How long did it take for you to get over your oneitis?

How long did it take for you to get over your oneitis?

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>How long did it take for you to get over your oneitis?
You never get over it.

There was a girl I thought was insanely beautiful. I was a senior in high school she was a sophomore. We ran into each other by chance at a mall one time. I spent like 3 months trying to get with her but it didn't happen (she was dating a model at the time). I gave up and moved on. 1 year later she texts me and tells me to come over her parents are out of town. I had just 1 week earlier started dating a girl so I said no. Regret.

how do you deal with seen her married and bearing some other mans' kids?

move far away
become a hermit

I'll tell you when it ever happens.
Hint: 3 other relationships and multiple year long dry spells inbetween did not make any dents yet

>how do you deal with seen her married and bearing some other mans' kids?
Alcohol (though I don't advise it as a recovering alcoholic myself).
Maybe try lifting, apparently that works but I wouldn't know.

Had a few oneitis in highschool but once I graduated all those feelings went away. I sometimes think about them but it's been so long that it's just a reminder of how cringy i was. I don't have a social life anymore so it's impossible for me to have another oneitis

took about 4 years. I still dream of her sometimes, but it is not nearly as painful as it used to be

That's not true, I no longer have any feelings for the girls I liked in high school and just after high school. I occasionally jerk off to them now but there's no emotion. That was 8 to 10 years ago though. I'm 28 and managed to find another "oneitis" online and I can't even listen to music or read about sex or relationships without thinking of her. She's not even my type. I wouldn't want to be with her and yet I can't stop longing for her. Doesn't help that my job is menial and pointless and I'm so burned out on my hobbies, in everything, that it's the only thing that holds any meaning for me. I'm desperately trying to find another girl to fixate on but all my attempts failed. I looked for emotionally hurtful cuck porn but there isn't much. I think my friend talked to her once and she said she'd maybe date me if I lived nearby. But she has a boyfriend. She did when I met her too. I didn't have feelings for her back then. Then she bought me a game and we played it together and the feelings already there just intensified. It's so stupid. I tell myself it's only because she's cute, if she was ugly I would not feel this way. That helps a little bit. I don't even jerk off to her. Except to the thought of her being fucked by another man, but I msotly stopped that as well. Oh and I cut contact with her and my friend told her I was in love with her so now she barely talks to me anymore. Now I just want her to come back so I can hear her voice again. I'm an ugly virign and I tried to get laid again and failed. Maybe I should just be an orbiter again. Who cares? I'm not missing out on sex or anything. There's a girl I kind of liked irl but this girl washed away all my interest. I'll ask the irl girl out anyway but it's my last my hope. If it works and I think about the online girl while kissing the irl girl I'm fucking killing myself.

>what simping for Stacy does to a mf

>she said she'd maybe date me if I lived nearby. But she has a boyfriend

This should be a red flag. If she's considering dating someone even if it's you, even if she ultimately decided against it, while she has a bf then she is unloyal end will probably act on that eventually.
I know you don't want to hear it about a oneitis but please consider it a reason why it might be good that you're not together anyway.
Sometimes our obsession with people clouds or judgement to actually see their character.

Don't listen to that retard, he clearly still stalks or associates with her which is a big mistake.
If you have feelings for a girl so strong that it hurts, you need to cut her out of your life completely, you will eventually get over her by doing so.

Sorry bro
Also whee went to meet you while she had a bf? Red flag. Especially since she said she'd consider dating you if things were different. She has a bf and is acting like that.
I know we want to think we are the exception.
But if she does this with you, while she has a bf, she will do it to you if you are the bf. Hopefully this helps get over her as a oneitis. I would seriously question her capacity for loyalty.

>consider it a reason why it might be good that you're not together anyway.
She does drugs. She sells nudes online. Not openly but secretly. She is not my type. We would not be good in a relationship together. I know that. That's why I am so angry at myself for having feelings for her, instead of a girl I know irl who might be a virgin or close to it, who is shy and timid and seems nice. Ok maybe she's a huge whore secretly but the point is on an objective basis I'd prefer the irl girl. But the one online just makes me feel nice. I literally look forward just to seeing her say good morning or hi to everyone, not even me specifically. It's a stupid fixation. She's not considering dating me. I don't even know for certain if she actually said that. I was gonna ask my friend about it cause he's the one she said it to, I wasn't paying attention because back then I didn't like her that much. I didn't even begin to really badly want her until I found out she had s boyfriend and suddenly it hurt worse than anything has in a long time. Even getting rejected by a different girl didn't bother me that much, I stopped caring after 2 days, and even then the only reason I cared about her was that she was a virgin at age 21 so I was upset I missed that. This girl definitely isn't a virgin. But I don't care. Even if she got ganbanged by 50 black cocks I would still want to take her to a haunted house and feel her cling to me, take her to a late summer carnival and win her a stuffed animal. I don't even want sex with her I just want those cute little experiences. I hate feeling like that. And the worst part is I don't even want to experience this with another girl. Not even the cute potentially virgin or just inexperienced girl I have a small chance with irl. No, her I just want to fuck. My brain is seriously messed up.

3 years ongoing.
She just read a message I left her more than two months ago. Didn't answer, as expected. I'll see if she finally blocked me or deleted my number later.

My first oneitis tried to lock me into a cuckold relationship, which threw me off of her orbit. My second one hinted she wanted to trap me with a baby, so I ducked out of that. The third and final oneitis I had eventually randomly got kidnapped by an orbiter and was never seen again (this was back when people talked over skype instead of discord). I only assume she's the mother of many deformed children in some cage in Mexico.
I was blessed with a gf who cucked me once and a second gf who is extremely religious and won't let me fuck her until we're married (and she's scared to marry me at the moment) so I guess God's plan for me is to suffer.

No she lives a thosuand miles away. That's another reason it could never work. She bought me a video game and would hang out with us in voice or video chat. That's all it was. And yet somehow I can't get her out of my head. It is getting a little better. I know it will go away eventually. I can't stand to cut her out of my life entirely because then I'd lose friends i have had for a long time... Online friends but they are still very close to me and I couldn't stand to be without them. Or I could still keep in touch with them but they'd be mad at me. Even though they were the ones who memed me into liking this gril in the first place. They kept saying she was like my soulmate she was perfect for me etc. And then after one revealed she was taken they still encouraged me to go for it. Because they had left their shitty exes in the past for someone better. I observed this happening. And I told them, yes, that worked for you because their new bfs are attarctive men. I am an unattractive man so I cannot do that. Also i don't want to take her from someone she loves. Not that I even could. These two women also left abusive or just awful boyfriends. This isn't that. At least I can get them to admit soemtimes I am beta subhuman garbage. It is nice to hear women admit that soemtimes.

Almost a whole year in 8th grade after telling this Vietnamese girl (yes, yellow fever) that I just wanted to be friends when I was in the wrong stalking her taking pics of her face without permission for myself. I deserved it, yet the mental pain was absolutely brutal. It carried on for about a few years even with some of these other girls from long distance being blocked by them. As I'm about to turn 20 years old, I lost every bit of self esteem because of these experiences. I like ladyboys now. I'm surprised that I don't feel suicidal yet.

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You sound like a massive creep. I took creepshots too but stalking her is fucked. Sorry you were in pain. I can't understand feeling romantic love for an Asian woman but that's just me. Hope you feel better. Don't become a tranny or fuck ladyboys.

About 5 years of forcing myself to think about other stuff when I thought about her. Now I don't think about her at all.

What do you mean by "get over"?