>be me
>mtf stealth youngshit
>kinda malebrained, but all friends are women
>except for one
>have pooner friend
>pooner is extremely fembrained, all his friends are women too
>attracted to men but makes "ugh men" jokes
>dresses femininely, dyes hair, paints nails
>5'1
>is 19 but has the hobbies of a 14yo girl like ukulele, genshin impact, minecraft youtubers, and neopronouns
>extreme anxiety, needs trigger warnings for many things, can't drive and cries often
He's used he/him pronouns online since he was 15 and has been thinking of getting on testosterone since he turned 18. I don't think he'll be able to pass as male, and if he ever does, I don't think he'll be able to handle life as a man. How do I tell him this? He's very sensitive and thinks I'm a cis woman.
I don't think my friend should transition FTM
you're an asshole and not his friend. good luck
Remove yourself from your friend group
Lol. Many such cases
Idk what you can say. Maybe encourage them to seek out more masculine spaces irl like the gym or boxing or something
That's not your decision, faggot
That being said, you should have a heart to heart about gender roles and ask what specifically makes him dysphoric or feel the need to transition. You can bring up the fact that you transitioned to get closer and to better understand him
If you think he's completely delusional after that and just too childish then if you've ruled out autism, then you can give your inevitable "I told you so", but trying to actively stop him is a bad idea
he sounds autistic
someone has to break the world for him.
>How do I tell him this?
Does your friend seriously concider t? Maybe it's just a fantasy like Any Forumsacks imagining they'll be joining rwds, until they grow up and get bored with the idea. In that case just don't mention it.
But if you want to do something maybe unironically redpill your friend, bring up shitty aspect of being a man and so on.
if you think your psychopathic fears have an actual material connection to the real world you're the one who needs some kind of breaking. whatever that even means
What's a RWD? Rear-wheel drive?
Pooner defending pooner. OP’s pooner friend is living in a safe space and acts so feminine.
>I don't think he'll be able to handle life as a man
lol why not. life for humans in general is kinda cushy these days
Let the little oversensitive boy do his shit, stop mothering people, patronizing behavior is what get those people like that in the first place
He doesn't have a job (can't drive, lives with parents, anxiety) so can't go to a gym. He's also mentioned being scared of cis men when they're violent/angry.
>not your decision
I know that people transition even if others try to convince them otherwise, I just don't think he understands the reality of transitioning. Not in a "hrt gives you 4349847 diseases" way, but I don't think he understands that being a man isn't easy
>autism
He's self-diagnosed as autistic but I think he might be.
He mentioned being scared of it at first, then got over his fear and is now trying to find a way to get on T. He brings it up sometimes like
>when I get on T, I'll have a beard like (character)
>when I get on T, I'll grow out my hair
Just how sensitive he is. He's already had breakdowns from seeing online transphobia or overhearing people being transphobic in real life. I don't think he'll react better if that transphobia is directed towards him, or if he's assumed to be a cis man and is then expected to act like one. Feminine men (which he wants to be) are treated like shit.
Be blunt with him, just tell him what you genuinely think and let he deal with it, seriously
sounds like the average twitter trender. best thing you could do for him is tell him to stop getting involved with trans shit online, usually people like that have just been memed into it, and will end up as detransitioners
many twitter detransers talk about being autistic. hmm
Wtf. How is someone like that supposed to survive in the real world
RWDS stands for right wing death squad
frail and introverted cis men do exist, either he troons out and feels slightly more comfortable with himself or has to live the pathetic life of a repper. as long as you stay stealth to him any advice that sounds like steering him away from his desires is gonna be shrugged off, unless you open up to him about your past and have a serious discussion about the ins and outs of dysphoria and the complexities of transition
Idk how this person functions or why you're friends with them
It's gonna be a hard convo to have for sure. Emphasize that you're not trying to scare them away from transitioning, just say that you're concerned about their wellbeing while they transition.
Hell, maybe T can sort out his mental issues and he can be a well adjusted gay dude
Ignore him and laugh at him when he posts on detransdayofawareness next year.
Forgot to add, I don't think you have to come out to have that convo
Just let him do it. Don't out yourself. Don't discourage him. Don't encourage him either. If you say anything at all you'll just get a bad reputation and he'll do what he wants anyway.
stfu She is right about him maybe ruining his life. She'd be sacrificing her own social standing to try to "save" him. She's a good friend. Too good.
Friends are important. Anonnette just needs to not say anything about this so that she can keep harmony with the friends in her life even if it kinda hurts to see someone go down a path that probably won't work for them.
Just pretend to be a ftm repper and tell him he shouldn't troon because he's more feminine than you and you think you're too feminine to ever pass
shit advice, you either have no friends irl or are a sociopath here to encourage people to ruin their social circles
Whatever you do, do not reveal yourself to them if you’re actually stealth. Trusting even extremely close friends often eventually slips and outs you, let alone a partial friend. It is just not worth it.
insane amounts of transphobic cope brain damage in this thread. very impressive stuff
>Wtf. How is someone like that supposed to survive in the real world
They just sort of limp through life absorbed in fantasy. If they are a cis woman who likes children they can at least try to find a guy to marry them and support them but otherwise they'll work dead end jobs and play video games / read fiction / pick up little hobbies until they die.
You assume he'll be miserable because he has no chance of fitting in as a cis passing, normie man. That would be true if it was his goal (it clearly isn't) and if there was no alternative.
People like this, if they do transition, tend to just live in a bubble of visibly queer/trans losers on the fringes of society, and/or largely online, and in my experience they tend to be pretty content with that.
Also he'll probably never pass, but he'll never put in effort to either, because if he wears makeup and has long pink hair and a septum piercing no one's gonna expect him to act like a man anyway.
welcome to the life of women