I'm having a kid in 6 months and don't want to fuck them up. I had pretty good parents but they still made mistakes, many of which I only see now that I have reason to think about it again
>didn't talk about sex or how to get girls
>unwillingness to display emotions both positive and negative
>dealt with me being a fat kid by just saying "should you really be eating that?" when I went to get snacks from the pantry instead of taking the time to discuss the consequences of getting fat or sitting down with me to create a plan to eat healthier
>my mom doing her "i hate my life" bullshit in front of the kids and my dad not shutting that shit down
>receiving 0 guidance on how to succeed in life and I guess assuming I would figure it out because I'm smart
How did your parents fuck you up?
>I had pretty good parents
Lmfao
>How did your parents fuck you up?
Well, let's see here: my dad was an abusive alcoholic and my mom was trapped in an unhappy marriage. When I was 4, my sister died suddenly which made things even worse. Mom latched onto me for emotional support and completely warped my thoughts and feelings. Emotional incest is what it's called. She completely shaped my taste in women, my desires, everything really, around her. I'm even convinced she tried to get physical at one point, but unlike most robots, I ain't into that shit. It freaked me the fuck out.
I'm basing that off of the fact that parents like this exist
My mother gave birth to me at the age of 40 years old.
My parents looked after me well but that is likely the reason I do not socialise like a normal person and why my slightly older brother is a complete hermit neet who has lived in his room for over 15 years now.
Children have the easiest life, the only thing that can mess them up is their own volition
>>didn't talk about sex or how to get girls
Robots list this as an issue a lot, but almost all of them would run for the hills and refuse to discuss it if their dad DID try to talk to them about this.
Most of you are unable to overcome even minor embarrassment to participate in a discussion of any personal topic - let alone your parents asking you if there are girls you like, trying to help you figure out how to establish a relationship, etc.
>6 months
Kys.
>t. father of a 10 year old
>almost all of them would run for the hills and refuse to discuss it if their dad DID try to talk to them about this.
Because that lack of openness is the tone that was set from birth, and it would be very jarring for their parents to start talking about that stuff in their teens. In contrast, I've had friends who would openly engage in graphic discussions with their parents about who they fucked the night before. I wouldn't go that far, but it tells me that a child's sense of propriety is established early on and that's what creates a sense of (not) being able to talk to your parents about certain things.
ur parents r ok ur just a whiny baby
>>didn't talk about sex or how to get girls
What is there to say though? Benis goes into vagana and that's it. Getting girls is just a matter of forming relationships and contrary to what PUAs advertise it's not something you can just teach someone by just talking. Unironically this is where the school system usually comes into play, as it's the first place you start forming meaningful relationships and and learn how to interact with people at large.
Hey now, they may have fucked my up beyond much repair, but I still love them. My dad has actually cleaned himself up and we're on pretty decent terms now. I don't talk with mom as much after my picrel moment, but we're still on good terms, I guess. It took friends pointing out how fucked up my relationship was with my mom for me to realize just what was going on. When you're living it, it seems normal.
>my mom doing her "i hate my life" bullshit in front of the kids and my dad not shutting that shit down
My mom and dad never did this. They were pretty rational and calm. Very mature but fucking strict. I'm an Asian so my parents tend to not show much emotion until we are old enough that they started missing us.
My mom was 36 and dad was 42. I feel like I turned out well (no diagnosed disorders) but then again I am on Any Forums so idk
What about out of the school system? If you had no success with girls in highschool? Is it over?
Then you just try it again in the university. If you don't then good luck. It's not impossible but at that point you're basically fighting against something that's cemented in your mind (the anti-social behaviour). It's like fighting with a mental illness. Doable, but difficult. You need to be really motivated though.
>didn't push me to socialize
>the are very emotionless and I learned to be that way too
>no talk about feelings, girls or anything, no words of wisdom
>they make fun of people behind their back so I became really paranoid if others were laughing behind my back
>very strict up until my 18th birthday so I didn't really have room to test my boundaries
>very sheltered so I didn't really face any hardships
>Both cheat on each other
>Scream at each other while I cry in my bed
>After the divorce, dad ignores me completely
>Mom cries to me about our money problems and how bad my dad is being to us
>Mom becomes overprotective
>They aren't aware of the damage they've done to me and blame me completely for how much of a fuck up I am, not realizing that before the divorce I was the perfect son
>never talked about sex or friendships or social stuff just the do good in school type
>never let me do stuff when I showed interest in some hobbies but forced me into normie sports I sucked at
>basically worked all the time and had me raise myself with the shit they bought me
Idk my parents are basically the meme of millionaires who work a lot and never really exist to their child. I never had an irl friend until after college.
You're probably still gonna fuck him up, no matter what you do.
My parents had me in their 40s and my dad wasn't very available even from the start because he lost his dad to dementia not long before i was born. i guess mom overcompensated a bit and became a helicopter mom, like she didn't go back to work after her maternity leave until she found a job as a teacher's assist at my school. not that that really mattered because i somehow fucked up my social life in each and every school i attended anyway. one of my earliest childhood memories is driving my toy truck over a detergent pile from a fight and i remember pulling a knife during one as a kid. I used to think of my dad as some stoic know-it-all humble master tradesman but now i just see that he's a workaholic completely absorbed into how his work makes him feel useful, that just drinks away his regrets and pains each and every night. mom said when i was a teen i was really volatile, lots of anger, depression, rage and hopelessness.. too much for old parents, she literally admitted to giving up on me and distancing herself during those years. i dont blame her for that but back then i felt almost abandonded, all they did was wake me up for school and maybe have dinner. i felt invisible at school and at home.