my older autistic brother came out to me last night, or at least he told me that he "doesn't think he's a man." i said something like, "ok, i'm here for you," just trying to not ruin the vibes or make him hate me forever
what do i do? i'm kinda borderline and i'm a lot better at managing my shitty brain, like a month ago i would've blown up, but like that was Just Not what i needed. i know i need to be there for him/them/her but i don't believe that they're actually trans. like i've been out for years, on hormones since i was 18, they've been in queer spaces since they were in middle school, been on tumbler and reddit all the while, and JUST NOW in 2022 they realized that they're trans???? i'm open about my transition stuff and how i realized and he never thought to introspect a single time until he's just about to turn 25? i don't buy it One Bit
I'm a total freak aesthetically, and i actually put a ton of fucking effort into my appearance and i've always been way more feminine than him. he's going to look worse than chris chan 1234567%
but i don't know how to tell him all that without hurting his feelings and i don't think there's any way to get him to realize that he doesn't really want to transition besides letting him fuck up his life and body even more. the thought of him in a dress or an agp skirt gives me so much secondhand dysphoria
how do y'all cope with a sibling with social contagion
My brother thinks he's a tranny
You should top her and see how she responds
you have terminal brainworms and generally seem like a horrible fucking sister.
he wants the attention that troons get
at least im trying to not be horrible and i was able to keep all that in. but i feel like they knew something was up. i hate my brain so much i don't want to be a terrible sister i just don't believe him. at all
i think he just thinks it will cure his depression or something
help
explain to your brother very slowly about how hard being a tranny is, let him know you need dysphoria to be trans and how starting at his age is pointless
Ngl it's hard to take your appraisement of the situation being borderline. Estrogen is a good thing for autistics emotional intelligence. Pretty sure it's been studied too...
But just let him fuck up if he's going to fuck up. You can't really make someone desist.
I know its hard to be a tranny then you got your autistic ugly fat brother wanting to join you. Maybe it would do him well in a way? Like how could anyone be worse than Chris chan, just try not to die of embarrassment.
HAHAHA the bpd demon trying to "help" her sister by being a transphobic piece of shit to her.
you don't know how they feel or what they'll even look like after if they pull off a decent transition. i can tell you're just going to project whatever internalized transphobia you have onto your sibling.
ok thanks this is helpful. i realize now that i haven't opened up to him about the traumatic aspects of being trans, what its like to not be able to tell yourself that those people aren't actually staring or laughing at you, or getting harassed and not feeling safe in public at night or when alone. i don't think i can tell him that dysphoria is mandatory though because then he'll just write me off as a transphobe or some bs
either he desists or i don't think i can ever go out in public with him ever again
you don't know anything about me bitch.
>i don't think i can ever go out in public with him ever again
why are passoids so cruel to us hons
it's got BPD so this one is particularly more evil than your average person.
nice trips. just make sure to be loving but honest about the pain. really drill it home how awful it can be at the start and how for a lot of people its just impossible.
commit unalive
retard i have bpd too, it makes you look unhinged when you go out of your way to make posts like these
sorry user, there's too many of you that are just like the op
i literally don't pass either. i'm just not a norwood 4, 6'2, and 40+ bmi
i have a lot of compassion for gigahons, but i'm done with being seen as a freak
Well I am sure him transitioning will mean way more to him, than going out in public with you. So it's not a big threat for him I imagine.
For you bdd/ bpd passoids...
They are unhinged and not used to the pressure of actually being visibly trans, and they project every ounce of there self hate on you. What you are, is how they think everyone see's them.
I've been questioning my gender since I was 15. And had lots of dysphoria even before that. I turn 22 at the end of the month and still haven't transitioned. I was too scared for a long time. But its just sorta unbearable. So I dropped out of college and got a job so I can get hrt. My point is you don't know what your siblings life has really been life and what experiences have shaped them. Why not check and see what they have to say about that. Try to be there for them? Maybe advise caution or just exploring things not normally associated with their assigned gender. You don't have to be a woman or nonbinary to wear a skirt or have "typical" non masc associated hobbies.
>what you are is how they think everyone else sees them
Omg this is literally it this is why i hate every trans person and cant be friends with them
>you don't know what your siblings life has really been life
yes but i really really really don't think he's transgender. maybe they're nonbinary if that's really a thing, but i mean, how does it just never come up. i feel like if i ask him about it he'll just bring up a bunch of stupid examples of times he thought he felt dysphoria, and conform it to 'the narrative.' but it's normal to feel some amount of dysphoria, especially since he's autistic. i don't think that makes him trans? and i feel like it would be really shitty to him to have him go through this emotional story and then tell him, "Yeah... maybe you should see a therapist i'm not convinced..."
for real but also this is the case for anyone you look down on. i dont want people knowing that i hang out with people who i know i'm better than. but i think its probably a problem if you feel like you're better than all other trannies
its crazy how quick a trans person is able to go back to having zero empathy for their fellow trans people once theyve made it
passing literally changes you to become devoid of empathy
just start bone pilling him
>and i feel like it would be really shitty to him to have him go through this emotional story and then tell him, "Yeah... maybe you should see a therapist i'm not convinced..."
except this is what you're doing? aren't you going to tell him to desist because you don't think he's trans enough (despite them haven't even starting their transition yet lol, but you're judging the shit of them as if they've already transitioned into a hon)?
piece of shit
ur dumb i literally don't pass i already said that. i have empathy for self aware hons i even have empathy for non self aware hons too, i just can't associate myself with them
i agree in principle however i can't let him think of me as transphobic or irrational or brainwormed
She was repressed.
Glad i could make it apparent.
Passing trannies not only lack empathy in some cases, but they will vehemently dislike you far more than the average person to.
Borderline hate to "you should just kill yourself, unironically, you lazy pervert."
Your presence literally pains them.
i guess im trying to do the inception thing, convince him that he convinced himself to desist