Im a trans girl and this 43 year old guy on tinder wants to take me on a date. He thinks we should go on a hike in the local nature preserve.
Is he gonna kill me or rape me?
I already looked for a criminal record on him and he has nothing but a parking ticket from a few years ago.
Maybe just my paranoia talking but I would not go anywhere that isn't in public on the first dates. Hiking is a weird suggestion from someone you don't even know.
Tell him no if it's your first date. Go on a normal date first, take a selfie with him and stuff, then if you feel safe with him you can go on a hike or something in your next date.
deeply weird, do not go.
Isnt it a good sign he let me run a background check on him since he thought I was nervous?
Sure it's a good sign but that doesn't mean you're good to go. You're clearly still hesitant and you should always listen to your gut. It's ok to take safety measures user.
ask to go with a group of friends if your nervous hiking alone
I would never do with somebody I do not know
even if he's NOT going to rapemurder you, he knows that you're both aware of the possibility that he might and is getting off on pushing your boundaries and making you scared
Idk feeling like prey even if nothing is gonna happen is still a really lovely feeling.
I know that's why it's a good move to ask someone like you out on a first date with a much older man to "literally the woods", it works on me too, I'm just saying, the guy knows what he's doing
it's annoying because there's obviously not a safe way to get that feeling
the only thing a background check proves is that he never got caught, which means if he is planning to kill and bury you he is very confident
lol...
Girl get your ass back to a public space where theres people around who can hear you scream
Im curious since I never date ever; do you guys actually go in the car of a random guy youve never met before? Sounds dangerous as fuck
Wtf no. Is this an American thing or something? I walk, ride a bicycle or take public transport and we’ll met up at the dating spot.
Ikr I just sold some stuff to a stranger the other day and I was terrified of it being a setup or something. Thankfully he looked like a very decent person.
I have, but I had a gun with me.
Go on a normal date instead of a date that's in a really weird location. Additionally, tell someone where you're going and with who and make sure he knows you told someone else - that'll stop him from doing anything stupid as if anything happens to you, he'll be the prime suspect
Never have a first date somewhere isolated, or even the second or third date. Men know that women don’t do that so I’m surprised he even suggested it
People on this board are all idiots, so you never know how many red fags they'll ignore
He knows op is a tranny and likely was never taught basic safety tips by mother/sister/friends/etc
I still think it’s more likely, that he’s simply a dork who loves nature lol. In my experience a lot of guys simply aren’t aware of the safety issues that women face when it comes to dating. That being said, actually going on a first date like that would be a crazy bad idea.
>believing there'd be a real investigation because a tranny got murdered
just don't do it OP