Bi tomboy cis f

>bi tomboy cis f
>kinda clumsy and spacey and ditzy but I make life work
>mix of cis male and cis female friends
>dont analyse our dynamics that much, but can feel my cis m friends treat me quite differently from how my cis f friends treat me
>befriend an ftm
>110% passoid, genuinely no one can tell he is trans
>brain goes into autopilot and copy-pastes how I interact with my cis male friends
>he's told me twice by now that he dislikes me "treating him like a big brother"

What does that mean and how do I stop doing it? He fully physically passes as male, and I think that's part of the struggle here. Do I need to act more protective and do certain things for him or? What does it mean by I'm acting like a little sister? Do I try to imagine myself as a man to act like a man? Do I try my best to imagine him as a woman in my mind's eye even though he literally completely appears male in daily life?

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Go ask him what he means by that, dum dum

big brother can mean a lot of different things. do you act like a spoiled brat around him? or maybe he's mad you don't see him as a potential love interest or something? maybe he just has a personal hangup or something about it.

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Tits or gtfo

your right again friend

All the detail he'll say is "I feel like I have to take care of you" (he says that a lot) and "you rely on me (to do things)". But it's really just little things to me?

E.g. he suggests we go pick up wine, and he's the wine expert, so of course I wait for him to pick and then he buys it (I pay him half later) and he carries it. Or we're going to his friend's house (not my friend's) so he's the one using google maps and telling me when to get off the bus. Or my phone is down so he calls the taxi for me, or I didnt bring tissues so I get one from him, those little things. And ok yeah sometimes I get lost easily but that's how it is my whole life, and it's not like it's his problem, just that he calls out to me if I'm out with him and going in the wrong direction. Or I'm holding my chopsticks wrong or I'm eating some food item wrong and yada yada, and he tells me, but also I'm been doing those things "wrongly" my whole life and I'm not dead yet. I do ask him if he wants dinner sometimes and buy it for him, so it doesnt feel like I'm relying too much on him, or am I? I literally live alone so I know I can take care of myself when I'm not around him.

Now do I just try to carry the stuff he's carrying, and take over the navigation or? I might be over-focusing on details. Just assume he cant do things and treat him accordingly, instead of assuming he'll do it for the both of us, right?

>Just assume he cant do things and treat him accordingly, instead of assuming he'll do it for the both of us, right?
you don't have to assume he's incapable wtf. just do things when you realize they have to be done and when you can't then you can ask. it sounds like he's mostly just annoyed that you rely on him as if it were natural. it might be ok for a boyfriend but for a friend you should probably show a little restraint

He may pass for male but he was still raised and socialized as a female. You're trying to occupy the same role he was taught all his life to occupy.

he's too used to being treated like a woman, you're not doing anything wrong he's just used to not having to be the one to have initiative to do things

Honestly he does all those little things so much better than me, that's how we fell into this, but you're right that likely he wants me to do some stuff as if I'm alone there even if I end up doing it more shittily

FTMs are more delusional than transwomen. They want to pick and choose parts of being a man like a fucking grocery list. They bitch about the disadvantages constantly

have u never met an MTF? lol they constantly bitch about misogyny (which is fair but like, it's definitely not limited to FTMs)

yes, exactly. it's just a pain to be friends with someone who expects you to do everything. but don't just make a token effort, idk how you can possibly do basic tasks like google maps shittily but if you just half ass it and wait for him to do it for you that's even more annoying.

tell him welcome to manhood.

ahah I actually have an older brother and treat him that way exactly

He doesn't know how to appreciate a pretty girl giving him attention, an idiot!

Building off of this, OP, he might think you're flirting and doesn't like that you flirt and treat him like a big bro

Just tell him that you're retarded and that's why you get lost easily/do the other things you do

Visibly cringed at this. Why are pooners like this.

But what if I do lowkey kind of want to bang him (uh again), would me getting out of little-sister mode therefore lower my chances? Or is it still a good idea, since me acting differently would basically stop annoying him?

>just ask him to fuck you already
we tried that before and he didnt like the experience and I dont want to pester him