I'm a straight tranner. My 5 year anniversary was not even a month ago, and now it's over.
Again the same reason as all the others. He wants to bear a child with a cis woman. Does he want to follow up on my sister donating an egg? No, now that it's something I asked her and she's contemplating, it's off the table. Surrogacy/fertilization with a donor egg is over $100k (not impossible, but damn). He's incapable of voicing his own thoughts sometimes. After 2 days of constant fighting I have to guide him like a therapist through what he's trying to express to me...
Well, almost exactly one year ago he saw his dreams. His subconscious yearns for children, borne from a pretty, anonymous-faced cis woman. I had to work it out of him. "What do you want?".. "Both" he says.
I ask explicitly which comes first: The thought of this anonymous woman being the mother, or me. Finally he admits it, I'm the afterthought. I'm the thought he has out of guilt. I'm not his subconscious desire or dream. I am his guilt and his pain.
I only wish that it had lasted 2 months instead of 5 years. All the other men I've been with are able to reach that conclusion very early. Fine. They realize they want children with her genetics. Fine. At least they never led me on. They didn't waste five years of my 20s. They knew what they wanted.
I did. 7, actually. I've had the same exact experiences as OP. Guys who think they're okay with a tranny gf, who deal with their own ticking clock. Except it's more delayed and less intense than for cis women, who obviously have a very short window at a specific point. I'm almost 40 now, and I think the only hope will be if I happen upon an open minded single father.
Andrew James
OP here
I think it's rather you help these men during their low-point. They get better, you build them up, and they grow. And then they're better, ready to fuck a cis woman! :)
I guess the only option is to lock it down with a demented freak of a man who is perma-broken. Great.
Parker Edwards
Absolutely. All the guys I was ever with are doing better than when I met them. You invest yourself, encourage them to pursue their dreams. They finally make something of themselves. And what's the reward for that? Happily ever after? No, no it's not that. It's a cold goodbye.
Andrew Sanchez
>tfw this is most likely my future what can we even do?
