>be me, early 20s boymoder >bicurious near the start of puberty but mostly into women >long history of hating myself for not being into men, wishing I was a straight tranny >lots of Grindr hookups pre HRT, usually cry >start having weird feelings towards guys after starting hrt >mostly sort of fem musicians I admire like Will Toledo and Ecco2k >start talking to this guy I met off Grindr >he’s actually really sweet and we have a lot in common >also very attractive and masculine >keep trying to meet up with him but always either get butterflies and make up an excuse or plans fall apart >start dating another trans girl >older, passes, exceptionally sweet, basically perfect >she asks me to be her gf >say yes >like her but not THAT into her >mostly just like the fact that somebody is into and cares about me >can’t stop thinking about the guy from Grindr >feel like I’d be happier with him and like I’d rather have a bf than a gf
what the fuck is wrong with me and what should I do
welcome to being in a relationship. The grass always looks greener on the other side. Learn to be happy with who you are with.
Christian Gonzalez
>feel like I’d be happier with him do you even know him? how often do you talk to him on grindr? what if he's on grindr all day when he's your bf?
William Bailey
we have each other’s phone numbers and we used to talk from time to time, but I haven’t heard from him in a while. I don’t know him super well but I could say the same thing about my gf.
Ian Wood
you're so obsessed with how you appear to others that you're making dumb selfish relationship choices and hurting people. what's wrong with you: you suck what should you do: grow a fucking spine and date people you actually like instead of using people so you don't have to be single, or so you look straight, or whatever.
what abt an open relationship ure transbians im sure u can talk it out dont tell me ure good christian girl lol watch some video essay on why monogamy or evil or some shit intellectualize ur way into converting urself to polygamy and have both of them a best friends transbian who u fuck with and an amazing masc top who fucks u until u bleed (CUTE)
Caleb Murphy
It's harder for you to accept your sexual feelings than your gender identity. See if you can accept yourself as attracted to men first, then examine your gender.
Lucas Long
i hope this is larp :(
Luke Martin
why?
Kevin Wilson
Her sexual feelings are her gender identity. Ever heard of autogynephilia?
Chase Martinez
Because otherwise it's kinda sad.
Nathaniel Ramirez
sad why? she's just confused
Christian Garcia
I hate this so much because it's so shortsighted. Just because someone's gender identity intersects with one's sexuality doesn't mean one is the cause of another, or that one is another. A person's gender is larger than their sexuality, and their sexuality is larger than their gender.
Hunter Reyes
>one is the cause of another, or that one is another. In this case it does mean exactly that though.
Nolan Edwards
I cannot see how but ok.
Charles Moore
The MtF's sexual attraction to women is inverted so she wants to be a woman herself. Her orientation directly causes her transsexuality.
Aiden Cruz
>sexual attraction to women is inverted Is there any sort of explanation on the mechanism behind this alleged psychological process? And how does this apply to op anyway?
Henry Hill
god I fucking hate trannies for shit like this. stay with your stupid girlfriend and leave me alone.
Connor Rodriguez
stop flirting with her on grindr then!
David Wilson
It's called an erotic target location error. Sexuality combines what sort of person you're into and what you desire of them. For the MtF, what she desires of them is to be one.
OP is transitioning because of this attraction but she also wanted a girlfriend, because she knew she had some form of attraction to girls and was taught that attraction to girls means you should date one.
But her attraction isn't that kind of attraction. She needs to be a girl herself, not be with another girl.
Samuel Barnes
checked. I deleted everything but we still have each other’s numbers and I still occasionally check her twitter >.
