>talking to mid-20s co-worker at work, i'm 19 >talking about music >him: do u play an instrument user? >yeah i play guitar >oh me too >yah, but i suck i've only being playing a year and i've not been commited >oh yeah, i've played for a long time so i get it. Anways, you should totally come to mine for a jam sometime >haha idk man idk i'm really bad, if i was better i would! Nah man idk maybe >alright, well you don't have to be good user, you can still come round, it's just fun. >my brain is melting as i know what i retard i am
how could he be so at ease with me going to his house, we don't really know eachover that well. I can honestly barely play, definetly not enough to jam, now i feel as though i should commit to my study of the guitar so i can follow up on his invite and jam with him...
i need to grow up, the idea of hanging out with someone i don't know that well shouldn't put me into a state of shock.
You're good user. It's going to be weird and scary and anxiety-inducing, but I would encourage you to do it anyways. Even if you suck, if you can pluck a string, you can harmonize. And if you don't know how, they can teach you like like 5 minutes. Just go and try to have fun, the guy seems cool. Jamming is fun
Jackson Hill
yeah i guess, my barrier with these things is huge, i've never overcome it. I just can't i don't know how to describe it. Oh yeah i'll come oh yah u'll pick me up when? okay? get in car, hi, so......... i sit in ur house and we play the guitar and i don't relax and it's akward and then u take me home... unless we got drunk, that might work but idk.
Jason Richardson
Yeah I mean it's always gonna be a bit awkward meeting somebody for the first time. Totally okay and expected. A cool thing to do is to be genuinely interested and ask questions. "Thanks for inviting me man. I've never really jammed before. How long have you guys been playing together?" Etc.
Again, it sounds like you have some social anxiety so your brain is going to clam up, but that's totally okay. Try to relax, and just accept that you will be embarrassed and a bit awkward. Totally fine, you'll probably have a good time, but it'll probably be a bit stressful.
Gavin Cooper
Assuming this is true, I am genuinely surprised you actually got an invitation to go hang out with someone at their house and they are around my age. t. 23, worked and was social at various wagie jobs, never got anything like that
Noah Foster
Just jam with him user Thats how you get better at stuff like that. I've only ever jammed with people and I can't really do a whole lot outside of it (though I do mainly play the bass so its not hard to jam)
If you can do 3 chords in succession while in time, then you can jam with him.
Eli Sanders
yeah people my age ask me to go to clubs with them and out running and shit, this guy in his mid-20s, and an older guy in his mid-50s said he'd come and help me find a car at some dealerships and go hiking or smth.
It's pretty normal where i work, everyone is inter-connected outside of work if they put some effort into socialising. I just can't get past the part where you say yes to the invite.
Alexa how do i chill out and not take anything seriously?
Jonathan Nelson
My guitar playing experience is looking up some tabs/chords for songs and memorising them and playing them how i think they should sound. I have no musical rhythm or skill rn, which i why i don't think i could jam...
Cameron Ortiz
Youre probably pretty physically attractive if they ask you to go to clubs with them
Andrew Bennett
I'm not attractive i'm like a solid average normie, with good hair and height to make people assume i'm attractive.
Ryan Roberts
he didnt invite you because he wanted to play with you he invited you because he wanted to hang out with you, sperg (or kill you)
Lucas Evans
You know he's inviting you round because he wants to fuck you in the ass, right? I'm not even a fag but c'mon man are you really this naive?
Levi Lewis
typing this i now realise that if i wasn't so socially inhibited i could have been clubbing,running,drinking,jamming,hiking, and looking for cars with all these different people.
At least i know there's hope, that someday if i want to say yes to an invite, an invite will reveal itself.
Yeah this is how millenials, gen x'ers, boomers and so on made friends back in the day. We just asked if they wanted to hang out one day.
Jack Hill
this was all today so i can still say yes next time i see him, hanging out feels totally different because i am capable of that, whereas playing an instrument properly...
however if jamming is the event and i fail to jam that may jeopradise the whole hanging out, when he sees what a fraud i am. Maybe he's lonely, now you've got me thinking...
Juan Moore
Trust me, its much harder to do that than jam. If you can move your hand between two chords and strum it, then you're good. You already know how to do everything you need. If you can consistently strum it, you already can. also what this guy said. If you can't jam that well, then just chill out with him predominantly. But seriously. You can do two chords and strum them good enough to emulate a song. You aren't really missing anything else. If he has a bass then ask to play that. Its the same thing but you play less.
You are overthinking it. Right now here you're sitting. Finger a chord and strum it consistently. in even intervals. like dot dot dot dot dot dot. Then if you're feeling crazy put in another chord every once in a while like dot dot dot dat dot dot dot dat Thats really all you need to do rythm guitar in a casual little jam
Alexander Young
i guess, i'd like to understand changes and timings and keys and stuff, so i can communicate in terms of music. It's not like in a couple months i can't ask him to jam, just like he did to me today.
Connor Walker
You must be pretty young. Who the fuck cares if you're bad at guitar, he's just inviting you to hang out. I would do the same thing when someone would ask me to play basketball in high school, tell them Im not that good etc when it's not that big a deal you're just hanging out
David Nguyen
>hanging out feels totally different because i am capable of that, whereas playing an instrument properly... DO IT RETARD im a pianist and i always let people who come to me play my piano and my instruments with me for fun its not like he will kick you out lol just do it. best friendships start out like that
Christian Bell
>i'd like to understand changes and timings and keys and stuff You're jamming, not writing a song. I don't know any of this shit and I've been jamming with some friends for years now. Knowing these things are useful if you're sitting there trying to write a song. When you're jamming, these things don't change a whole lot. Your dude would be a major douchebag if he invited you over and just started changing the timing and keys in the middle of a jam. And if he wanted to do anything like that, he would just show you how to do it. Only in the past half year have I started kind of trying to figure out any of that shit and its only because I got a keyboard and it makes it so easy to concepualize music when its in a straight line. But other than that I've been jamming since like 2016. Like I said. Jamming is way easier than trying to figure out an actual song that has key changes and all that shit. I couldn't even tell you what a scale really looks like on a fret board. I just do it by ear. Because all the rule book shit in music is just a tool to help you understand what you do with your ear.
Lincoln Nelson
Who is in OP's pic? He's looks like a cross between Tom Holland and Christan Bale.
Alexander Hughes
I didn't realise he was inviting me to hang out i feel like a genuine autist now. voca.ro/1jeU4MSQitq6 this is an excerpt from me playing across the universe, i think i mess up toward the end going to the wrong chord. I was reading the chord sheet as i played so this wasn't really natural. I'd like to be able to improvise rhythms.
