I'm 28 years old and there's no possible way I can ever get "better" because the source of my problems is my...

I'm 28 years old and there's no possible way I can ever get "better" because the source of my problems is my personality and extreme shyness that I have had since I was conscious. I think I only realised the extent of it recently. Realising that males like me are actually quite rare.
Even most people on this board likely seem like extroverts irl compared to me. I couldn't even deal with going to university because I could barely utter a single sentence in class.
I can even drink almost a whole bottle of scotch and still be shy. It's truly a curse that dictates my entire life.

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Exposure therapy. You have to throw yourself out into the danger.

What do you think of Japan?
Have you ever gone?
I heard shy guys do better. There's assertive women. Gaijin hunters

Tried it. Doesn't work. I just fail a thousand times over if not get worse because with each failure I become more ostracised and self aware

>I'm 28 years old and there's no possible way I can ever get "better" because the source of my problems is my personality and extreme shyness that I have had since I was conscious

The good news is: it's fixable user. The bad news: you'll first have to give up your defeatest attitude and embrace the suffering until you make it.

and yet here you are
if it does not get better why are you posting this?
why you still need attention or sympathy?
haven't you got everything figured out already?
so why your actions don't match your words?

You have a immense potential OP. And I'm not talking in a "uwu it's all going to be better sense", that's bullshit. In a psychology sense, the bigger the anxiety the higher the potential when beating it.
If you can solve this problem, it'll give you an experience that only a few people can get.

On a side note: Your anxiety affects your ability to retain information and learn? Just asking

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how is it fixable? Studies have shown that introversion and extroversion are basically a fixed metric. Sure I could possibly emulate a normal person occasionally which I have done but the only reward is extreme exhaustion. You can't change your inherent nature through practice. That's like saying I could turn into a fish if I just went swimming 8 hours a day

Introversion isn't shyness, dumbass. I'm a heavy introvert but I power through interactions because I'm not a bitch. Learn to be dominant.

I have some social anxiety but it is not entirely a social anxiety thing. I only developed anxiety after repeated rejection and bullying for my natural personality. Even when I remove all anxiety I am still extremely shy. Socialisation does not remotely come naturally to me. When I see other people having a conversation it's like a completely alien experience. No amount of practice or learning "social skills" helps with this

>power through interactions

how do I "power through interactions" when I'm virtually incapable of speaking or thinking of anything to say?

>I power through interactions because I'm not a bitch. Learn to be dominant.
oh boy

you remind me a lot of myself but I've never tried to use the alcohol cheat

>thinking of anything to say?
Why do you think this is an unsolvable problem? This part you can fix quite simply.

>I'm virtually incapable of speaking
Practice confident greetings, in front of the mirror if you have to. Stop being a bitch.

I'm not going to continue a discussion with someone who thinks that this complex problem can be solved with "not being a bitch". You don't understand it and are nothing like me

for now give up socializing. Until you solve your general anxiety it'll infect every facet of your life.
And about being shy don't give a fuck about it, no one cares about. Don't worry about this.
Worry about the fact that you are worrying constantly.
Now asking again: Your anxiety affects your ability to retain information and learn? If not I can show you some materials to deal with it.
Also
>Socialisation does not remotely come naturally to me. When I see other people having a conversation it's like a completely alien experience.
you seen to have traits of autism or aspergers.
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although it doesn't come to the point I'm trying to make. But even then just to make sure do a terapy session to deal with this.

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>is given two pieces of advice
>gives up because he is sceptical of one

I'm more right than you'll ever know. Guess you'll just be the bitch under my thumb because you can't fix shit.

alcohol is definitely a crutch. When I did have a minor social life I never socialised without it. It can help in many respects but if you are forced to hang out with people while sober they'll be weirded out when confronted with the real you.

The first step in getting better is not placing yourself beyond the possibility. Maybe you can, maybe you can't. But it's a stone cold guarantee if you don't believe the possibility exists.

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man I know that kind of feel. I sit in social situations and people just have effortless conversation with each other and it's totally bizarre. Generally I have no desire to say anything but even when I do say shit people don't even give me anything but short responses and won't look at me, there is no "hook" for conversation

Your personality can change, with enough work. Think of what your life could be without this social anxiety? You can get past it user, not by yourself though, get some help from google.

>Your anxiety affects your ability to retain information and learn? If not I can show you some materials to deal with it.
dump it anyway

>there is no "hook" for conversation
Good boy. Now you're starting to think about it. Think harder and you might solve the problem, bitch.

It is definitely not, I used to be a massive extrovert, and now I spend all my free time alone.

Your "advice" is just vague normalfag shit that completely glosses over the details that I've described.

I've said it before and I'll say it again. The social anxiety is a by product of people's rejection of me. As a kid before I had social anxiety I was virtually a mute.

stop writing like that it's annoying

This is why we need legal euthanasia. It's so fucking painful, time consuming and inefficient to spend years trying to change oneself to MAYBE have a decent future if something else doesn't fuck up in the mean time.

Just fuck life.

What are you going to do about it? You're nothing.

You're a retard, your other piece of "advice" was literally just telling him it is easily fixed without telling him how.

So you are just to whine about and get validation?

You type like some 16 year old edgy normalfag

no, user, you.

and now that you don't get your validation you leash out on everyone trying to help you?

The obvious answer is that you can LEARN conversational skills.

>oh my what do I talk about

LEARN obvious hooks, retard.

validation? What are you talking about? I'm simply describing my life experience and seeing if other's relate. It's cathartic as I have no where else in the world to vent these problems as everywhere else will just give me that same vague normalfag advice that I've tried an infinite amount of times.

stop replying to that retard

So you are describing your feeling to others so see if they are valid? Don't you think everyone here that tried to help you also deal with hard shit but most wouldn't leash out to people trying to help them?

Sure you can. But normalfags are extremely adept at noticing tiny subtle things that oust you as a shy weirdo. It could be one split second glance or a weird body movement. Also the harder that I larp as a normalfag the harder I crash meaning I will be even weirder and more shy after I spend that energy

>You don't understand it and are nothing like me
I'm not that other guy, but I understand it and am exactly like you.

From the OP it sounds like you know what you are but wish you weren't that. Step one is stopping that crap. You aren't a bird and you can't fly, nor are you an extrovert and you won't ever socialize well.

Introverts are 35%+ of the population and we're hanging in there just fine. I'm guessing you had horrible social interactions as a child when you tried to mingle among extroverts and you got burned and now you're scared of them.

That's normal, but as others have already said it's just like every other phobia. Arachnophobes will never love spiders, but through therapy they can get to the point where they can live in a house that might have a spider in the corner without freaking out.

Then go hang in the nerd circle, it's not hard.

Nah he's mad at you because you're annoying

>leash out
lmao get out of here you smelly mexican

Most of this "help" are essentially insults disguised as "advice". If you actually processed and understood what I'm saying you'd realise this "help" you're trying to give me is completely useless. I've literally tried all of these things my entire life. Do you honestly think I've never thought to just "learn some conversational skills bro"

Yea, after 4 minutes in this thread I wonder why your life didn't turn like you wanted to.

I'm the same age as you and suffer from the same problem, been a shutin since I was 19

There's no real cure when you've been and agoraphobic schizoid that long. You can achieve some degree of control over it and force yourself to do things but it will always flare back up.

Maybe that's true. Maybe I just dealt a bad hand with who I had around me in life. All I know is that I've essentially been persecuted for merely existing in every social sphere I've ever been in.

more just world fallacy insults. Have to assert that domination in any way possible wherever you go right norman?