my gf and i are on a weird break. we still love each other but she's mentally suffering and so is going through a lot of hardship and it's put a huge strain on our relationship despite me trying to support her and be understanding, so we kind of just stopped talking and spending time together. she barely responds to me and i don't message her anymore, at best we'll have a short conversation per week. i don't know if we're gonna get back together either. things are so tense and awkward between us now. and i feel like complete and utter shit. she was the only consistent source of happiness in my life and i found actual true love with her; i wouldn't have dated her if i didn't love her after all. i don't know what to do. the days just blur together despite feeling like they stretch on for an eternity and my nights are back to being filled with crippling loneliness. and i'm worried about if i still have a future with her. i feel like she wants to reach out but is unwilling to and it's killing me, she's the one that has to decide to mend this relationship but she's hesitating and i fear that every week that passes makes us grow more and more distant. i just want my gf back, i want to hold her again and hear her laugh and watch shit with her and tell her i love her and protect her from all the bullshit she has to face. god i am being torn fucking alive on the inside
>inb4 normie with gf shut the fuck up i have no friends to vent any of this to
no. i dated a a girl in high school and a couple others in college but stopped because i realized having a mindless and casual relationship was incredibly unfulfilling and so she's the first girlfriend i've had since then, since i found i actually deeply loved her and felt complete when she was in my life. and she's honestly the only girl i ever want to be with. even if that may sound cucked or some stupid bullshit, i just want a girl to build a life with and she's that girl. so i'm just devastated and i wish she'd give me a sign or something that she plans on resolving things and getting back together and all this is is that she needs a bit of time and space
Lucas Gonzalez
and how old are you now user
Aiden Harris
i'm 25, first gf since i was 20, relationship is about a year and a half old
Jason Bell
well, regardless of how old you are I was going to say your hormones are probably playing tricks on you
mental illness is a sometimes insurmountable problem
consider that she may have used to to deflect from the real conversation that is, she chooses not to continue the relationship
this sounds very much like puppy love, and I'd advise you to tap into some of those feelings you felt during your various "meaningless" relationships earlier on
to perpetually wonder "are we getting back together" is torturous and futile as it does nothing
it sounds counter intuitive, but doting on her won't really work I'd advise pursing another girl this will have two benefits 1) you will think not of current girl, but of other girl and you can continue your geneticly programmed task of "starting life" 2) > she was the only consistent source of happiness in my life and i found actual true love with her is a pretty unhealthy mindset, establish your own happiness and she'll want some of that, similarly new girl can provide happiness
tldr; another girl will make her jealous and show you that theres more fish (perhaps non mentally ill fish) in the seas
a year an a half is nothing to scoff at but, you've got well into your fourties to find a life partner (consider pragmatic things)
Jackson Murphy
> i fear that every week that passes makes us grow more and more distant
> so we kind of just stopped talking and spending time together
> i feel like she wants to reach out but is unwilling to and it's killing me
swallow every single ounce of pride you have and make the effort to get together
you dont have to go on fancy dates or make some kind of extra effort, just spending time with each other is whats required
the more you spend time apart, the harder it will get back together
you wouldnt want to be kicking yourself a couple years down the line wishing youd done more to get in contact
JUST MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS THAT YOU ARE THERE FOR HER, NO MATTER WHAT. THROUGH THICK AND THIN, YOU WILL BE HER ROCK AND ALWAYS BY HER SIDE
make sure she knows that
Christopher Reyes
>gf bro with no friends Same bro. Do you wanna be friends. Do you play apex or rust
Josiah Adams
it's not puppy love man, i understand what real love is. i don't love her because she's hot or i have fun with her when we go out shopping or something. and i'm not cheating on her just to see if she gets jealous
trust me man, i've reached out a lot to try and mend things, which is why i said it's up to her now. this has somewhat happened before, but now it's really bad, and she's just completely isolating herself in a bubble of self-loathing. i messaged her multiple times a day every day for 2 weeks to try and get her to talk to me but it wasn't happening, and now any time i mention something related to it she shuts down. so the approach i'm going for now is to just give her space, do simple things like wish her goodnight and stuff, etc. and let her come to me, but in the meantime it's definitely killing me
yea i play apex
Asher Bennett
well, she's not with you
so cheating on her is impossible
but i'm sure pining after her infinitely won't turn her off
Michael Phillips
Add me on steam
>23284260
Samuel Thompson
> do simple things like wish her goodnight and stuff, etc
alright, thats the right move, thats good enough for now
Nathan Campbell
>break Literally just finding someone with more money and/or looks nicer.
Andrew Robinson
She rode chads cock and now feels guilty and wants to talk herself into a victim role, you pathetic passive cukk
Matthew Powell
she is probably in a situation where she still "loves" you, as in she cares about your happiness and well being, but she is no longer in love with you, meaning she has no real interest in being your girlfriend or spending any considerable amount of time with you beyond what she might spend with any other casual male friend. this is a tough situation for her because she only has two options: A) dump you on the spot and be the mean bitch; B) fake it like she wants to keep dating you in some sort of bizarre truman show caricature of a loving relationship. option A requires confidence and social skills to pull off correctly (which she likely has not developed yet as a young person with minimal serious relationship experience) and option B is psychotic, so she flipped the monopoly board over and picked option C, which is to sort of do nothing while watching your relationship die on the vine, which is very immature and shitty, but she probably means well so give her a break.
this all leaves you with a couple of options yourself!
William Howard
A) be alpha as fuck, lay it all out on the table, tell her you still love her but you can't live like this anymore, either we are getting back together or we are through! ('oh goodie' she thinks to herself, now user has taken the role of the bad guy and it's not my fault for breaking up with him anymore!). you feel better about yourself for having done the 'right thing' for about 5 seconds followed by the nagging regret of oh god what have i done she was the one i should have just fucking waited fuck fuck fuck ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
B) be beta as fuck, give her miles of space, never push anything, always be just moments away from texting 'it's OK bb you can take as long as you need i still luv u so much
David Morris
Been there, sucks ass. Took A and dodged a bullet back there.
Elijah Watson
i've done both option a and b. jesus man. i don't think this is a situation where she doesn't love me anymore, i said in a previous post something like this has happened before. i'm confident of her love for me, she's just very mentally ill. and i just don't really know what to do
Grayson Nelson
>On a break >Still love each other She's fucking other men on your break, faggot. Your relationship is over. TL;DR the rest. Get your shit and get out of her life. Five to seven years later, she'll call you with regrets. That's what happened to my fiance of six years.
Gavin Walker
you are letting love for yourself be contingent on the approval of someone else. this is option B (fear). stop that.
>i just don't really know what to do yes you do, it's just not the easy "close my eyes until everything magically gets better" option you were hoping for. sorry.
David Barnes
Story old as time. Woman cant feel love like we do. Its over, she just dont have the balls to speak clear.
