>be gay ftm >hanging out with new friends with my (cis) bf >the topic of sexuality comes up and someone asks my bf what his sexuality is >he replies: "Uhh, idk, I guess I'm bisexual." >didn't say anything at the time cause there were people there, but this struck me as odd since when I met him, he said he was gay >ask him about it later >he says he thought he was gay, but then he met me and he guesses that means he's not completely gay, after all >we have a back and forth and argue about this, all the while I'm struggling to hold back tears >feel completely betrayed that all this time, he didn't actually see me as a man >at one point, he gets exasperated and says: "Look, I literally cum in your pussy. If you tell me that's gay, I don't know what to tell you." >can't hold back tears anymore. tell him to gtfo and cry myself to sleep I can't stop repeating those words in my head over and over. It was like a knife in my heart. I don't think I've ever heard something that made me want to kill myself as much as that did.
I have like 20 missed calls from him. I don't even know how to reply, honestly.
you type like a woman you'll detrans sooner or later
Lincoln Long
why do you do this? like, honestly just why? am I not crushed and humilated enough for you? do you want me to be literally dead?
Nicholas Hall
a) of course its bisexual. Queer theory and porn has lied to you. Gay men are homosexual. Homosexual men are not sexually aroused by vaginas. b) its no surprise he treated you in such a way - he is a bishit. Bishits also often change their label, sometimes saying they are gay, sometimes even simultaneously saying shit like 'Im gay, but also bi, you know?' - literal thing a guy said to me.
Jaxon Richardson
why would he do this? why would he lie to me like this? and why reveal it to me in the most painful way possible?
Daniel Jenkins
Bisexual men are sociopaths. Gay men know this, now I guess its gaydens time to learn it too.
Ian Torres
because he is a confused cisoid who doesnt see you as a real man. a guy I was dating did the same "maybe I'm bi" shit but because I'm a trans woman with no self esteem and so much internalized self hatred i just accepted it because it was what my insecurities were telling me anyway. it still hurt but when you always assume the worst, it's harder for you to be devastated.
Gabriel Foster
im so so sorry this happened to you, thats awful he knows what he did you're such a horrible fkn person
Hudson Brooks
This is why I think straight FtMs are more ok with their girlfriends calling themselves bi or even lesbian. It implies that the FtM is at the very least being perceived as a butch lesbian, and there is indeed some amount of masculinity there.
If you date a guy, you run the risk of being perceived as literally just a woman getting fucked by a man, which is honestly the worst thing of all.
Even if you stick to strictly topping/pegging men, they will self-identify as bi. Everyone you date will be bi, but you can come to make it feel less important if you only top women
Carter Robinson
This is what you get for not being t4t. Cis gay men hate ftms. Female spaces have begun accepting trans girls, but there's never even an ounce of that love in gay male spaces for ftms. It's not happening except when chasers want to try pussy.
Drop him. If dating a trans man is his bisexual awakening, he clearly sees you as a woman and you deserve a man that sees you as the man you are.
bi ftm
Angel Evans
>straight FtMs are ok with their girlfriends calling themselves lesbian which is the worst kind of trans brainworms. it just screams no self-esteem.
Sebastian Evans
gay men are not attracted to vaginas, mr. gayden this is so obvious and common knowledge, im not really sure what else to tell you
no one who is knowingly attracted to a tranner is 100% straight or gay bis are the only people who give us the time of day
Christian Ramirez
Then why is there so much more cis gay and ftm porn done by mainstream gay porn actors, but virtually none of cis men and transwomen? All the guys doing that ID as bi and do bi porn as well.
Ryan Clark
You don't speak for every gay man, Miss Jean. Personally, I wouldn't do piv sex with a trans man, but I wouldn't mind fingering. I'd still see him as a man, just a guy with an extra hole. It also depends on how masc he is, though. If he's a chubby pubestache ayden, then... yeah, there's a problem. But I would never do the kind of shit his boyfriend did anyway.
OP, break up with him. He's a shithead.
Jose Mitchell
Newsflash: It's because they ID as bi even when trans men are out of the equation. Gay men see us as just a way to explore vaginal sex, which some see as better than anal because shit doesn't come out of the self-cleaning pussy. At best they see us as deformed men in quotes. That's not acceptance. We're all straight girls with a gay porn fetish to them.
Dylan Stewart
>not all gay men hate vaginas! >lol i would never do piv sex btw >eh i guess i would stick my finger in one idk uh okay, thank you for proving my point you kind of sound like a creepy chaser of ftms btw
Jonathan Bailey
>"Look, I literally cum in your pussy. If you tell me that's gay, I don't know what to tell you." imagine taking this shit seriously lol
Brayden Nelson
I think he’s confused about liking masculinity and liking pussy and dick. Maybe you could work through this?
Cooper Torres
Do you have top surgery
Wyatt Campbell
In what way am I a chaser? I gag when I look at a pussy, but if I willingly decided to date a trans man, that'd be the line wrt things I'd do to his vagina. I'd never humiliate him publicly like OP's boyfriend did. It's okay if you're a virgin and don't know how communication between partners works.