How much would an appropriate engraved memorial cost?
This 13 year old trans kid who was in my class killed himself 5 years ago and I never got over it.
I was extremely jealous that he was socially transitioning and I should have done more for him. His parents were straight up abusing him and he got buried under his deadname after he committed suicide. All the memorials created for him got vandalised.
People cracked jokes about the kid after he passed and I still feel immensely guilty since he didn’t deserve that.
I seem to be the only one that never forgot and I feel like I should put something up.
Idk, google it. But your plan is very wholesome and I approve of it, even if the kid developed dysphoria from abuse.
Ian Martin
He started getting abused after he came out as trans when he was 11
Lucas Long
You could always vandalise the original grave to replace the deadname.
Tyler Flores
Honestly based, do this at the very least
Lucas Taylor
this takes about 5 minutes to google and maybe half that to call up a vendor or two for quotes
Ryan Wilson
I’m here for unique suggestions user, I already googled it
Luis Cook
No idea where he was buried, his parents stopped his close friends from going to the funeral and no one has any idea where he was buried
Hudson Jones
>after he passed if he passed why did he kill himself?
Xavier Flores
user it’s a nice way of saying after he died. Not passing in the tranny way, passing as in after he keeled over and died
Mason Bell
>trannies don’t ever pass until they pass away
Anthony Torres
I'm not an expert but I'm pretty sure all graves are documented somewhere. Try findagrave.com/ if you're in the US. Or better yet give the deadname and me and a few other anons might attempt to dig around.
Joshua Cox
thoughtful gesture user but consider the following: - you have no idea where he’s buried - you have no meaningful relation to him - you have at best a theory why he committed suicide - you have no clue if he would have detransitioned one day in the future - you likely do not have money to afford such a thing - no one else remembers him or even knows where his grave is to appreciate the gesture; who would see your memorial and what goodwill would it bring them?
this is not to say he doesn’t deserve a proper stone in the ground commemorating his short 13 years on this world, I am just saying that there’s not much you can do.
Colton Martinez
>you have at best a theory why he committed suicide user have you ever met a 13 year old? They were fucking vicious to me as a kid and I wasn't even trans. Do you think he killed himself for some unrelated reason? >you have no clue if he would have detransitioned one day in the future And he won't because he's dead. His future self will never exist, so he's best commemorated by the name he preferred when alive.
Samuel Reyes
I was friends with a lot of his friends I looked up to the guy and talked to him a lot in class He told his friends why he committed suicide before he did and his friends told me as we shared similar social groups
Jack White
i know of something special you could do but its pricey, I'm going to get one for my goddess eventually
its a laser engraved (photo capable) stone tablet that will be installed permanently at this monument installation a guy spend his life building in a tiny town named after his deceased wife in the california desert
check it out also look up the town for more stuff Felicity CA
you can buy them and get a duplicate to keep for yourself or give to the family or something or mayve ask the school to do something with it too
thats a memorial that will last, granite
Grayson Jones
Also this He wouldn’t have detransioned because his future self never existed and there was no way of knowing if he would have detransioned.
If this was a 13 year old trans girl the detrans part would have never been brought up. He wanted to be only known as sam
Jayden Diaz
Based, thank you tripfag
Chase Butler
jesus christ it's like the poor kid just dropped off the face of the earth and was forgotten in time that's fucking horrifying i can't imagine a fate like that. just shushed away and buried under your deadname and everybody forgets about you because your parents hid everything from your friends absolute nightmare fuel
but either way user i'm glad to hear you still care. i hope you can honor his memory as best you can. still, actually heartbreaking to hear that story. i hope he's in a better place
David Nelson
Which is exactly why I’m doing it, I want something more permanent.
His friends put up a laminated piece of paper in a spot near an abandoned building in the woods with this weird shrine thing made out of old bricks.
The piece of paper has faded so I’d like something more permanent
