting on character, just a frank discussion about how we've been drifting apart and how we're holding each other back in various ways.
For marriage, see
Charles Ortiz
in case anyone is curious and wants to know how to avoid being hit by emotional trucks, I broke when we sat down to watch the latest internet historian, something we always enjoyed doing together (kinda bad in its own right, we got into a horrible habit of watching shit together while eating instead of having a conversation). Not gonna make the mistake of trying to do any more favorite pasttimes until I've moved out.
Gonna go see a movie with a fren now, the only one who knows about the breakup so far. Thanks for all the advice and kind words, anons
Nathaniel Murphy
>I broke when we sat down to watch the latest internet historian, something we always enjoyed doing together
Oh yeah, it's the banalities that are going to headshot you in the feels. Because the higher level stuff you've mulled over and developed emotional armor against, but the innocent little human gestures about how the towels are folded or whatever will produce unguarded flashes of affection which will cut your life into pieces(TM)
Daniel Allen
Or shit you used to do together, whatever, same thing, the little things that cause you to perceive them outside of the context of your failing relationship, as the cute person you originally developed feelings for
Aiden Powell
Sounds like she found someone else and even manipulated you into thinking it was mutual somehow. Did you feel any desire to dump her before her change in behavior?