How do I stop attracting people who are only with me cause they decided to settle for someone

How do I stop attracting people who are only with me cause they decided to settle for someone
t. bpd mtf

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that's kinda how most people end up
people have ridiculous ideas about the kind of partner they deserve then slowly lower their expectations until they meet someone

nice one OP you dodged a piece of shit. no one should settle for love. but you're also a retard trying to date on discord.

its just easier for us to communicate there than over text, we've met up plenty of times

What does he mean?

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>I need a woman but I will settle because I am literally so thirsty for sex I am dying here

The context is that I'm the closest they've gotten to an ideal partner and that message was basically that even though ive been closer than anyone else, im still way way off from who they want

he sounds like a shit person, dump the dude

all their previous relationships were with cis women

>previous

what

unironically 99% of relationships are built on people who've "settled." the majority of people don't set realistic expectations for themselves when it comes to romance and just take what lands in their lap instead. really not that big of a deal imo, if you love and are attracted to each other even if you're less than the perfect ideal who cares. you're never going to be someone's "perfect" unless you're a supermodel with billionaire parents and pornstar proportions
but also
>bpd
so you probably have mentally abused and torn down this man to the point he's saying this just to hurt you back so i don't take this thread at face value sorry

How are you off from it?

>bpd
Lol get fucked. You deserve it.

first off you are BPD therefore you don't deserve love

/thread

Fuck him user, get that shit out of your life A$AP.

they want someone who understands them completely and has dealt with the same pain they have, but they also do things like judge me whenever im vulnerable or get upset at me when I try to relate to their feelings. theyre very non specific in who their ideal partner is but swears they'll know when the meet the person
we're bpd for bpd
ok

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Correct
All relationships require compromise, so settling isn't dismissal, it's just finding the best you can actually obtain and maintain.

>bpd for bpd
user the only thing worse than a bpd tranner is a bpd cism wtf are you doing??

I don't view relationships through an ideal, I view them through a lens of do they fit well with my values and what I desire in my partner. I'm not exactly sure who my ideal partner would be if I had to make one up.
she's a repressor but shes gonna start hrt soon its complicated
also we have really good chemistry, i dont have to deal with neurotypicals not understanding and i dont have to deal with npd people taking advantage of my bpd

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>they want someone who understands them completely and has dealt with the same pain they have,
I've spoken to a BPD person who was exactly like that lol. Did they have a trad gf in the past? If so I might've known that person.

oh geez

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