Anyone else here completely un-prepared for life thanks to their parents? mine coddled me and did everything for me...now I'm almost 26 and realizing I am completely unprepared for the job I've been offered. I have never tinkered with a computer or fixed IT issues, and I am expected to go into an IT support role soon. I am anxious, afraid, terrified...I don't know the first thing about computers (besides using them like anyone), same as I don't know anything about vehicles, mechanics, even how to fix things around the house. Mostly due to never being taught those things by my parents. They wanted the best for me and did what they could...but ultimately killed me with kindness. Idk what to do.
Anyone else here completely un-prepared for life thanks to their parents? mine coddled me and did everything for me...
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Robert Bailey
>dont know anything about vehicles and mechanics
thats what mechanics are for
>how to fix things around the houes
learn on the fly its not difficult. read some guides on the internet specifically made for people who neve rlearned house skills. I'd say the majority of young people are in the same situation as you stop worrying over it so much. you can pick up these skills over time theres no requirement to know all this shit straight away. google "new houseowner guide no experience" and alternatives of that..
You need to stop blaming your parents so much. Youre saying they killed you because... you never learned how to become a mechanic?? or to take apart a computer? Whats stopping you from doing it right now. You need to be less harsh on yourself and accept that this is partly your anxiety and or depression problem that needs addressing.
Whe nyou get into work you can literally just go up to your colleagues and ask to shadow them and give you adivce until youre fully competent. IT support is basic shit. itll be sorting out old boomers who dont know why their printer isnt working (turned off) and shit like that. relax.
strive to be better and youll be fine. part of growing up is realising that you have 16 waking hours a day and thats a lot of time to specialise in something. you cant keep blaming your past for why you suck. you coulda spent 8 hours today studying IT support. did you?
Daniel Jenkins
Congrats user you landed the perfect job for someone like yourself. With IT work you'll be called on for the most basic of computer problems, what you think of as common sense is basically rocket science to the boomers you'll be talking to. When all else fails googling specific problems will be your saving grace, good luck user
Nicholas Peterson
fathers are supposed to teach their kids a trade tho.
Anthony Ramirez
I mean, my parents didn't teach me about any of those things. I think that's kind of standard.
Anyway, have you seen the old greentext chain about the IT guy who knows absolutely nothing and spends all day playing games? It's hilarious.
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Nicholas Wright
so? Loads of people grow up eating stale food in mud huts. count your lucky stars youre in the western world where you can make it if you work hard, and start working hard
Did you work hard today? Why not? You cant blame your parents for that
Chase Thompson
Listen, user, nothing will change for the better if you don't go forward. Forget the fear, think of all good things that job can bring you. Just jump down and learn to fly while falling.
Kevin Gray
two wrongs don't make a right, go shove your "tough" "love" and strawman wherever your head is.
Jonathan Gonzalez
blaming your parents for not teaching ypu a "trade" kek what is this 1300? they sent you to school didnt they? you learned to read, write and do math didnt you? congratulations youre fit to do most jobs.
Austin Murphy
its not even tough love and its not a strawman. Go speak to any psychologist and theyll reaffirm what I'm saying. The moment someone develops some victim complex where they can safely retreat to "oh well Its not my fault because my parents didnt teach me how to play grade 8 piano and take apart a motorcycle and put it back together because that would ahve solved my depression" mindset then theyre fucked.
And someone who learns to take responsibility for their life, even if their lfie isnt fair, then they can start to make progress. You need to take a good look at yourself.
>My parents have killed me because they didnt teach me how to look after a house or a car.
Fucking come on man. Youre a 26 year old adult. What have you done with your lfie in the last 8 years as an official adult? Is all that your parents fault too? At what age will you start to take responsibility for yourself? Will you ever?
Parker Hughes
I did IT as an internship for 6 months. The thing I dreaded the most was taking phone calls. Sometimes the callers would have very simple issues that I knew how to solve, but sometimes they had more advanced issues that I had no clue where to begin.
I don't know how high their expectations are of you, but my advice is to just take the phone calls and write down their name, phone number and what the issue is in the ticket. By default I would tell the caller that we'll come back on the issue soon, and I would pass the ticket to the level 2 technicians. Only if it's something simple like "my browser is not responding" would i solve it myself.
But again, I was an intern, I don't know if they expect you to solve everything. Just be honest and say that you need some experience before you can solve more tickets.
Jason Howard
Thanks anons, that helps a lot
And thank you user, that's put my mind at ease massively. It just dawned on me that I am not one of those experienced and useful people that know how to fix things and make stuff. But maybe I am over-reacting, and it will be fine because I can learn on the job by shadowing someone and asking questions. I did spend at least 2 hours today trying to learn about IT support and what it entails using Coursera. But it still feels very 'general', and I don't feel confident that I will be able to do what's needed of me. I do suffer from anxiety and depression, and that seems to be hitting quite hard right now. I am very self-critical and lack self-esteem too. So that could also be factoring into it. But you are right about so many things, I am probably over-thinking this and being melodramatic. Cheers fren.
Dominic Jones
they forced me into school and they only taught the most useless crock, honestly would've been better off with an hour of Internet and an hour of touching grass a day.
or just. a. few. good. books. and kek at "most jobs", I couldn't even become an apprentice plumber or baker without doing two years slaving away at a shitty job while paying to be taught a very low-end trade curriculim.
>psychologist
paragraph discarded, what's next.
>someone who learns to take responsibility for themselves
that's what parents are supposed to teach. my learning it without them is precisely what proves them to have been shit parents, it's the process in which you realize and learn to cope with the degree of childhood neglect you've suffered if you havent't learned that at home.
>other stuff
now you're definitely confusing me with the op.
Matthew Long
Men are supposed to take responsibility for their own lives instead of blaming others for their shortfalls.
Gavin Brooks
Thanks fren, I will be an apprentice in this position, so I will be expected to not know everything. But I am not someone who has a background in knowing the ins and outs of computers (I don't even have a PC). So I am kinda worried I'll be clueless to even some super basic shit.
Asher Watson
yeah I did confuse you for the OP. OP seems like a reasonable guy. You however seem rotten. you have that vitriolic lose rmindset where youll never get better and youll always blame everyone for it
Hunter Long
Jesus Christ, are you a man or woman?
Mason Jenkins
oh so you sharted your way through school, didnt learn anything, and now youre mad? got it... remember kids, school time is for learning
Dylan Long
I'm just waiting to see how she'll try to pin her idiocy on her parents
Christian Nguyen
yeah, and "fathers" who don't teach their sons to become men, aren't more than sperm donors in practice and reality.
its a personal responsibility to hold others responsible for their roles, each role has its own responsibilities.
fugly cope to pretend that reminding others of their responsibilities would be "being irresponsible".
Caleb Howard
We get it, you're unable to do anything in life.
Camden Sanders
have fun with your child neglect denial club while it lasts.
Jason Garcia
I thought I had a pretty good understanding of computers, but the issues I got were things that are specific to business environments (servers, VPN's, VoIP). You'll get experience with that with time.
But again, IT support is like 75% communication and 25% technical knowledge. Focus on just writing down the name and their issue/question. Pass it on to your coworkers. Just hearing about the kind of problems you'll face will give you some familiarity.
Jeremiah Nelson
Go learn a trade (or anything productive) instead of going on about your daddy issues, woman.
Luis Diaz
Have fun with your personal neglect instead of amounting to anything, girl
Christopher Jones
>Idk what to do.
The only thing you can really do is commit yourself to not giving up. That, and always search everything on the internet.
Aiden Allen
Suicide is the only option for out little woman
Luke Brown
im not denying child neglect. but I am telling you right now with certainty if oyu ever have kids youll fuck them up too because youll never take responsibility for your life
>oh I fucked my kids up too but its not my fault because my parents fucked me up.
You can ride that train all the way back to the first ever cell when it divided. then blame the first ever cell for dividing wrong.
Xavier Martinez
Op can't even go to school. It is in no danger to reproduce