ok so im a straight stealth MTF in a online friend group of mostly cis girls but some cis boys right but like one of the only cis boys just came out... AS A TRANSBIAN. yea i know right i dont hate transbians or anything like contrapoints is one of my fave youtubers but like what do i do? i dont want to come out to her because she will just tell the rest of my friend group. she only ever talks about being trans and posts transbian anime memes and stuff and says sexual stuff about being trans and lesbian and like is it bad that i feel weird like i joined that friend group to feel like a normal cis girl but now that shes in the group and invited all her trans friends to the server its like its turning into a trans group like its so awkward for me since im trying to be stealth about being trans but im scared that they will give me away if they find out im trans like wtf do i do fml i hate this like i feel bad but its like so embarasing
Im a stealth MTF and someone in my friend group TURNED INTO A TRANSBIAN what do i do??
fuck with her obviously. you know all the little things to say to make her uncomfortable without thinking you mean harm. then he leaves your friend group “because cis people” and the threat to you being stealth is gone
Leave this online group and take your cis friends with you. No need to be around these transbians/rapehon weirdos.
yea maybe i dont know i just always try to be nice to people like in the server and i feel really bad about hurting her because shes still a trans girl like me and i dont want to seem transphobic also
Performative support, this is peak cis woman. Bonus point if you say slightly transphobic stuff behind her back
idk what to do like she was a big part of our friend group like the token "boy" for a long time before coming out as a transbian so it just feels weird to me
Just wait until the cis girls secede into a secret separate chat and invite you
yea i can try that i just really dont want to be mean its just like really annoying to me so maybe i can say that
yea they do have a secret group chat but im not in it yet im trying
when she complains about men being shitty to her say “welcome to womanhood. this is what you wanted, right?”
“you look so much like a girl”
“i dont think that top is good for your shoulders”
“your brow isnt right for that eye shadow”
“omg girl ill let you have my old shoes, does a size 8 womens work?”
Wow it must be so hard for you girl I hate it when troons come around and invade my stealth safe space stay strong baby girl you'll make it through xoxox
>not in it yet
They know.
yeaaa sometimes i do feel like i want to be like that like i dont want to be mean but yea maybe if i need to. but like im scared that my cis friends will like clock me now since ive sent pictures of myself and voice called them and im scared with all the trans people now that they will find out im trans or worse if the trans people find out im trans like im mostly just all quiet around them since im scared to be outed if they find out
lmao thank youuu
nah they know im autistic thats the reason but they dont know im trans since they say things around me they wouldnt if i was trans
Like what
Transbians are cool but man some of them can be so weird
Pretty much this. Act nice to her face, and be a crypto terf to everyone else. The only way you can tell if you pass is when cis people you're not out to start being casually transphobic around you again, since that's how they behave when they really don't think one of us is listening, but you can use this to your advantage to pass better if you're stealth by joining in or nudging the hate forward if trans people ever come up.
>nah they know im autistic thats the reason
wow rude
like some of them have said how awkward it is with the trans people now when it was just us and also like asking me things like if i did girl scouts when i was little and stuff or other things like that
yeaaaa i feel bad but...
some other people in my friend group feel weird about this to but like im really scared about them clocking me and i dont know i just dont like being mean
yea i am upset about that but like theres all this friend group drama anyway like some people dont like each other were all in the friend group but like were not all friends its like awkward
>but like im really scared about them clocking me and i dont know i just dont like being mean
It'll be okay. All you have to do is agree with them when they talk their own shit, maybe add just a little something they did that weirded you out to the conversation and let them take it all the way to transphobia from there.
Leave. The groundwater has turned sour.
>yea i am upset about that but like theres all this friend group drama anyway like some people dont like each other were all in the friend group but like were not all friends its like awkward
god I'm so fucking glad I'm an adult human male and don't have to deal with shit like this