Be me

>be me
>21 year old transgirl dating a 23 year old guy
>love him very much
>he tells me that, from ages 13-15, he was a transphobe because his family was transphobic, and he just blindly went along with whatever they said
>at 15 he realized that transphobia was wrong and turned over a new leaf
>tfw not sure if I can be with him anymore
>I will always wonder if there's any remnants of his former transphobic self
>I will always wonder if he secretly hates me
>I can never trust him again

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I'm trans and a phobe so idk troon

Reality check: anyone can become transphobic at any time, even trans people.

Another reality check: people who change their minds about politics/social issues rarely change their minds back.

if he's not lying and he really turned over a new leaf at 15 on his own I think you should give him a chance. normies have a really hard time wrapping their minds around trans stuff, unless it's urgent and immediately relevant to them they won't even think twice they'll just repeat whatever blood libel the right wing press fed them.

the real questions are, would he marry you and do his parents know.

Long term this could be a problem if he's close to the family and you don't pass. But I think it makes a lot of sense for a literal child to be transphobic if their family tells them it's like s pervert groomer pedo cult or whatever. You should be proud your bf has his own pov.

he was a dumb kid and is better now. do you still define yourself by what you did when you were 13?

You love him, dont self sabotage that over something that really doesnt matter

i was transphobic as a kid too, now i'm trans. so what, should i kill myself? lol. my dad told me as a kid that trans people were sick and mutilated their bodies. i believed it because i was a dumbass kid and didn't know any trans people (or had any source of info to prove my dad wrong at all). once i got a little older, i met trans people and realized my dad was dead wrong about them.

my point, you're self-sabotaging. your bf is being incredibly open and real with you about his life. understand that's rare and you're lucky. and search yourself hard to figure out why you are trying to blow up the relationship over something that "might" happen.

he's *dating* you. come on op, he wouldn't do that if he felt that way about you, and he especially wouldn't have told you that

Literally 95% of people were transphobic at age 15 lmao. I’m transphobic today and I’m trans. He was honest and told you about his past, why not trust him?

im a tranny and even i was transphobic for a time while repping
anyway hes being honest with you and thats something to admire and if he was still transphobic why would he be dating a tranny?