Post advice, stories, results, or just thoughts in general. I'll start:
> be me a couple weeks ago
> fed up with being alone so get on tinder
> in the first day or two match with a nice guy
> chatting some, we can meet up in a week or so once he moves into his new apartment in town
> he lets slip he's 6'5"
> praise be, it's a bonus round
> ffw 1 week
> i go over to his apartment and he's a little overweight but otherwise presentable
> cuddle a bit
> i suck his pp
> i go home
It was anticlimactic and after doing that I have a better idea of what I want. I want to find a bf, and I don't want to get sexual nearly so fast. This guy was pretty lame though, he made no effort to help me feel good and at one point he even said, "I don't want to, I'm selfish." Ew. In the moment I was just too turned on/distracted to realize he was a lazy, selfish prick.
Online Dating Thread
very degenerate sucking him off the first time you ever see him, but I guess you learned why not to at least
Part of me wants to be really sexy and whore-y like that but this helped me realize I want to be that way for a specific someone, not just be that way in general. I feel a little gross in retrospect but it was still an enjoyable experience aside from the guy being a loser.
i've had an okcupid for, i think, literally like 10 years. rarely use it, only ever met like two people from the entire experience. every time i log in, it's just a fucking wave of profiles that start like "sagittarius, infp, hufflepuff, blm, #acab. no terfs or swerfs." i'm talking. hundreds. i have maybe written what is exactly - letter by letter, word for word - the start to many profiles on that website which written in sincerity. hufflepuffs down in the last year or two since the whole harry potter debacle, though you'd maybe be shocked at the amount of okcupid faggots who have "reclaimed" harry potter. and by faggots i usually mean fat afabs, actually.
it's so frequently hufflepuff. i'd estimate 70% of the time. i fucking hate harry potter (and now hate that if i hate it openly, people think i'm seething about the author's terf bullshit, which i hardly care about), but god damn, if you like it, why the fuck *huffle-fucking-puff*??? how do you be PROUD of being INSANELY, UTTERLY BANAL. the other percentages are like 20% ravenclaw - aka "sapiosexuals" (okcupid allows you to actually put that as an identifier in your bio, look it up) - and like 10% slytherin, who are the only people who seem possibly worth liking that bother to mention that bullshit in their profile. gryffindor? none. i shit you the fuck not, i have seen hundreds upon actual, literal hundreds of mother fuckers list their house in their profile, but never a fucking gryffindor. not once. not one fucking time.
i've only ever met two people on the site in-person, one of which i've been friends with for like a year now who posts here (and became why i was interested enough to post here lol). i've been liked or messaged by a ton of people, but they're always deathly uninteresting, and i'm not interested in hook-ups or very much at all in sex which is all the other sites seem to be for.
Literally every (or most) guys/Tops dream is this. A nice normal girl/bottom until you get them in the bedroom at which point they're your own personal slut.
lmao that's hilarious, i feel bad for you
I haven't gotten on okcupid because I've heard the bot spam is super bad, and there a couple alternatives more trans-friendly.
what alternatives are trans-friendly that aren't just for hook-ups? i like to have an intimidatingly humongous profile about how i only want to talk to people who are confident about their identities and not totally cucked by society or having braindead obsessions with popular media
lmao, I made a Taimi account and it was the same
I made the mistake of adding "nonbinary" to my search because my friend found a qt tomboy there and it was just a cesspool of "nonconformists" who were all nonconforming in the exact same way.
honestly I almost feel like taking nonbinary off the search cus it's all just men who are too afraid to transition and like honestly, I do not have the time to babysit some hons transition
no matter how much you narrow the search, i feel like you find an inordinate number of creeps and turbohons. even lowered to just "trans women," there are a ton of people with full-grown beards and insane, sprawling profiles filled with insane rationalizations about "femininity." makes Any Forums look mentally healthy
I posted my discord tag exactly once on this board, precisely one other trans girl added me to become friends, now, a year and a half later, we're moving in together. lol
Bump for interest
>be me 1.5 years ago
>meet guy on tinder
>seems quite attractive, nothing too crazy
>nearly 10 years older than me but am willing to look past that cuz we have a similar vibe
>lives nearby so we decide to meet and have sex
>we hit it off well and become fwb
>see each other a lot and always have sex
>he's really great in bed and also works out in addition to being funny and smart and just generally quite based
>fast forward a year
>really starting to like this guy, love hanging out with him and always looking forward to when we can next see each other
>seeing him practically every week
>decide to ask if he would be interested in a relationship
>he grimaces and is all like "yyyyyeeeaahhhhh"
>says he is only interested in a relationship if he's certain it'll be his last
>alludes to having "high standards"
>continue to meet and have sex while desperately wishing he would catch the same feelings for me that I have for him
>looking for someone similar who would be willing to date me and coming up completely empty because I am an incomplete person with very little going for me and no sane man would waste his time on such a freak
>slowly realising that I'm going to be a miserable ugly tranny alone forever and there's nothing I can do
I hate my life sm I just want to be a cute girl and to have a bf. Those are the only two things I want in life. What did I do to deserve this existence?
beautiful
too late i already have it
so youre from Missouri, catanon?
i don't know if i can bring myself to use pick-up apps ; A ; i just want to meet cool friends, but am insanely particular. i've already got a lot so i guess i'm being greedy, tho
Yes, fuck me lol
Already gave that away in a friend finder thread though
Would appreciate if you didn’t share that though
And honestly I’ve embarrassed myself enough for today im just gonna head out and take the ban
LOL
dont worry your ip is safe with me
be more careful next time silly!
The stories in this thread make me too terrified of dating apps.
Being both too dysphoric for casual sex while also having a relatively low libido makes most dating apps really... undesirable.
Alternatives to the mainstream exist, but the concern there comes from eggs either looking to live vicariously through you or to steal your hrt.
I'm getting the feeling that the old fashioned grass touching methods of meeting people are probably better. But then you're having to deal with irl people not too keen on being with MtFs telling you that they're not interested.
I'm contemplating just some kind of platonic solution. Ultimately, if it was a choice between having to pick between casual sex scumbags looking for a quick fuck, but no interest in relationships, eggs looking to validate themselves through you and the last option, being really close friends with someone who won't abandon you...
I'd take the last option.
Even if all you get are hugs and a companion, a platonic relationship seems preferable to what the anons in this thread are seeing.
Does online dating even work if you don’t pass?
I've been on all sorts of dating apps for months and not a single decent person seems to want to hang out in person. The only ones that are down are the creeps and weirdos that just want a quick fuck. The people I do connect with honestly just seem like they want texting buddies, which I've got plenty of already.
What the fuck do I do? I'm so touch-starved and lonely but at the same time I don't just want to meet a guy/girl, fuck on the first meeting, then never talk to them again. Should I just start taking the initiative and asking if they want to hang out irl?