>be a trans guy at a relative's birthday party
>everyone begs to not come because entire family is transphobic
>you think you're friendly with birthday boy, so you come anyways
>birthday boy (BB) has previously defended you from being hit by your father before
>start conversation with birthday boy
>"Yeah, don't get along with my father much because..." point at my beard and crotch (post op)
>conversation delves into me saying that father tried to hit me (and does frequently hit me) for being trans
>BB says "that's a good reason to punish you actually, there's nothing wrong with that."
>"You're not actually a guy, you're going to hell."
>"Just know you can always repent, everyone already accepts you as a female"
>"I care about you, I just don't want you to go to hell."
>I say firmly multiple times that this conversation isn't going anywhere
>admit I'm an atheist
>"What? You're fucking stupid. Just stupidity, That's a new low."
>BB walks away
>I leave quietly through backdoor because I don't even know what to do
>feel kind of betrayed and cry at home because no one in your family loves me
Dissapointment
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I genuinely feel like a complete idiot. I thought that he was trans friendly because he told my dad to not hit me a long time ago and I thought he knew why my dad hits me. I trusted him. I genuinely, really, really trusted him and thought he had my back. This happened a couple hours ago and I'm still upset.
I wish I could talk to someone about this but I'm fully stealth. Wanna out myself to a couple friends just to talk about it with someone but that feels like an irrational decision to make.
I just... I wish I could undo the past 6 hours.
Don't let people make you repress who you are. You're gonna face a lot of hardships in life because of being trans. But try not to give up, you obviously are doing what you're doing, because it's what makes you happy and feel better about yourself. Don't let your dad get away with hitting you and let him "win" by giving up on it.
It's disgusting that your family is trying to use religion to control you and threatening you with hell. Also....would coming out to friends be safe to do? don't do it on an impulse, because that shit is like opening a tube of tooth paste, you can't put it back in.
Hey man, I am sorry that happened to you.
I hope you can find some peace.
I don't know if coming out to friends would be safe because I don't know their thoughts on trans people lol, and I don't wanna get ANOTHER person who I thought was nice to me end up being an asshole so I'm gonna avoid outting myself, at least for the rest of today, maybe I'll think about it more tomorrow.
Thank you for the support
I'm gonna call trans lifeline later and if they give me the whole "sorry, there is no one available, please try again later" message like the last 10000 times I've called then I'm just gonna cry
that's awful, I'm really sorry
Maybe don’t go to someone else’s party and make it about yourself with sad stories. Also you were advised not to go. No one hurt you. They just don’t agree with your lifestyle. Your personality disorders prevent you from making rational decisions. Try to make smarter decisions in the future. Or continue on if you thrive on drama.
Welp, they gave me the "high call volume, please try again later" thing again.
Thanks for the support.
Should of drank their liquor and whiled out mang
Family can be the worse. If you're financially independent from them, just focus on your friends, on people who genuinely loves you. If not, I think you should try to be, to liberate yourself and be able to create a healthy distance with them.
I'm sorry this happened to you.
Yeah, I agree it was a stupid decision to go in hindsight, but I genuinely thought that BB was cool with me and would want me there because I've never had someone in my family stand up for me before and he did. I genuinely don't think I made it about myself or anything though. Literally was just alone on the deck, BB asked me why, I said because I don't get along with my family, and then HE started going into it lol, I tried telling him multiple times to just stop and that this isn't going anywhere. I should have just walked away, but I was honestly in shock.
They were shitty people, i hope you feel better soon user, this is rough. Stay strong
Well BB said they care about you. But he believes in a fake religion and you believe in the gender cult. Y’all are both out of touch with reality, but probably neither of you are bad people. Get buff and stomp your dad’s ass tho.
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Change my mind about what?
Buck honestly seems like the kind of transman I'd get along with. The rest, probably not. But that's not to say that I would agree with those "conseervatives" either, but that's another story.
This.
Your father is testing you. He'll start respecting you as a man once you can beat the shit out of him.
Genuinely the stupidest thing I've ever heard about my parents
im sorry, fuck unloving family