How do I cope with the dysphoria that I get because I was never sexually assaulted?
How do I cope with the dysphoria that I get because I was never sexually assaulted?
i don't think what I feel about it is dysphoria. its more a mix of feeling like I'm not even worth enough to be raped and feeling guilty that i want to be a woman despite not having experienced any of the trauma women go through growing up. I hate myself
Youre still young, your dream might become true
you're still in the majority dumbass
Just get sexually assaulted? It worked for me
For tranners, the molested/non-molested ratio is way more skewed to non-molested. The reason why I was not molested is not because I'm in the 66% of women who don't get molested, but because I'm in the 99.9% of men who don't get molested
why are you thinking like this, tomoko’s way of thinking is supposed to be absurd
I was sexually assaulted but the guy wasn't much older than me how do I cope with the fact that he was around my age and not an old man?
A lad i was dancing with slapped my arse after he sent me with his card to get some drinks.
According to this survery, and many other like it, that's sexual assualt. Even if i liked it.
I did like it. Its still counted.
If you haven't been assaulted yet then you're probably just cis. 1/2 to 2/3 of trans people have been sexually assaulted or raped, so you're probably some sort of trender
I feel the same about my depression, I've never tried to kms so I feel like I'm not valid and that I'm just making it up. But my chosen sui method has like 99.9% chance of success, so if I tried, I wouldn't even be here to think about it. Weird way od thinking.
Yeah I feel this. Mix in the acknowledgement of how fucked up it is that you in any way could possibly be desiring such a horrible and toxic thing that every real woman would hate to have happen to her and it makes you feel so fake, and yet the fact that I've never experienced something that is so integral and core to how many many women see the world and paints how they interact with others acts as a further reminder that I don't really see the world through the same eyes as them. I never get that visceral fear of walking around alone at night, I'm never uncomfortable around a man just for him being a man. IDK if I ever will be.
Source? For the numbers for trans people and men?
Do you not go outside or something cause I can’t imagine not having ever been sexually assaulted
Haven't attempted YET don't worry user you'll get there i believe in you
Thank you! I hope I will too :3
lmao same
Do you people go outside? I've been homemoding since I dropped out of college
You really don’t want it anons. I’ve been raped a lot. It just makes your life feel awful. PTSD is truly a horrifying and debilitating mental disease and I would never wish it upon anyone, least myself.
While it’s happening the horror is so much that you try to deny it, dissassociate out, and forget. But your body remembers. I convulse as I feel him on me while I try to sleep. Interactions with new lovers become corrupted, as you burst into shaking terrible tears because you got touched in the wrong spot.
Seriously. You don’t want it. It’s ruins your life.
>It ruins your life
My life is already ruined, I'll not lose much. I'm not saying it's not awful though, I'm really sorry it happened to you.
Why am I sad that I'm now too old for having sex with an older guy to be statutory rape???
Like why am I so upset about it
I know, logically. I've heard the stories of survivors and all the logic in my brain knows it's a terrible thing to never wish upon your worst enemy. But my brain is broken and illogical and can't shake the feeling that there's just some integral part of womanhood that I'll never get. So much of feminist literature rests upon the inherent biological victimization of womanhood that I'll never experience, and sexual assault plays a part in that. I would never choose to be raped, that'd be utterly deranged (and wouldn't really be rape then if I consented, anyways), but it's just some deep part of me that will never understand until it undergoes that trauma.
I'm really sorry user, I'm not trying to trivialize the horrors you've lived through. You're incredibly strong for everything you do to move past it.
Women lie about rape
I like how there are so many mentally ill people on this board. It even makes me feel less alone.