Hi bros
I don't know how to say this, but today me and my family were re-arranging the house since we have to move out. We were almost done, but then my dad came back from work and started screaming at us (me, my brother and my mom) that we've been doing everything wrong, we're useless etc.
Can you cheer me up bros, please?
Hi bros
Did your dad explain why he was so grumpy? Or is he always like that?
He's always like that
He always puts the blame on us all, but never on himself
Like, we moved all the boxed stuff in the attic, since we have to move out because we need to change the whole house's floor (it's getting old, it wasn't a good floor and it started decaying).
We've been doing this thing for over a week, maybe even two. He never helped us with anything except one day where he started bringing some books in the attic. That's it. The other days he went jogging and hang out with friends. Me, my brother and my mom literally boxed and moved all other stuff.
Tomorrow the builders will come to destroy the floor, but my father's priority seems like if we did not store the stuff in the right way, even if he never bothered to check what we were doing.
I'm a bit sad too, because he made me feel like i'm useless, even tho I always helped my mom and my brother to bring the stuff in the attic or put in the boxes the stuff.
I’m getting evicted too. Sucks user. Understand the stress he feels
Burnt hamburger with kraft single on it. Didn't read
Here’s my cade, user
It's not literally eviction, I used that pic to express my emotions and the fact that we need to leave the house.
but still, he shouldn't be stressed at all.
He does literally nothing except going to work and go jogging in the afternoon.
He doesn't even have a stressfull job. Since my father is now "old" (59 yo) he was given a job where he has to move a few things around the screen, insert some codes that he has been given via email, and hit the confirm button. That's it. And my father finds it a "hard job". He gets something like 1300 euros or 1600, can't remember rn. I even did a day of work for him, and it was easy as fuck.
>inb4 small work but still stressful
My brother is a dev, he takes 1200 euros a month and sometimes he doesn't even go to sleep to meet the deadline. My brother cooks by himself, goes shopping for his stuff, pays for himself etc.
My father, instead, can't even find his panties after he took a shower. He doesn't know how to make tea (yeah, he can't even boil water), but the moment you try to help him or even if you fail to do so, he'll start screaming at you saying stuff like
>I have to do everything around here
>The next time i'll do it by myself
>Shut up, you don't know how to do this, that etc
And when he tries it himself but fails, well, it's even worse.
>This is all your fault
>Why the fuck did you have to do that (even when nobody did something)
>Yada yada yada
I don't know what to do. My mother says that we should just leave him and go somewhere without him, but I don't really know what to do.
I'm sad :(
That's a bummer, user. It's always hard when a family member is an asshole. All I can say is, don't let him get you down, you know what you're capable of and all you need to do is put your plan into action.
Hey user, I feel the same way, my dad is also pretty hard to get along with, my parents divorced when I was younger so, whatever. My dad has a similar anger streak over small shit like crumbs on the floor and says similar shit, I feel you. I feel you hard. However shit does get better.
I recontextualized my relationship with my dad as I got earlier and used it as a blueprint to learn attitudes I had similar to his, so I could deal with them.
Maybe you can do the same thing?
Hope all get's better
Sincerely
K.J the spirit shaman and a concerned user/fren
Thank you so much for the cute images
These make me feel somewhat better :)
And also thank you so much for the support. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I hope things will get better for everyone.
And again, thank you for the morale boost!
Have you tried being over 18?
This. MODS
Rock hard and ride free, bro.
I turned 18 in march
I tried arguing with my dad once, but it didn't end well.
The main problem is that I care too much and he doesn't. I get emotional too fast and too much, so I can't really make a straight arguement against him without ending up crying. My inhibitors are fucking trash.
Also he has a low but extremely loud pitch of voice, so you can't really talk over him.
Thanks fren :)
Things will get better fren. Take solace that you at least have a family.
Trust me, leave with your mom and brother. Sounds like y’all deserve better and he’s a complete faggot.
Your father feels like a failure, and rather than address those feelings it easier to outwardly blame others.
Don't take it to heart user, you've done the best you can given the circumstances. Your mother is right. If she has the courage to leave his abusive tendencies the best thing you can do is support her is allow her to follow through and leave. You will all be so much happier without that negative energy always looming and waiting to get yelled at.
Given some space and the ability for you all to be self-sufficient without him, you can perhaps try to revisit your relationship with him down the line. You sound very young (perhaps even slightly below 18, but don't confirm to get banned) and so you need time to figure out who you are without this kind of person controlling your development.
You having an emotional reaction to this is normal and expected. Here is all I can do to help. Flow chart
>If your dads just like this now
Hes stressed, moving is hard. Nothing to do with you
>if hes always like this
He has severe emotional problems. Nothing to do with you.
In the latter situation i would say get him tf out of your life. You cant live like this.
18 and still with your parents? Get a job you fucking loser
Love you, OP.
In todays economy i wouldnt judge 18 yesr olds if they never moved out.
Im 34. When i was 18 moving out was viable. Now? When young apprentices come through i advise them to stay as long as their parents can tolerate.
It fucking sucks out there man.
Get a real job you pussy. Mcondalds isn’t a real job.
Don't sprrybid. Odds are you'll outlive you dad and probably make more money than he ever will.
I know you’re trolling but what fucking real job” is an 18 year old supposed to get
Pretty wise for a faggot
Start a business, mow some lawns, pressure wash some houses. I started working when I was 17, bought my first house at 18. Now i’m 67 and own 4 properties, a boat plus over 800k in my bank account.
Money won’t come if you don’t think, lazy whiney bitch.
Werent houses worth only 15k back then?
Kill him in his sleep trust me it'll be so funny