ive had really bad anxiety problems for most of my life, so i can only ever use grindr when i'm really drunk.
last time i used it i had conversation with some guys, but i passed out and left it unfinished without responding to anyone. im now scared to go on and update my profile now because i think itd be rude to these guys, but it was months ago that i talked to them briefly.
should i just make a new account or am i being insane about this?
thanks.
can anyone help me with this please?
Grindr is a meat market, centered around male socialization and behavior, nobody really cares about blocks and/or ghosting, they're an accepted part of the culture.
This is such a stupid thing to worry about and you're dumb for caring.
Anyone who cares that you dropped contact on the gey seggs app is a weird creep you should block.
ive had multiple crazy guys get mad and spam me because i didnt answer their messages, but i never even sent them anythingin the first place
i guess those were the crazy people
okay, ill keep that in mind thank you
>left it unfinished without responding to anyone
sounds like a typical grindr shit
>should i just make a new account or am i being insane about this?
you are beign insane about non important stuff, keep using it, block the guys, silence them, doesnt matter, keep calm and keep trying to talk with some people, a lot of them just want to fuck and are used to this kind of interrupted interaction, dont worry.
>ive had multiple crazy guys get mad and spam me because i didnt answer their messages
block them, you dont have to be worried with nobodies spamming you, fuck them.
Well you should really just block them then. Personally I block everyone and anyone I have no interest in pre-emptively, frees us a space for us both.
thanks, sorry i guess i just have really low self esteem and don't know what to do
but you people in this thread are helping
i dont think ive ever blocked someone on grindr before, what does that do? do they know i blocked them?
No you just don't show up on their app and vice versa, the last time I downloaded Grindr I had to block the first 3 lines as it was all guys I knew lol, so there's no point wasting that space on them.
oh i see
i never look at the spaces, i live in a big city and am MTF so my phone blows up for hours as soon as i open the app
i will have to block the scary crazy guys who keep messaging me and getting mad im not respinding
Oh, well your experience will be very different from the gay male audience it was designed for as you'll attract more crazy fetishists and weirdos. You should open the app and immediately block all the guys you have 0 interest in, get used to filtering.
it seemed rude of me to do that so i never have, but i guess thats just how it has to be.
im not experienced at all with anything, as you can probably tell, pre-trans i wasnt comfortable with sexual stuff because dysphoria so trying to figure this stuff out in mid 20s is a bit intimidating. thanks for being helpful
Wow, reading this I really feel for you
I remember being this anxious back in high school. Shit sucks it holds you back on a lotta things in life.
One day it'll be over though and you won't look back.
thanks user, it really does suck but its getting better.
>so i can only ever use grindr when i'm really drunk
Oh boy, tell me about it. 2 months ago I found like the sweetest guy ever on grindr just 7km away from me.
His profile said he was strictly looking for friends only, he had an Instagram account linked that showed him
playing drums, guitar, mountainbiking with school friends and whatnot. Well, I can be pretty manipulative I
guess so I got him interested in sex anyways. He said he didn't want sex on the first date though, said he's
tired, just had finish his final exams. So we would meet the next day at my place, watching TV, he would bring
LSD which was a bit of an wtf moment, but I liked his craziness. We shared nudes and my heart was beating
like crazy, this guy was fucking perfect. As I realized this was going to happen I got the worst anxiety ever, I
couldn't sleep all night, heart pounding, feelings of terror. Obviously I was not able to get back to him the next
day, absolutely futile. I could kill myself over this shit, needless to say after that I was depressed 4 weeks straight.
what?
>Grindr boy traded nudes with you
>brought acid
>didn’t sleep with him due to crippling anxiety
Yeah user you’re really the mastermind manipulator here.
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Well, I always look for guys who aren't promiscuous cause I don't want to catch the AIDS. One of the markers for that is somebody who doesn't even look for sex. It's not like I see myself as a mastermind or anything. But thanks for the reply, at least I could laugh about this story for a second.
what does that have to do with using grindr when drunk
Nobody fucking cares. I get ghosted mid conversation all the time when they actually look at my profile and realize I'm not what they want