I can't even imagine going to shop for clothes without feeling like some sort of embarrassment to trans people as a whole..
I've been on hrt for 2 years and still don't feel like I deserve to gender affirming things... Let alone come out and have people see me as a girl
go to goodwill in the morning on a weekday, its always empty
easiest way probably online
you can also go shop with your girl friends
I just can't bring myself to walking up to a cashier with feminine clothing knowing they'll probably see me as some degenerate perverted freak...
I don't have friends or socialize I only go to class and back to my dorm
picrel
literally nobody cares as long as your credit card isn't declined
This is disgusting and why I won't do it. I may be a perma boymoder but I have the decency to know that is be seen as some kind of disgusting pervert I'd I went into a place like this. I'm not going to make normal women feel uncomfortable
I mean it is shad
Omg literally NO ONE gives a shit buy the dress dumbass
Yeah no one is going to care when I come in looking like a guy with tits looking at feminine clothing.. I'm not going to further add to the stereotypes that people believe about trans women
Go to thrift stores, nobody there cares. I have been talking to this boymoders who owns zero female clothes and yesterday I took her to a thrift store (in the gay part of town) just so she would be as comfortable as possible trying stuff on. She was really pretty when she had the right clothes and I bought her a few outfits. I was really proud of her because I know it's scary the first time, but eventually you get used to it as you feel more comfortable with yourself.
I'm not out to a single person and don't have friends.. I've been on hrt this entire time with no form of support and doing something like that is just asking for myself to be humiliated and harassed.
I've honestly dug myself into this grave and it's really my own fault that I'll probably be only seen as a man for the rest of my life
you should research your body type, buy some clothes that fit you online first
once you are comfortable girlmoding, you can try buying and trying them on stores
I doubt there's such a thing as clothes that would fit my male shaped body
sure there is, female body come in different shapes too
You actually sound a lot like her. I made sure I took her to places that were safe for us because I've shopped there before when I was honmoding. I also took her to the safe ulta and gave her some instructions on how to do basic makeup. She's been on hrt for so long and is so pretty but doesn't have any of the clothes/makeup/hair/voice stuff. I'm getting her in contact with a voice training coach who is a speech pathologist at the local college, who offers voice feminization training at rates prorated to your income. I've made some appointments to get our hair done together at a trans positive salon, and I have a private cosmetician who is cool with people like us that I'm going to take her to to get our eyebrows done together. She doesn't have any real friends so I'm trying to convince her to give the LGBT org at her college a try.
Ive been talking with my therapist about other lbgt pychs in our city and I was able to provide her a short list, and I'm going to subsidize part of the cost of it if she is willing to go.
I have a lot of faith that she can be pulled out of the rut that's she's in, and she seems to want desperately to get out of it, she just needs a little help. The only reason I was able to make it to where I am is because I had a tranny who helped me with all this stuff when I was a baby trans. One day this boymoder will end up helping someone else and hopefully the cycle can continue.
Seconding this. If you have goodwill bins near you those are great. They’re unsorted so you don’t have to feel weird in womens section. And they’re charged by the pound so it’s low risk if it doesn’t fit and they won’t go through each individual item if that stresses you out
What is this retarded world you've built in your head where everyone will go out of their way to stop and stare and ridicule you for trying on clothes? Like are you really so much of a narcissist that you think literally anyone gives two shits about you enough to constantly be watching and judging you and then will publicly ridicule you for it? NO ONE CARES BUY THE DRESS
user... no cis woman is built like me... infact no other trans woman probably looks as bad as I do nearly 2 years on hrt...
well im not her and will probably continue to suffer and die alone always seen as a man to others
No point when im built like a man still
I knew posting my body would kill the thread haha
Stay miserable then idfc
it's not so bad, you just need to find the style that fit you
also do hip abduction exercise to make your hip look bigger which can salvage the situation a bit