I tried to cure myself from the disease, but four years have passed since when I realized I was trans and felt ok about it.
I always was into crossdressing and I passed really well before the facial hair ruined it for me. After that I was in constant denial and seeked relationships with women only, but the thoughts never went away.
I am crushed to death and since last month I can't even concentrate on anything besides the thought that I might lose my last chance to be young and transgender.
Unfortunately for me I have a partner I deeply care about, a bisexual cis girl, who I am really afraid to lose because of my gender disphoria.
What should I tell her? I feel so heartbroken that I am genuinely seeking good advice from Any Forums.
She is not against having a relationship with a transgender girl and I know that for a fact (she told me), but I feel that it would be totally different if her boyfriend suddenly talks about transitioning and shit like that.
Sure she would be supportive, but will there ever be a chance she might stay with me?
This is why you should warn your partners that you’re a repressor!!
Justin Foster
For the sake of the discussion I am very femenine looking (think of any korean boyband like BTS and how they all look) but also south european, where sexual dismorphia is greater than asia. With the mandated mask law in action I was misgendered many times
Daniel King
I’d dump you on the spot.
t. cis passing trannoid
Brody Sullivan
this is why you should never repress
Gavin Wright
You partner is bi and has explicitly said she’d be cool with a trans girl, doesn’t get better than that. I think that if she really cares about you, she’ll support you, and that no matter how she reacts that you really should just bite the bullet. The best time to transition is yesterday, second best is right now. Best of luck, user
Thanks for your kindness. I think I will wait for her life to be a little better since she has issues right now. I don't want to add another thing on the pile of crap she is living. But eventually there is no place to hide, I just feel so bad that it will ruin our relationship.
Np, you deserve some kindness :) I really do think your gf will support you. You being trans is not a personal failure and you’re not doing anything but being honest. Still, I understand that it’s scary. I hope that you get to be super cute with your gf, op :333
I really do hope the same. To be completely honest this became a problem very recently because I was already on some hrt regime, but she didn't know.
That was working out well, I never felt happier until she noticed two small bumps under my nipples. I had not the courage to tell her what it was, so now I gotta go to the doctor to see if that's something to concern about.
I know what those are, but I lied to her. I already know the doctor I chose to go to will tell me it's gynecomastia or something like that.
I stopped my medications and now I cry almost every time I see my reflection on a mirror, something that never happened before.
I realized I can't stop hormones for her, which made me really sad and depressed.
Noah Torres
have you considered, like, leaving her? and getting a boyfriend instead? he wouldn't mind I believe
John Parker
My dysphoria tells me I could and I should do that, but at the same time I don't want to leave her .
In the long run dating guys will not be funny anymore and I will die alone
Really weird in general seeing male chasers push/imply that trans-accepting cis girlfriends cant possibly exist. I know why they do it but it's so scummy. Follow your heart OP, limiting yourself to one gender for dating by convincing yourself that only that gender will accept you is honestly very silly.
Jackson Foster
Yeah I don't even care about dating anymore if I were to loser her I would date guys because i find it more gender affirming.
But I want to keep her honestly.
Jaxon Jones
it happens more than you might think, this sort of thing working out how you want, but if she wont accept you she does not love who you are she loves what you are
its never as cut and dry as that but to a point some element like that can be what tips a scale
do not repress for gf, my gf did that for years with her ex and she still deals with how much that hurt her and set her back
you'll be single and if your trannerflu isn't just about getting your dick hard and you're actually a fucking girl you shouldn't care either way. Your girl is dating a guy, period. Shes not going to be interested in not being the sub anymore
Easton Perez
I came out to my gf after we got together and its made us closer than ever OP if this is who you are you need to tell her and sooner rather than later talk through your feelings, tell her how you tried to deny it to yourself and how scared you were of telling her
if she loves you and you love her you can make it work good luck OP!
Joseph Roberts
I'm at the grocery store and crying right now because of this.
Many many thanks, how did that work out for you? We are kinda in a similar spot so I want to know a little more to help me.
I still think I got to wait a couple months because if she wants to dump me at least she will be in a better position and will less likely do something stupid and get depressed.
Adam Ortiz
reminder people scream and call us groomers when we tell obvious repressor retards like OP to transition instead of trying to man up by hooking with a girl and fucking her life up too
Wyatt Hill
Troon out, better now than later. Beside, you are retard too for repressing. Love isn’t forever nor exclusive, trooning out before you are too fucked is
Julian Rivera
I didn't know any better at the time. I thought I was crazy and maybe these thought would eventually disappear.
But in 2020 during quarantine I spent more time alone and a guy introduced me to Any Forums where I found a lot of trans people pictures. That lead me to look for more and more and the only thing that still stops me to troon out at this point is my relationship with her.
Many many times I asked myself one question: later in life would you rather be an old man or an old woman? I still don't know the answer but the more I thought about it the more I'm leaning toward the woman side. Especially now that I stopped taking the pills, I can't really think straight anymore.
I thought stopping hormones would stop changing me and revert me back to my past self, but honestly I don't think I want it. I want to embrace the changes and I have never been this honest with strangers in my life before
Jaxon Richardson
my gf really worked it out before I told her as she could tell I was uncomfortable at times shes pretty laid back, and said she was open to dating trans girls before hand
you dont need to be scared, just be as honest as you can and she'll understand beginning my transition with her has been the best time of my life and you'll be glad you told her
