>Non-smoker 36yo, pick up the occasional pack >go on ground level patio and smoke at around midnight >Young girl walks past then across the street towards me, is calling for a cat that's wandering around >say "hey, do you want help getting your cat?" >she says "oh you scared me" and walks up to my patio >ask her if she's just going for a walk or is bored >"Yeah, just chilling, what are you doing tonight?" >say "just chilling", offer her a smoke and she says "yes please" >she sits beside me and smokes >smoke 3 whole cigs and neither of us say a single thing >ask her if she has something troubling her >"Oh it's just people, people using me" >say "oh, yeah there's a lot of that going on right now" >tell her I'm going to go inside >she asks me again "what are you doing tonight?" >"I'm gonna shower then go watch TV" >Offer her another smoke for the road and ask her name, get "Jules" or "Jewels" >say thanks for the company and send her on her way
I'm so fucking frustrated with this. She was like 15 years younger than me and just plopped right on my lap. She was cute and tiny. I could have railed her all fucking night but I would have been another person using her.
You sound like a kindhearted person user. Maybe you'll meet her again and she'll remember you for being nice.
Jayden Barnes
Marry her. Or leave her alone.
Michael Edwards
Kindness just fucks you over but it does provide a nice sense of smug superiority.
Luke Reed
> I could have railed her all fucking night but I would have been another person using her. Just another person, which would mean it doesn't matter if you used her. It looked like she wanted you to, why the fuck would a girl that's had experience with people "using her" go up to an older man just for a chat? Looked like she wanted you to invite her inside, too. Still, she'd get the impression that not everyone wants to use her, if she was being serious about that. I suppose you did a good thing just chatting with her, OP.
Liam Jenkins
Pretty wholesome, good on ya. Probably could have fucked her, but that would ruin it I think.
Hudson Garcia
I used to do this sort of thing all the time -- just completely ignore the signals women were giving me. It's hard when you have "nice guy syndrome" to break the habits but trust me, it's worth it.
Instead of thinking you were a nice guy, she probably felt rejected, because that's how a lot of women think. It's always best to at least tow the rope (get her number, ask her to see you again soon, etc.) than to just leave it cold.
From an ex-nice guy, I feel your pain man, but you don't have to live like this. Just remember; the next time you're sitting there with a sweet chick for an hour, she's sticking around because she likes you. If she takes any interest in what you're doing, she likes you.
I mean, you can play the nice guy forever, and you'll eventually get laid, but it's no way to live man. Nice guys always get taken advantage of...always. You gotta steer the ship man, steer the ship and tow the line.
Julian Morgan
proud of you user, discipline is important !
Cameron Hughes
why
how much of this is just projection
maybe she wanted you to fuck her
she probably did
Xavier Martinez
I regret not offering her my number. I asked her name and told her mine, I could have used better words like "tonight isn't a great night but it's nice to meet you" or something. I'm always afraid that they're cheating or something, especially when they just complained about being used.
I wanted to use her so bad. I was just looking at her tiny body I know it would have felt so nice to touch her. But I have a FWB I've been seeing every other week and I actually feel like it's cheating... The FWB is completely unrelationshipable so it's pretty shitty to feel this lockdown. I HAD to use that girls words to not fuck her. I could have invited her in and still did nothing but what do I do if she just wants to sleep over? What if she's homeless?
I have literally had an issue with this kind of thing before. Another girl approached me on my patio and asked to come inside, I let her and she ended up acting dodgey and I found out she was on the local mugshots list at 18yrs old, she was avoiding curfew housing. She stole shit and I never fucked her because she was meth damaged.
Hudson Peterson
hmm maybe you did the right thing after all
Owen Reyes
Also I think she made up the cat thing and just was trying to do something infront of me, because the moment I talked to her she never gave a shit about the cat again
Henry Perez
What about the cat? Was it found? I know this is fake but fuck off with the hanging plot thread faggot.
Easton Thomas
I'm with . You can't just include felines in you story like that and then conveniently forget about them.
Gavin White
The cat was some fat pregnant thing walking around outside. She stopped trying to get it. The cat walked into someone's yard and probably shit in their garden. See:
Camden Evans
sounds like a nice experience, good job for being nice and not completely autistic. hopefully you get a chance to hang out with her. gl user o7 hopefully it wasnt malicious or anything and she just wanted your attention.
>I'm so fucking frustrated with this. She was like 15 years younger than me and just plopped right on my lap Your father should have taught you high IQ and consideration will very often backfire against you. An 80 IQ nigger would have laughed and blurted out "ayo bby u wan sum fuk?". That's why they have 8 baby mommas.
Dylan Bailey
>I could have railed her all fucking night >but I would have been another person using her. you were already thinking it, its not like you would have undergone some grand transformation.
Joshua Gutierrez
This op, being a 'nice' guy will get you nowhere in life. I would've done the same in the past and maybe even today, but it's clear what the right choice was. You should've railed her. Better luck next time.
Nathan Morgan
you should have punch her in the stomach and rob her
Joshua Gomez
Pretending this really happened, you did the right thing. If you'd invited her in to fuck and she accepted, there's a 50%+ chance she'd be accusing you of rape the next day. Non-BPD non-homeless non-crackhead girls don't wander around at midnight accepting invitations from strangers. Maybe you'd get off light and wake up to find your watch and laptop missing.
Henry Williams
or you could've just continued hanging out and gotten to know her? besides, if she's okay with getting plowed you're not using her dumbass. how do you faggots remember to breathe?
