Is it true that basically you can only make friends in college as an adult and if you're over 22 and friendless you'll just be friendless for the rest of your life?
t. friendless 26yo tranner
Is it true that basically you can only make friends in college as an adult and if you're over 22 and friendless you'll...
Ethan Clark
Leo Sanchez
I think so, yeah. It's easy for me to be friendly or make acquaintances but they never go anywhere even after years.
t. friendless 27 yo tranner
Ryan Thomas
I can be your fren :)
Isaiah Wilson
Join a club. Martial arts or pottery or underwater basket weaving or something
Blake Torres
Yes.
Ian Butler
I guess in college most friends were made through clubs too, but clubs were just easier to find. I've always figured nobody cares to join clubs after college
Brayden Sanchez
Can you drop your discord?
William Gutierrez
oh no
its over for me
Cooper Walker
How old are you Persephone?
Henry Ward
idk I'll probably just go back to college at this point
maybe actually socialize now and have classes in-person, join a few clubs
as for making friends in a big urban city outside of school you're on your own there it's hard enough in uni already
Charles Fisher
34, lost most of my friends at about 23 after some hell drama while living at my parents in deep south thinking i would absolutely kill myself (and trying to, frequently). have a ton of friends, now, a few made shortly after that darkest moments and they're only getting stronger. i'm emotionally satisfied in ways i couldn't have even imagined possible and feel blessed beyond anything i could possibly put to words.
always be sincere, open, and honest with people. learn to love yourself and don't let people who put you down define you. maybe most importantly: stop giving a fuck about what is/isn't "cringe" or "normal" or whatever.
Caleb Rodriguez
Idk if it can even work when you are over 22, some say it will, but I think at college people are very insistent on only talking to people exactly their age so you might just be fucked that way
Charles Hill
20 turning 21 this summer
Jace Gomez
I am about to turn 22 in like a week so I can squeeze in a bit more maybe, lost my scholarship though so it'll be tight on that side.
No fucking clue maybe I'll just get a bullshit ass degree as fast as possible, land some bullshit ass IT job/internship and finally get away from my family. Not sure if it's doable given my mental health but what choice do I have. Wish I had my HRT still at the very least...
Ryder Butler
That sounds amazing. Can you add more about how you managed to get through it? It's not every day I see a nice story like this here.
Brayden Mitchell
yeah pretty much true i think. L
Chase Thompson
No, it just takes more effort. When you are in school, you are forced to interact with and socialize with other people. Once you're out of school, it's hard to meet new people. Get involved in activism. Great way to meet people who have shared life experiences and can be the basis of great friendships.
Levi Sanders
It depends. How do you plan on meeting people? If you have no clear way to meet new people you won't make many new friends.
Christian Ramirez
Yeah idk how to meet people
Asher Sanchez
the best way to make friends as an adult is to find a common enemy, honestly
Josiah Nguyen
www.meetup.com
Alexander Jackson
to begin, i should stress i was a totally unemployable hikoneet literally living in my parent's basement (my mother serially molested me most of my life, was transphobic, etc.). i was traumatized to the point that for several years after what had happened, i couldn't even walk to the mailbox by myself on most days without having a serious panic attack. numerous suicide attempts, self-harm, friends who abandoned me accusing me of bpd (a thing several therapists would later say i did not have), etc.
maybe the most important thing that got me through it was being enthusiastically interested in all my nerd shit in a completely vulnerable, transparent way that others found fun to gather around (no insecure, autistic fawning over sacred cows, just willingness to adorn robust love upon works where people gave a shit about art and expression and to criticize insincerity, overt irony, cynicism, and wanton consumerism). no amount of getting kicked in the head stopped me from reaching out and opening up, and my enthusiasm and desire to be what others couldn't for me (someone who doesn't abandon friends, who never accuses them of being too open, who is critical but not to wound, but rather to build) found me eventually in wonderful company.
i learned to forgive myself through forgiving others, and i learned to have boundaries by having them shown to me and trusting those who expressed them. i learned to tell the difference between productive criticism and petty hatred... all while sperging out over how much i love video games, anime, lego, whatever. i'm on disability, now, but pulled my best friend out of an abusive living situation and have been with her for 6 years. i even helped her go from near-dead to a sustainable career and a happy home. there have been bumps, hardships, etc., but i firmly believe anyone who can love anything - be it the most autistic, dumbass possible fucking thing - through the world coming down on them can "make it."