So my long-time girlfriend "used to be" a lesbian. She's still a hyper feminist, with a negative history with men (much latent anger) we've been together for many years. But virtually dead bedroom after the first 18 months, because she finds being "the catcher" in a Cis relationship to be "demeaning" ( dosent like to give head, in fact seems to expect missionary pipe laying as a default) as a middle-aged man, this makes life very difficult, as my "fat old man dick" requires regular oral intervals to work ok during sex. Also, she thinks that 9nxe i bust a nut, its done and she gets prissy because I haven't yet boned her. In my earlier life experience, a round of oral is simply a warm-up for the session. I've got one last shot to re-boot our sex life this weekend....any strategies on how to make a break-through?
We're both fully grown middle aged adults, in a very long term relationship, so please don't think this is about converting or pulling a gay girl into a CIS relationship...I'm trying really hard to keep our non-traditional relationship from going down in flames. Also, I'm a sperg, please give helpful suggestions...
Teaching CIS sexual interaction to Ex-lesbian girlfriend
what do you think cis means user
what do you think cis means
OP, what do you think cis means, exactly?
My understanding is that cis means "traditional gender roles" basically. Please don't skewer me on semantics, I'm just a nice regular old guy trying to have an ok life, looking for help.
cis means theyre not trans user
your question is difficult to understand
O I c. I'll rewrite my post in hopefully a more correct way. Much thanks.
That is not at all what it means, the word you're looking for is 'straight,' or possibly 'heteronormative.' Cis is short for cisgender/cissexual, which means a person is and identifies with their birth sex and assigned gender. As to advice, have you considered viagra???? That and consider like, actually spending more time getting her ready to go; hand sex, eating her out, etc. Heck, give her an orgasm that way BEFORE you fuck her.
can’t cum to this level of autismposting user
>so please don't think this is about converting or pulling a gay girl into a CIS relationship
Why would I think that? All you've described is a heterosexual relationship. The only thing that suggests it's not is that she claimed to be a dyke when she was younger, probably because of her man-hating issues.
I'm not sure what advice to give you. It sounds like you don't communicate well and that she doesn't like sex because she finds it humiliating.
I can sort of relate. I would find giving blowjobs and getting fucked humiliating if i was only ever on the receiving end.
I guess you could try letting her peg you. I'd be wary of this though if she has a lot pent up anger and might feel like she's taking revenge of sorts and gloating about and rubbing it in your face afterward.
Common interpersonal sexuality
Oh, I'm absolutely in this camp, but she even gave me shit about that (I'm actively trying to talk to her about this) she's like, "oh, you just want to get me off so you can then get yours." This is weird to me, since I'm thinking "foreplay" but she seems to think sex is at best 1 orgasm each and its over. Hell, I didn't know what a quickie was until I was 35 dating a 43 year-old divorced milf.
you are mistaken
Oh, its no claim, she was in an 8-year (mostly dead bedroom) lesbian relationship, ending a year before we met. I actually like her ex-girlfriend, she's a really cool dude (and I mean that in the most complimentary way)
And no, she's not pegging me, ever. The never ending ball-busting I get with the general gate-keeping (denial of sex via headache ets excuse) is nearly too much to bare, getting poked in the ass with a dildo sure as hell isn't going to do the trick.
is she ok doing oral for a few minutes as a warm up? did you try asking her to just do that, not to suck you to completion or anything?
if she hates it too much even for that, just get online dick pills to stay hard
>she seems to think sex is at best 1 orgasm each and its over
Isn't it though? I've had plenty of straight cis sex and this was how it went 9/10 times.
Jesus fucking christ people, the overlap with Any Forums really shows.
OP just delete the thread and repost with the right terminology.
No, in all my past serious relationships, sex is generally a drawn out activity, like a couple rounds at least. I'm pretty competent manipulating the female body to orgasm via oral, digital, toys (kinda lame) and even *gasp* with my average sized peen. I'm happy to eat out at home er day. Maybe my cunningligual skills don't match that of a veteran pimp-stud-dyke, but I've always been good for multiple orgasms via tongue an thumb.
There's just so much excessive baggage with my girl, and being older, I need a degree of understanding/collaboration that wasn't required when I was youngdumbandfullocum.
>I'm just a nice regular old guy trying to have an ok life, looking for help.
Why the fuck did you come here of all places lmao
I'm asking here. Because I assumed there might be some folks familiar with the perspective of a hyper-feminist (political lesbian?) That might give me some insight. The old codes I have from life of standard heteronormative relationships just don't check out in my current year scenario.
I gotta ask OP. How old is she? And what is her cultural background?
real boomer thread
op i recommend couples therapy